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RE: The unfairness of switching - 1/14/2008 8:16:42 AM

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i don't see what fairness has to do with it, some folks just want more pain or like giving it more

me, well i love both, in the right situation of course, depends greatly on those participating, ill give as much as they want or I feel like giving and know they can handle, or most certainly i love taking as much as Master will give me and he is getting acquainted with my limits

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RE: The unfairness of switching - 1/14/2008 12:00:41 PM

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I think we like what we like. I identify as Dominant, but do switch to the other side about 10% of the time. But, because I am who I am, I have more of a gender-specific switching. I am a bi male. With women, I am Dominant. With men, i am usually sub (a couple of exceptions have occured to this). As a Dom, I am a creative sadist and enjoy giving my partner new and fun ways to receive their painful pleasure. As a sub, i am not into receiving pain at all. Instead, i prefer humiliation.

Now, does this make anything unfair? I don't think so. I am giving my partners, whether they are Dom or sub, exactly what they want.

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RE: The unfairness of switching - 1/28/2008 12:41:50 PM

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when im dom i dish out way more then any of my partners thus far could handle

and when im sub i want way more then any of my partners thus far have bean willing to give

im used to it its frustrating but that adds to the fun sometimes

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RE: The unfairness of switching - 1/28/2008 7:45:12 PM

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I give and take as much as the mood, need, desire demands..I can take more then I give sometimes...but most of my partners arent into Bloodsport or hardcore whips...they are into needle play or something that I am not.. and then who is to say which hurts more or how the pain is absorbed into our psyche....
Pamela...

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RE: The unfairness of switching - 1/29/2008 3:36:09 AM

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I dish out what I think they can take. I love being pushed as a sub, and if I know the subs can take it, I push as a Domme. (not pushing limits, mind you, just playing near the edge of the pain threshold) Probably in part because I like taking pain from the toys that I don't actually "like", my favorite toys to hit people with are the ones I like least when they are used on me. (And of course whatever the sub likes least, but that's part of being a sadist too, right)

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RE: The unfairness of switching - 1/29/2008 9:07:29 AM

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I'm sure someone mentioned it already but everyone feels pain differently.

just because i can give someone 10 lashes with a single tail that is all sting but i can barely take one.

but I can take a moose flogger across my back from a guy taking a full axe chop down onto me and not even flinch.

its also the mindset of why you are doing it. When i'm topping I am using tools to acheive a goal. Rope, floggers, whips, paddles, they are all tools that help me acheive my goal of the scene. so whatever i give out is based on what they can take, whether they know it or not.

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RE: The unfairness of switching - 1/30/2008 7:16:57 PM

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I don't care about whether it's fair or not. My exchanges are all about power and control, and I've either got it, or I've surrendered it. As a dominant, I can be extremely cruel and sadistic (moreso with men than women), and anyone who plays with me knows this going in. It's all about me and, unless they're calling a red (none so far!), I'm going to do whatever happens to strike my fancy at the time, because I truly enjoy the discomfort of the bottom/slave.

As a bottom (can't say submissive, because I'm just not), it's all about the dominant and what he wants. I'm not a masochist; however, I can take just about anything he can dish out. Of course, taking it might come with a few choice words he doesn't want to hear.

Hmmmm... I guess in my world it IS fair, because whether I'm on top or bottom, it's always all about the dominant.

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