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To anyone regarding mail

Yes, appropriate to say thanks but no thanks

67% (51)

Not really necessary to say thanks but no thanks

23% (18)

yes I have found out I missed compliments

2% (2)

No, I Mostly get complaints or rude replies

6% (5)

Total Votes : 76

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RE: To anyone regarding mail - 7/16/2004 6:40:25 PM

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Some mail obviously doesn't deserve a reply, but if the writer has sent something in earnest i think a short thanks but no thanks should be sent. i don't know how many times i've been left hanging with no clue as to why a reply wasn't returned. It's just common courtesty given the limitations of online communication.

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RE: To anyone regarding mail - 7/16/2004 6:53:05 PM

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Everyone thinks that their email deserves a reply.

I, for one, will never buy into the notion that I owe *anyone* a response, no matter how well written they happen to think their email is. I may decide to write back, but that's completely at my discretion and I won't be guilted into doing something simply because it's what someone *else* thinks is appropriate.

There are lots of reasons why people may not respond (and there was a thread about this some time ago. who's the genius at looking up old threads?). If you take a look at my profile it says, basically, not looking, not interested, leave me the hell alone (that's a summary, not a quote). And I STILL get emails from people wanting to meet/play/be my one and only. Can you imagine the number of emails women who are actively looking and say so receive every day? It's staggering. We could spend all our time answering email and still never get through it all some days.

Someone on another list I participate in made himself a female profile, just to see what we were all talking about. He pretty quickly changed his tune about the "need" to respond to email when he realized the sheer volume of it all.

Next time you (generic you) write to someone and then get pissy cuz you don't get an answer, remember that you initiated it, at your own behest not his/hers. The person in question doesn't owe you a response any more than I owe a response to every solicitation letter I get from a charity organization. If I decide it's something I want to contribute to, that's my perogative, but I'm certainly not obligated to send them a "thanks but no thanks" note.

Making decisions about how to best manage my time/energy isn't rude or lacking in common courtesy. It's called being a responsible adult.

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RE: To anyone regarding mail - 7/16/2004 8:05:15 PM

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I agree with Estrict. Us Male Dominants don't get a lot of unsolicted mail. I don't envy male subs though - I think they probably get the least email, and probably send the most.

Stephan

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RE: To anyone regarding mail - 7/21/2004 7:35:31 PM

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I got a rather impertinent email from a so called sub on here whose kink is not my kink, in fact it made my stomach churn. I sent a polite thank you but no thank you and mentioned his tone. I got a second email insisting I meet him to punish him & saying he was sorry. I said no a bit more firmly, but after the third email I told him I would punish him - by blocking him from sending me any more email. Which I did.

Impertinence and refusal to accept thank you but no thank you, there is no compatibility of kink here is rude and assured to piss a Domme off.

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RE: To anyone regarding mail - 7/24/2004 11:24:36 AM

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quote:

Impertinence and refusal to accept thank you but no thank you, there is no compatibility of kink here is rude and assured to piss a Domme off.

Hello LadyShoshin,

Not sure it is just Dommes who get pissed off when submissives refuse to accept thanks but no thanks. Rude and impertinent behavior doesnt do a whole lot for me either, and
I dont know many people vanilla or D/s who would enjoy being talked to that way.

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RE: To anyone regarding mail - 7/24/2004 7:08:20 PM

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For me that was true. Now I get three types of e-mail.

1) One type tells me I'm an opinionated jerk who should die.

2) One type tells me to give so and so heck (as if I need to be told

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3) One type say I can submit to her.....finacially.

I respond to types one and two.

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RE: To anyone regarding mail - 7/24/2004 7:10:49 PM

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quote:

Impertinence and refusal to accept thank you but no thank you, there is no compatibility of kink here is rude and assured to piss a Domme off.

Cool! Can you send me the free verbal humiliation package too?

(For the humor challenged, just kidding.)

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RE: To anyone regarding mail - 7/24/2004 7:49:26 PM

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Shoshin, was it David Hasselhoff?

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RE: To anyone regarding mail - 8/2/2004 6:51:36 AM

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just because everybody else acts like wannabe pricks doesnt mean we all have to as well. I'd hope that any decent person out there and any Dom worth their while would teach their subs proper manners and respect. Even if you are an unowned sub basic manners are more of knowing right and wrong than anything else.

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RE: To anyone regarding mail - 8/2/2004 6:51:30 PM

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quote:

poor poor deluded woman,

Do you honestly think MEN have no agenda?

Poor poor deluded Collarme.

Do you honestly think iwill has no agenda?

Sinergy

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RE: To anyone regarding mail - 8/2/2004 6:53:07 PM

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quote:

Shoshin, was it David Hasselhoff?

David Hasselhoff is a kink?

Sinergy

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RE: To anyone regarding mail - 8/3/2004 3:29:54 PM

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If you are the German dodge-ball team it (Hasselhophalia) is.

< Message edited by iwillserveu -- 8/3/2004 3:31:11 PM >

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RE: To anyone regarding mail - 8/7/2004 8:56:22 PM

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I always read my email. And if it is something that requires a reply, I do so. I never leave someone hanging. Nor am I rude. Manners, even over this thing are very important to me. Sundew

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RE: To anyone regarding mail - 8/7/2004 9:00:53 PM

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I couldn't vote on the poll, but I would pick "Yes, appropriate to say thanks, but no thanks. Sundew

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RE: To anyone regarding mail - 8/14/2004 2:50:26 PM

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I try to reply to all emails.

Usually if anyone seems interesting or sincere I will reply maybe even engage chichat.

If the person is being jerky while trying to be funny or come to strong, I will explain to the person the small mistake that was done.

Of course, rude behavior is simply ignore.

All in all, I believe the amount of email is not that important, its mostly the quality of it and if the person sending it is sincere.

I think everyone had their share of fakes, waiste timers and players.

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RE: To anyone regarding mail - 8/14/2004 3:09:08 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dagawdfather

Do you feel that it is appropriate to at least answer an email with a polite thanks but no thanks?

It depends on the mail. If its polite I'll say no thanks if I'm not interested, but if its just 3 or 4 words and the profile is blank, then I feel justified in deleting it unanswered.

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RE: To anyone regarding mail - 8/14/2004 3:35:05 PM

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Well for the most part myself, I've gotten a couple of dominants who asked if I was interested in serving them, which I found anoying as hell since my profile clearly does state that I am a happly collared slave, and am not intersted in poly or what have you.

But I have also gotten emails from people who where thanking me for advice i'd given or to say hi, since they saw me on this site and a few others that they are also on.

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RE: To anyone regarding mail - 9/22/2004 8:21:46 PM

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Greetings,
Personaly for a change I would enjoy recieving emails from submissive woman.

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RE: To anyone regarding mail - 9/22/2004 8:57:34 PM

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We have replied to 100% of the mail received and will continue to do so. Also proud to never having to block anyone....YET.

Would estimate that we've only received replies from about 50% from the ones we have sent. The most curious was the non-reply from someone who never contacted us but listed us as an 'Admirer'. When we wrote to her we never got a reply. We guess she just wanted to admire us from afar.

What we are really looking forward to is our first meeting with someone from CollarMe.

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RE: To anyone regarding mail - 9/22/2004 11:02:47 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dagawdfather

Do you feel that it is appropriate to at least answer an email with a polite thanks but no thanks?
Have you ever found out after you deleted mail unread, that it was nothing more than someone complimenting you on your pic or profile, or offering some other kind words?

If I reply "thanks but no thanks" I can guarentee that I'd get a follow up "but why?" email.

and I simply dont have the time or patience to carry hundreds of conversations online a day

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