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A question to my Dom-Sisters - 1/12/2008 3:26:05 PM

YoungGodess20

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First of all, a warm welcome to my Dom-Sisters !
I am new here, and so - first of all - i will give you a short introducion.
I am a quite young (20) European Mistress and very interested in developing my own beeing.
From early childhood on, i had a very dominant personality. My mother could not handle me, so she sent me to a all girls school outside my country. There i had my first experiences with other woman (my classmate). I bossed her around and was clearly in charge. I hated my teacher (a 40 something old lady) and in my fantasy often dreamed about humiliating her, and making her my slut/slave. Now - out of school, i became a semi-pro soccer player and had my first slave girl last year. she was the team physican, and she was on my beck and call near 24/7. She left the team in November and so ME ... This was just the intro .... for a better understanding - maybe.
Now about my question:
Everything in my life seems to be very straight - me very dominant. And i got a lot of pleasure out of this! But .... sometimes i have a huge desire to be a slave by my own. Sometimes, when i dominate a girl, i wish she would take over .... that makes me very .... disconcert. Does anybody has experienced the same "problem" ? How did you solve that ? Many thanks for your help !
Greetings from Europe - Petra

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Petra

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RE: A question to my Dom-Sisters - 1/12/2008 4:13:51 PM

MistressFaye1

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Welcome Petra,

The first thing I would advise you to do is stop looking at it as if there is a "problem". You have these feelings so go for it. There isn't one box you can put yourself into and hold yourself to the "strict" rules of what you see your role as a Domme is.

I know of two very Dom men that come to me for that very reason, one is a sadist. The beauty of this exchange of power is they recognize the desire in themselves to have it met. You may say that it's a Dom to Dom exchange but at that point it is person to person, me topping and them bottoming.

Because I wanted it... I had my submissive spank my butt while in spread arm restraints. Yes he was in control for that moment but the roles were reversed immediately afterward. It was hard for him to do so (role reversal) but with encouragement from me and from seeing how much it pleased me he got into it.
I received the release I needed at the time, telling him just how I wanted it. Do you allow your slave to bark orders at you during play? I didn't think so! There lies the difference.

If you feel uncomfortable doing this with your slave because you think it will destroy the D/s dynamic, find someone that can. The worst thing one can do is deny themselves a pleasure because of someone's even their own blinder views on things.

I hope this helps... good luck!

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RE: A question to my Dom-Sisters - 1/12/2008 6:26:33 PM

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MistressFaye has it right, its not a problem. I'm a Domme and a sadist. I LOVE pain!!! Pain helps me to relieve tension, stress, and just makes everything go away. Its just my personality. I don't want my sub to take over. I once went through a confusion stage after a rough ordeal in my life. I went from Domme to switch to see what it was like. You never find out what you truely are until you experience things first hand.

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RE: A question to my Dom-Sisters - 1/12/2008 9:30:20 PM

NimirRa

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I don't think that's a problem. I think that's called being a switch- or at least switch curious.

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RE: A question to my Dom-Sisters - 1/13/2008 4:03:32 PM

BotanicalMiss

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I agree that this isn't a "problem", it's just a new desire that you've discovered within yourself. There could be a couple of different reasons for it... (1) since you are typically dominant and in control, you might have the desire to take a break, so to speak, and let someone else be in control for a while; or (2) you might see how much your sub enjoys something and in the back of your mind, think "dang, that must feel good... I want to experience that too!" I'm sure there could be other reasons as well, but those are the first that come to mind. People are complex, there is no one way to be anything. Be true to yourself, explore all the new things that you discover about yourself, and enjoy life. Life's a journey... don't miss out on any of the side trips.

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RE: A question to my Dom-Sisters - 1/21/2008 1:24:39 AM

GoddessTeaze

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ORIGINAL: YoungGodess20

But .... sometimes i have a huge desire to be a slave by my own. Sometimes, when i dominate a girl, i wish she would take over .... that makes me very .... disconcert. Does anybody has experienced the same "problem" ? How did you solve that ? Many thanks for your help !
Greetings from Europe - Petra

Thanks
Petra

As you see Petra, it's not a problem at all !
It's called being a switch.
Nice to discover that, I just think you shouldn't seek the rolechange with your slave,
it can be very confusing to the slave, and something which doesn't lie within the slaves heart, so I would sugest you would seek someone who can Dominate you, and leave the slave
the slave in all it's beauty.

That's just My idea.

I wish you enough.
Warm Greetingz

GoddezzT`

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RE: A question to my Dom-Sisters - 1/21/2008 12:12:38 PM

trueshadow

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It isn't a problem as others have said. It is a departure from the labels people put on themselves and others. Accept that you would like to try being a submissive. Try it and see if you do truly enjoy it. Perhaps you are a switch, or perhaps you will find you enjoy submitting to another.

It doesn't mean you aren't dominant in your vanilla life. I am terribly dominant in my regular life, employ people, give directions, and so on. Few would guess that I am submissive to women in my private life, but I am. It took me a while to understand and reconcile this within me, but I did, and you will too.

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RE: A question to my Dom-Sisters - 1/21/2008 12:24:50 PM

Lashra

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I never have a desire to submit in the way that a sub/slave does, however I do like to bottom occasionally. Luckily for me my sub is able to do this without it disturbing our dynamic.
It could be that you are a switch, that with certain partners you will feel a submissive energy within yourself and with others a Dominant energy. There is nothing at all wrong with this as some people need it feel balanced.
I say do whatever makes you happy as its your life and you have to live it. Find compatible partners and go for it.

~Lashra

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RE: A question to my Dom-Sisters - 1/22/2008 4:36:40 PM

TheLookingGirl

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I have wondered what it would be like, but have never had a partner that could take control. Maybe it's because I don't let them, or maybe its because I can't...who knows. Have had a couple try (who claimed switch), but in the end they submit.

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RE: A question to my Dom-Sisters - 1/22/2008 5:06:17 PM

mstrj69

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Petra,
Have you read the term old guard ? To achieve this standing you were not only trained in how to do it to someone else but also what it felt like to receive it yourself. I noticed your profile said you were looking for dominant females and they are the ones who can easily give you what you want although they may want the roles reversed for themselves in exchange. Still, you will come away from it with a better understanding of what your submissive or slave feels when you are doing it to her. Good luck to you.

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