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parttimehotty -> Referrals anyone? (1/7/2008 7:33:13 AM)
Hello all! i'm in the Washington, DC/MD/VA area and am having a hard time finding a SINGLE Dom and was hoping my brother/or sister subs could recommend someone they've met in these areas but for whatever reason didn't click but would have no problem referring the Dom to someone else. i met on dom on here in my area, but W/we weren't the right match, but i have no problem referring him to others. Thanking you in advance.

mnottertail -> RE: Referrals anyone? (1/7/2008 7:35:39 AM)
Have you ever thought about taking it full-time? Just curious, Me

parttimehotty -> RE: Referrals anyone? (1/7/2008 7:40:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Have you ever thought about taking it full-time? Just curious, Me ?? Sorry? Taking what full time?

mnottertail -> RE: Referrals anyone? (1/7/2008 7:41:23 AM)
being a hotty

Jeffff -> RE: Referrals anyone? (1/7/2008 8:12:28 AM)
Ron, Ron, Ron......if she went full time.....anything over 40 hours would be time and a half......... not to mention benefits.........it would be cost prohibitive BeanCountingDom

RCdc -> RE: Referrals anyone? (1/7/2008 8:39:15 AM)
References are pointless IMO. How do you know that the s-types you are asking for a referals from are trustworthy? You are asking a bunch of strangers to refer a stranger? And posts like this are kind of known as trolling. Which is why you aren't getting positive responses. CM is used for finding a partner - play or other - CC is a discussion forum. Hope that helps. the.dark.

parttimehotty -> RE: Referrals anyone? (1/7/2008 9:22:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark References are pointless IMO. How do you know that the s-types you are asking for a referals from are trustworthy? You are asking a bunch of strangers to refer a stranger? And posts like this are kind of known as trolling. Which is why you aren't getting positive responses. CM is used for finding a partner - play or other - CC is a discussion forum. Hope that helps. the.dark. True but i thought i'd give it a shot. i'm definitely not a troll. If i had rec'd a referral from someone on this board that has a "good reputation", i'd definitely consider it, but if a newbie offered a recommendation, i'd probably have shelved it for future reference. Oh well, i tried.

RCdc -> RE: Referrals anyone? (1/7/2008 9:34:59 AM)
I know, just thought I would drop the info in as to why you might not be getting responses you hoped for. Have you tried attending a munch or is that not really your thing? Personally, I really wouldn't go by references even from someone I know really well, but that's just me. What might be great for one person may suck for me. Best thoughts. the.dark.

parttimehotty -> RE: Referrals anyone? (1/7/2008 9:40:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark I know, just thought I would drop the info in as to why you might not be getting responses you hoped for. Have you tried attending a munch or is that not really your thing? Personally, I really wouldn't go by references even from someone I know really well, but that's just me. What might be great for one person may suck for me. Best thoughts. the.dark. No, i haven't tried any BDSM events. Too shy to go on my own and none of my friends are <to my knowledge> in this lifestyle, so like the cheese, i stand alone ;( <High ho the dairy oh, the cheese stands alone>

RCdc -> RE: Referrals anyone? (1/7/2008 9:47:13 AM)
Munches are usually pretty mainstream rather than a full on event - if you find your local ones and contact the organisers before hand and explain you will come on your own or nervous etc, there might be another s-type on the meet and greet list who will write you and meet you there so you don't have to sit alone. I would really recommend contacting them first and maybe getting to know them. But just don't feel pressured into attending and go when the times right for you. the.dark.

