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RE: What's up with the word Switch ???? - 1/4/2008 5:06:11 PM

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I've come round full circle with the word switch...
I see it as just a word... but as a label, I see it as a point of contention in that I often mean something else outside of what people care to term as "switch" for me.
On that basis, I feel the word switch as others have often used it to apply to me - doesn't (apply).

But now a days I have more confidence.
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RE: What's up with the word Switch ???? - 1/4/2008 6:28:17 PM

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Switch,swich n A small flexible twig or rod

Yeah, that's me!! Something to hit you with!!!

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RE: What's up with the word Switch ???? - 1/5/2008 1:12:05 AM

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I know some people love to label eachother..

I believe this is about the intollerance

which I see in the Bdsm...

And it's just a shame,

because Wwe should focus on the things

Wwe've in common instead of biting eachothers head off..

Is My opinion.

But apparently that's too much to ask sometimes.

Thank You for responding

Have a Great day

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RE: What's up with the word Switch ???? - 1/5/2008 9:59:14 AM

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So we are all agreed then that switches are switches?

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RE: What's up with the word Switch ???? - 1/5/2008 11:02:30 AM

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Wwe so do !

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RE: What's up with the word Switch ???? - 1/9/2008 8:13:52 AM

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My definition of "switch"...Think of a harem...there is always a head mistress. She tells the others what to do, keeps order, enjoys her own accompaniment of slaves. This doesn't mean she doesn't enjoy being with her master. In the same way, I don't switch with my subs but if I happen to come across a truly dominant man (doesn't happen often) I will gladly fall to my knees. The truth is that I love the world of bdsm...always have...all of it's aspects. To limit myself to just part of it...why? To me it's the ones who won't even try the other side who are sad. This lifestyle gives you so many options and yet so many people limit themselves even here.

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RE: What's up with the word Switch ???? - 1/10/2008 6:10:30 PM

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For me, I ask the question: why eat only vanilla or chocolate icecream, when you can have neopolitan?

I'd never want to limit myself to just playing one sport, or only reading one type of book, or always eating the same thing; why would I want to limit my sexual expression when I enjoy it all?

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RE: What's up with the word Switch ???? - 1/10/2008 7:47:34 PM

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I think switching is fine. If both ends of the spectrum get you off, that ups the odds of getting moist. But I am one of those who tops, or bottoms, but does not switch.
I see the difference as one of intent and reaction.
I top to make people happy. I top to give someone what they might need.
I do not top because it makes ME wet, happy, or aroused.
It pretty much does nothing for me except make me enjoy seeing my partner fly.
I don't get off on power.
I don't get hot from topping.
I do it as a service and nothing more.
Even though I do have a sadistic side, that part is generally reserved for times I am frustrated and tense, and is better served by my getting into a fight, than spend it on people I like.
Switching is great.. and definable for me, by intent and reaction.
My intent is to please. My reaction is just contentment that I have made someone I love, happy.
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RE: What's up with the word Switch ???? - 1/14/2008 8:29:31 AM

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switch - the big deal behind? i've no idea, for those who say i've nto made up my mind or decide to choose, i'm sorry but your wrong, i'm quite happy, content, and overjoyed being both dom and sub as i and my partner/s seem fit when we play, just like being bi, i'm sorry for those who don't get it, but i have made up my mind, i simply want both

its just a word, a label to small to express what most of us feel, but works in a pinch, or without other options, and words as anythign else only have the power you give them

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RE: What's up with the word Switch ???? - 1/14/2008 9:03:18 AM

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I got in to all of this about four years ago, and from day one I have seen and heared so many negative things being associated with the word "switch" that I don't know if I will ever get past that to the point where I can call myself such. I enjoy both sadism and mashochism, to about the same degree. I can top or bottom in a scene, depending on the partner I am with. There have only been two that I have been able to submit to, and two or three that I have connected with enough to be Dominant with. And since the power dynamic, and the give and take with it, is what I enjoy the most, it is rare that I will engage in activity without clear Dominant/submissive roles having been established. To me, it is possible to feel and be secure in both roles, and to enjoy both giving up control and having control given to me, as long as the partner is the right one for me to be with. Since it is easier for me to be in a Dominant role, I avoid the word switch by saying I am a Domme who will submit to someone I connect with that way. And I feel lucky to have found that connection twice.

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RE: What's up with the word Switch ???? - 1/17/2008 6:33:27 AM

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I've read some rather enlightening post on here. I have to say I agree with most on the meaning of a switch. My question is why someone I have nothing to do with would have a problem with my being a switch?

Am I indecisive? No! I simply enjoy the best of both worlds. Whether I top or bottom depends on my mood at the moment and the person I'm with. If I feel the person I'm with is superior to me I easily submit. If I feel the person I'm with is inferior to me I easily dominate.

Does all of this mean I don't know my place in a scene? Hahahaha! Gotta love ignorance. When in a scene I am totally into my role. I get off on the high associated with being dominated. I so enjoy pleasing my master/mistress and knowing he/she is pleased.

Do I try to take control of the scene? Absolutely not! I will not submit to a Dom/Domme I do not trust to respect my limits and take care of me physically, mentally and emotionally. Period!

When I am with a submissive I easily take control. Do I allow them to control me? ROFLMAO! You've got to be joking! I rather enjoy the endorphines released while watching him/her enjoy pleasing me. I so enjoy power and control.

Am I confused about my position in life? LOL. Pure ignorance is what I say. As someone else also said; I guess being a switch is akin to being bisexual. I get to enjoy the best of both worlds. Be happy for me and move on.

If you're a top and I respect you enough to play in the LS, have no fear.....I know my place! If you're a bottom and I choose to enjoy you....you will know your place!

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