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RE: Vanilla sex - 1/29/2008 9:52:50 AM

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there are many different thoughts that come to mind:

1) perhaps she *can't * orgasm from Foreplay. she needs the penetration for orgasm. and keeping her on the edge for so long is torture(a pleasant form of torture)

2) of course when you pause she is not going to be happy. from my experience (and many womens admission) pausing in the middle of play can bring her from the brink of orgasm back to the starting point.

3)on the other hand. she might find the pause very sexxy. perhaps not at the time but the tease can be the fun type of torture. even if it seems she doesn't like it at the time.

4) for someone who orders the foreplay to stop and sex to begin I find rope to be the best answer. drawing out the foreplay using vibrators dildos, ice ecetera. but instead of stopping to have intercourse: use your fingers. play with her clitorus while fingering... in my experience: that point she is begging you to fuck her comes RIGHT before the point where she orgasms. if you can push her past that point she will have one of the most intense orgasms she has ever had... once i was lucky enough to get a girl to squirt from it. she was quite embarrased because she thought she had urinated. but it was a female ejaculation :) yay accomplishment!!!

hope this gives you something to think about!
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RE: Vanilla sex - 1/29/2008 10:40:25 AM

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but it was a female ejaculation :) yay accomplishment!!!

Wow...Total respect :-)...I never succeded. Looks like I have some homeworks here ;-)

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RE: Vanilla sex - 1/29/2008 11:49:05 AM

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Hi Oli - hope you are well and regards to you hey.

I hoped it was ok to ask a question - I am getting the impression that once she orgasms, that sex then is 'over'? Can she not orgasm and continue with sex?

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RE: Vanilla sex - 1/29/2008 12:19:18 PM

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My experience with vanilla sex is that I enjoy foreplay. Anticipation heightens the actual experience. If I am on the brink of orgasm and my partner pulls away, yes, I am pulled back from the brink. To the starting point again? maybe, but the next trip takes less time. It goes on like that, and then I get a series of orgasms, or I get the big explosive orgasm followed by a series of aftershocks that still thrill me.

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RE: Vanilla sex - 1/29/2008 12:33:35 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: oliderid

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but it was a female ejaculation :) yay accomplishment!!!

Wow...Total respect :-)...I never succeded. Looks like I have some homeworks here ;-)

there is actually a book on the subject specifially geared towards teaching a woman how to squirt( female ejaculation) i 2 friends who have successfully used the book and now squirt quite easily....and love every second of it.

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RE: Vanilla sex - 1/29/2008 12:45:04 PM

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Well Suddently She is sweating a lot, her skin becomes cold, you can feel strong contraction of her vagina. Then she lies down and she breathes heavily. She doesn't move for few minutes, smiling, she closes her eyes, she looks in peace with herself. So you as a man...you stop everything, you look at her...You almost forget everything, it looks so beautiful, a bit like pure happiness.
So until now, we stopped here. Shoud I continue? How do you react as a woman after such a thing? Maybe I think too much like a man...When you feel "empty" after your orgasm.

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RE: Vanilla sex - 1/29/2008 12:55:50 PM

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Speaking purely as a woman, and not as one with any least BDSM 'credentials':

Women can enjoy non-penetrative sex well beyond orgasm,
whereas (pardon if I am mis-informed)
the stereotypical male is done once he shall have orgasmed.

Thus, it is Vanilla for the male to prolong the foreplay as long as he wants, knowing that once he shall have 'cum', the 'game' is run.

Please your woman, enjoy the beauty that her satiation presents...

Then... continue, if it is in you to do :)

I seriously doubt, that she would find fault with you in that.

I did qualify with 'non-penetrative',
as for the stereotypical 'minimally-orgasmic' woman,
sex beyond orgasm (for her) becomes... uncomfortable.

From there, one treads the realm of M/s *grins*

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RE: Vanilla sex - 1/29/2008 1:03:30 PM

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How do I, as a woman react? I can orgasm and I enjoy it when sex continues. It means I am allowed more orgasms. But even if I do not orgasm again, or even if Darcy decided I wasn't to orgasm again, he still continues to have sex with me. An orgasm doesn't have to mean the end of sex. But then I count myself as pretty blessed, because Darcy is able to continue sexually when he orgasms as well(which I have found pretty rare in many men, as is a multiple orgasm, but then Master has no problem there either) so it is pretty much a long session for us.

Have you discussed or asked her if she wants or needs to stop? I would suggest it. Depending on the type of orgasm I have, i can have multiple or it can become very painful - exquistely so - but still agony.

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RE: Vanilla sex - 1/29/2008 1:27:51 PM

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Subbie Thank you, that was quite interesting to read...Sometimes I feel like you women are so lucky :-)

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RE: Vanilla sex - 1/29/2008 1:32:50 PM

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Have you discussed or asked her if she wants or needs to stop? I would suggest it. Depending on the type of orgasm I have, i can have multiple or it can become very painful - exquistely so - but still agony.

After her orgasm she stops. We both take it as an end...Until now. She isn't into SM. That's probably a good way to show her the thin difference between pain and pleasure. I will try :-)

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RE: Vanilla sex - 1/29/2008 1:44:50 PM

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Women can enjoy non-penetrative sex well beyond orgasm,
whereas (pardon if I am mis-informed)
the stereotypical male is done once he shall have orgasmed.

Well an orgasm in my case is really the end of the game, I can't continue, I don't know how to say it, i don't see her as a sexual partner anymore.. I know...Pretty macho :-), but I can't help it. I need at one hour to be ready for a next round. So I learnt to manage it to a point where foreplays become more interesting. You feel the tension in your body and things become much more interesting
And that's the way I like now.

So it looks like I have learn more about the female spyche and this multiple orgams phenomenum almost unknown to me :-).

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