ArchangelMichael
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Joined: 8/21/2004 From: New Orleans, LA Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: Maynard Guilty as charged! Ok, so I have not been on this site for very long (since 7/07). I have gotten many emails from people saying they are switches, but their profile will say sub of dom. Now, a third of those will have two proflies one sub one dom. I understand that it is normal for a switch to have a preference between the two, but it is honest to have two profiles? Wouldn't it be much easier just to say what you are and say, "I'm a switch, but I am naturally more dominant"? What are your thoughts? Forgive me if this is an over posted topic. I've thought about having two profiles since I believe I don't get responses from many Dommes and submissives because they don't think I can be what they are looking for. For them, it's safer to just go with someone who identifies purely as Dominant or submissive. Although I see it as dishonest to some extent (if you don't mention the other profile), I can see why some people would feel the need for it. Several times have I heard, "I can NEVER submit to a switch! They just aren't Dominant enough for me!" or "I'm a Dominant and I don't want you trying to top me!" But I think for me to have two seperate profiles would be too much of a hassle and it'd be like splitting myself in two. Why do that when I can simply express who I am in one profile? And if people can't deal with who I am, the duality and fluidity of my kink personality, then are they people I really want to get to know? What's important is that you've accepted who and what you are and that you're not afraid to express it. That takes more courge, IMO, than hiding behind what one thinks is "acceptable."
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"Open up your mind; Let your fantasies unwind." -The Phantom, Phantom of the Opera "The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return." -Toulouse-Lautrec, Moulin Rouge
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