Jeffff -> RE: Referrals anyone? (1/7/2008 10:10:32 AM)
Perhaps someone from your area will read this and attend a munch with you? Jeff

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Referrals anyone? (1/7/2008 10:13:02 AM)
i would recommend Daddy however He's taken and i don't like to share

CalifChick -> RE: Referrals anyone? (1/7/2008 10:17:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: parttimehotty If i had rec'd a referral from someone on this board that has a "good reputation" Good reputation? Who? What? Where? Okay, I gotta ask the masses... what's my reputation?? Cali

parttimehotty -> RE: Referrals anyone? (1/7/2008 10:36:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick quote: ORIGINAL: parttimehotty If i had rec'd a referral from someone on this board that has a "good reputation" Good reputation? Who? What? Where? Okay, I gotta ask the masses... what's my reputation?? Cali Lol, don't ask! Well, suffice to say, you're one i'd shelve! :*

everhope -> RE: Referrals anyone? (1/7/2008 11:47:29 AM)
parttimehotty, i understand your hesitancy to attend a BDSM gathering alone. i was once in your place of not knowing anyone and fearful of walking into places on my own, but you know what, i walked through my fears.this is not saying that i didn't have a few "bambi in the headlights" experiences. i did. they only made me more determined to keep going so that i would get over my fears. now after 5 years, i have lots of friends and going to an event alone is no big deal. once i get there i have lots of people to hang out with because i made an effort to get to know people and make friends. dark's advice is good advice, if you really can't bring yourself to walk in alone contact the group host beforehand. i hosted a munch here in southern cali and i relished the chance to make a newcomer feel welcome. references i have mixed feelings on this. i think once you get out in your community, meet people, watch people play it will all fall into place for you. i hope we all find our bliss, everhope

backseatbebe -> RE: Referrals anyone? (1/7/2008 12:03:33 PM)
just curious are the any subs or slaves that would pay for bdsm match making? the other day for the first time i heard the term slave agent sorry i know im side tracking this thread but it does have to do with recomendations/referals

parttimehotty -> RE: Referrals anyone? (1/7/2008 12:18:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: everhope parttimehotty, i understand your hesitancy to attend a BDSM gathering alone. i was once in your place of not knowing anyone and fearful of walking into places on my own, but you know what, i walked through my fears.this is not saying that i didn't have a few "bambi in the headlights" experiences. i did. they only made me more determined to keep going so that i would get over my fears. now after 5 years, i have lots of friends and going to an event alone is no big deal. once i get there i have lots of people to hang out with because i made an effort to get to know people and make friends. dark's advice is good advice, if you really can't bring yourself to walk in alone contact the group host beforehand. i hosted a munch here in southern cali and i relished the chance to make a newcomer feel welcome. references i have mixed feelings on this. i think once you get out in your community, meet people, watch people play it will all fall into place for you. i hope we all find our bliss, everhope Thank you, everhope. Maybe if i can get that liquid courage, i'll do that one evening ;(

subtee -> RE: Referrals anyone? (1/7/2008 12:54:46 PM)
I relate to how you feel hotty, I'm not into going to the local stuff alone. I know I can contact the board and/or organizers. I also know that the first meeting(s) would be far too much for me. I'm just not into being put on a platter and fed to people I don't know, metaphorically speaking. If I had a Dom/partner and he took me, I could be okay with it. Until then, or perhaps not even then, I'll not be attending. It's not for everyone.

parttimehotty -> RE: Referrals anyone? (1/7/2008 12:58:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subtee I relate to how you feel hotty, I'm not into going to the local stuff alone. I know I can contact the board and/or organizers. I also know that the first meeting(s) would be far too much for me. I'm just not into being put on a platter and fed to people I don't know, metaphorically speaking. If I had a Dom/partner and he took me, I could be okay with it. Until then, or perhaps not even then, I'll not be attending. It's not for everyone. EXACTLY!! i'd feel like i'm in a fishbowl/everyone's looking at me, sizing me up, "Let's see how far we can push the fresh fish" and noone there to watch out for my welfare :( Damn, i hate being on my own again. i feel like f**king screaming but i think i'll cry instead :((

RCdc -> RE: Referrals anyone? (1/7/2008 1:06:14 PM)
To pth and subtee - I just wanted to comment on what you both just wrote. I am like everhope and assisted in munches. I have been contacted or been put in contact with people who wanted to attend the munch and have had coffee or lunch with them - sometimes a handfull of times before they even attended a munch. Munches are for the most part in completely public places, not a club or private party. No one has to know you are new or never attended one before unless you specifically tell people. The information you part with is down to you. That's what meeters and greeters are for.[:)] the.dark.

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