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RE: Would your life change - 1/14/2008 10:03:10 AM   
pupofMoGa


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Status: offline 		Because my parents are already so judgemental and vanilla to begin with  , i cannot imagine how they would react to my D/s relationship with Mommy. My parents think it is weird that i wear my collar 24/7, but they think it is just a necklace and nothing else. So little do they know what my collar means to me and Mommy<looks lovingly at Her>.

If they accepted the relationship between Mommy and i, my life wouldnt change.

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RE: Would your life change - 1/14/2008 12:50:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: pupofMoGa

Because my parents are already so judgemental and vanilla to begin with  , i cannot imagine how they would react to my D/s relationship with Mommy. My parents think it is weird that i wear my collar 24/7, but they think it is just a necklace and nothing else. So little do they know what my collar means to me and Mommy<looks lovingly at Her>.

If they accepted the relationship between Mommy and i, my life wouldnt change.


I wondered if the collar wouldn't feel nicer to wear if people around you would actually know what it is. Would it make you more proud?

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RE: Would your life change - 1/15/2008 8:42:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		All of my friends are in the lifestyle or are already lifestyle freindly. My mother's family knows. My father's family doesn't really communicate with me much (not due to dislike or whatever, it just is) and they don't know. Since we don't talk or visit much, I can't imagine my life would change much if they did.

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RE: Would your life change - 1/15/2008 10:25:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		Honestly personally I can't imagine putting my friends in that position as I know the majority of them could not accept it and would worry about me needlessly because they couldn't understand it, so this will never happen for me.

Would it change my life if hypothetically if they could accept it?  No.  It's merely a facet of my life among other interests it doesn't define me.  Their acceptance with who I am as a friend and general human being is sufficient for me.  I can do the rest on my own and I have plenty of friends within the lifestyle that any concerns I have about it I can run by them.

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RE: Would your life change - 1/16/2008 1:08:16 AM   
clnslve


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Status: offline 		It would not change my life at all.

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RE: Would your life change - 1/16/2008 1:39:58 AM   
Jnj


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Status: offline 		The majority of our friends are in the kink community, so they of course know of our D/s relationship and BDSM proclivities.  We do not hide it from those who are not involved in BDSM, but we don't flaunt it either.  When we started gravitating towards friendships with mainly kinky people, we found ourselves to be much happier and care free, with an easier relationship because we don't have to watch our  interactions or words like we did with vanilla friends

As far as family is concerned, my owner required me to discuss it with my mother when we were considering marriage (I'm a momma's girl).  I approached the topic by explaining that we have a very traditional relationship that probably looks similar to the stereotypical idea of a 1950s marriage, and let her know that J. makes the majority of the decisions in my life and is the head of our family.  It took awhile for her to become comfortable with that, and she probably had to see a positive effect in my life before she accepted it.  She now realizes that I have to ask him before making most commitments and makes her suggestions for my well being to him.  My mom is supportive but not involved.  We don't discuss particulars, but it is very freeing to not hide about it to someone who is very close to me, and it removes any wondering thoughts in her head.

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RE: Would your life change - 1/16/2008 10:59:13 AM   
schoonerpiper


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Status: offline 		If everyone knew I don't think anything would change. A couple of my friends know because it somehow came up in conversation and they don't care. My other friends would probably joke about it and make referances to family guy. If my parents mentioned it at all they would probably just say be carefull.

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RE: Would your life change - 1/16/2008 11:52:40 AM   
kuuntuli


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Status: offline 		I wear a black velvet choker with a lock, or a leather collar (depending on what my master wants me to wear) almost all the time. If people ask about it I tell them. Only time I didn't tell was when my mom asked about it and even then I didn't lie, just sort of when around the whole question. Almost all my friends know and even most of the people at where I work. The only thing it has changed is that I can now speak more freely without having to worry about people finding out. :)

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RE: Would your life change - 1/16/2008 12:09:38 PM   
pupofMoGa


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Justme696

quote:

ORIGINAL: pupofMoGa

Because my parents are already so judgemental and vanilla to begin with  , i cannot imagine how they would react to my D/s relationship with Mommy. My parents think it is weird that i wear my collar 24/7, but they think it is just a necklace and nothing else. So little do they know what my collar means to me and Mommy<looks lovingly at Her>.

If they accepted the relationship between Mommy and i, my life wouldnt change.


I wondered if the collar wouldn't feel nicer to wear if people around you would actually know what it is. Would it make you more proud?



In response to your reply, it wouldnt make me more proud if the people around me knew what my collar means to me because i dont wear it for them. I proudly wear my collar for my Mommy, and if She is proud, that is all that matters.

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RE: Would your life change - 1/16/2008 2:29:34 PM   
Justme696


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ORIGINAL: pupofMoGa

quote:

ORIGINAL: Justme696

quote:

ORIGINAL: pupofMoGa

Because my parents are already so judgemental and vanilla to begin with  , i cannot imagine how they would react to my D/s relationship with Mommy. My parents think it is weird that i wear my collar 24/7, but they think it is just a necklace and nothing else. So little do they know what my collar means to me and Mommy<looks lovingly at Her>.

If they accepted the relationship between Mommy and i, my life wouldnt change.


I wondered if the collar wouldn't feel nicer to wear if people around you would actually know what it is. Would it make you more proud?



In response to your reply, it wouldnt make me more proud if the people around me knew what my collar means to me because i dont wear it for them. I proudly wear my collar for my Mommy, and if She is proud, that is all that matters.


She is proud, i know  :)

Well agree, proud wasn't the right word. But it is nice of you can openly show your bond with your Domme, instead of having it an secret..


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RE: Would your life change - 1/16/2008 2:31:12 PM   
Justme696


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ORIGINAL: kuuntuli

I wear a black velvet choker with a lock, or a leather collar (depending on what my master wants me to wear) almost all the time. If people ask about it I tell them. Only time I didn't tell was when my mom asked about it and even then I didn't lie, just sort of when around the whole question. Almost all my friends know and even most of the people at where I work. The only thing it has changed is that I can now speak more freely without having to worry about people finding out. :)


Thank you for telling, I was curious about that. I alwaus loved when my girl walked around in public with her collar. Mostly it was a necklace with a special meaning, but it doesn matter so much how it looks as well where it stands for.


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RE: Would your life change - 1/16/2008 2:36:41 PM   
RumpusParable


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How or would your life change if your vanilla friends and family knew about your D/s relationship. If it was accepted by all of them, How would that change your life? if it would change it at all?


None, I'm open about all such things. They already do.

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RE: Would your life change - 1/16/2008 2:49:36 PM   
denika


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Status: offline 		Luckily enough nothing would change. My family knows, they don't want details which is fine with me, I don't want details into their sex/personal life either. My husbands family knows, at christmas this year his sister gave me a wonderful bottle of wine for my 'other' family as she put it. Most of my friends and co-workers  are aware  I live a polyamourous life. I don't advertise but if I'm asked questions I answer truthfully. My lovely Sadist and his wife have unmentionable so there is a sense of tact and privacy we do keep around them, I beleive his Mom has a pretty good indication he's "kinky" :)

So basicly nothing would change, which makes me a very happy slave


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RE: Would your life change - 1/20/2008 4:28:29 AM   
Justme696


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Status: offline 		I told my best friend last night. He was glad I shared it with him. He said...you should have told me earlier, that is why we are friends.
I am glad..I can be now who I am.


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RE: Would your life change - 1/20/2008 6:20:33 AM   
Dari


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Status: offline 		*chuckles*  When I told most of my friends that I was getting back into BDSM as a practice, all save one replied:  "Uh.  You're telling me you're a Domme.  Is this supposed to surprise me?"

The one that didn't was the funniest response of all, because I told her I was into BDSM and she replied:  "Yeah, I figured.  You're a bottom, right?"  When I got done laughing, we had a lovely chat about it.

In the end, it's always nice to be exactly who I am around them all.  My family knows my personality is very dominant, but not the specifics or that I'm really into BDSM.  Still, I am who I am, and that doesn't change whether people know or not.  I don't discuss details with anyone, because well - that's just icky.  <grins>  I don't mind talking about this kink or that fetish or this other thing over here at all, but names and dates and partners and specifics?  No thanks.  I'm just a little too private about that.



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RE: Would your life change - 1/20/2008 8:47:28 AM   
EponasChylde


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Status: offline 		As I've said before, I don't keep secrets. Everybody knows I'm a kink-freak, including the parental units.

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RE: Would your life change - 1/20/2008 9:39:12 AM   
vampiresscammy


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Status: offline 		im not at all sure how the parents would take it, so them finding out and accepting it? wow, I so can't see that happening with hubby's parents. my parents? well, see they got their own kinda freaky kink going, so i doubt it would surprise them, tho the particulars may shock my mother. it would be cool if they would accept, but nothing would change, as its not a daily thign for us cause of the little ones, it simply to us it not something we are comfortable doing in front of them, but we're new to it all, so perhaps someday that would change, i've no idea.

my sis knows everythign about me, as does her hubby. as i've said before they are rather kinky too, so its no shock at all, we quite commonly discuss our lifestyles and how things are going with it and compare notes once in a while, its very nice. but i could never withhold somethign from my sis, she is my best friend. as to our other friends? i'll let you know what they think as soon as we get some. lol. we are not very social, so meeting new folks is rather difficult for us, cept online.

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RE: Would your life change - 1/20/2008 10:37:09 AM   
AMaster


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Status: offline 		Most people I know are aware or at least suspect I am kinky and a DOM.  It has not changed me.

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RE: Would your life change - 1/20/2008 2:37:07 PM   
dogobedience


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Status: offline 		My life would change very little. My parents taught early in life to design my life and then relentlessly strive to obtain and keep it.

Everybody who in vital in my world knows my need to dominate. The only people that don't know are the children of people that I know. 

I dictate my work and the people I choose to work with. I live my lifestyle seamlessly in all my activities, social, professional and everyday contact with others. 

That is not to say I broadcast my needs to everyone. Proper respect to others must be taken into account and is always given.      

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