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youngsubgeoff -> when it just doesnt work out... (1/19/2008 6:15:44 AM)
sadly, Ive had to end a relationship recently, with someone I thought was a wonderful domme. There were mistakes made on both ends, and I have no animosity towards her. Does anyone else have relationships end like this before they really even get going?

wervenom -> RE: when it just doesnt work out... (1/19/2008 6:38:31 AM)
Short reply: yes Long reply: just way to long............. It happens is the best thing I can say.

Justme696 -> RE: when it just doesnt work out... (1/19/2008 7:00:46 AM)
Yes it can happen. Sometimes you like soem one..for many reasons, but the Ms part doesn't work out. But it is good to have no hard feelings. You tried both..and it didn't work..no need for hate.

Leatherist -> RE: when it just doesnt work out... (1/19/2008 7:03:15 AM)
Sure. The girl who told me she'd cut my throat if I went and slept somewhere besides next to her at night sort of put me off to having any sort of meaningful relationship with her. Unfortunately, she didn't take my not wanting to go there well. Most of the rest were fine.

xxblushesxx -> RE: when it just doesnt work out... (1/19/2008 7:26:31 AM)
It's best to find out early, even though it's not what you wanted to find. This just opens you up for the possibility of finding someone who IS right for you. Congrats on being wise enough not to try to hold on to something that wasn't right for either of you. And who knows? You could be great friends as time moves on. Or you could both grow, and 'discover' each other again. Good luck! ~Christina

heartfeltsub -> RE: when it just doesnt work out... (1/19/2008 7:38:29 AM)
It can end even when there aren't any mistakes on either side, because one part of another just isn't ready. That is the risk we all take when ever we try a new relationship, the hope is that it will work and the risk is that it won't. It happens. heartfelt

fluffyswitch -> RE: when it just doesnt work out... (1/19/2008 10:01:57 AM)
yep. the last time it happened i had to let them know on livejournal because it got THAT complicated really quickly and it was literally the only way i had to contact her at that point. never again (at least with regards to the livejournal lol) i hope...

AquaticSub -> RE: when it just doesnt work out... (1/19/2008 11:18:23 AM)
Yup.

cainssub -> RE: when it just doesnt work out... (1/19/2008 11:25:17 AM)
well sad to say i just went through this THIS MORNING sigh, i was quite devoted to master but had to say "enough" ....... mistakes on both ends, YES.....but i never regret anything and take all experiences as opportunities to learn....sadly i dont beleive L and i can be friends and that makes it all the more painful..........but the strength comes from the learning to move on and grow.....even after this pain im still learning from the experience and am forever grateful to L for the time we spent together.......and truly it feels good to say i am doing what i need for me.......

waterdance -> RE: when it just doesnt work out... (1/19/2008 12:00:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: heartfeltsub It can end even when there aren't any mistakes on either side, because one part of another just isn't ready. That is the risk we all take when ever we try a new relationship, the hope is that it will work and the risk is that it won't. It happens. heartfelt Very nicely put.. [:)]

lusciouslips19 -> RE: when it just doesnt work out... (1/19/2008 12:26:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: youngsubgeoff sadly, Ive had to end a relationship recently, with someone I thought was a wonderful domme. There were mistakes made on both ends, and I have no animosity towards her. Does anyone else have relationships end like this before they really even get going? Come on spill. What went wrong? If you gives so little in the way of info you are not going to get indepth responses.

lusciouslips19 -> RE: when it just doesnt work out... (1/19/2008 12:29:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cainssub well sad to say i just went through this THIS MORNING sigh, i was quite devoted to master but had to say "enough" ....... mistakes on both ends, YES.....but i never regret anything and take all experiences as opportunities to learn....sadly i dont beleive L and i can be friends and that makes it all the more painful..........but the strength comes from the learning to move on and grow.....even after this pain im still learning from the experience and am forever grateful to L for the time we spent together.......and truly it feels good to say i am doing what i need for me....... If you have never met how can you be devoted? I made this newbie mistake too. Dont give your time to those who want to dom you online or tell you you are under their consideration. OOOh OOOh lucky me. Dont let anyone Dom you here. Wait for them to prove they are honarable.

SeeksOnlyOne -> RE: when it just doesnt work out... (1/19/2008 2:36:57 PM)
it happens.......hopefully we learn and move on........no regrets, just looking back fondly at what went right...... my 2 cents

MissHarlet -> RE: when it just doesnt work out... (1/19/2008 2:40:08 PM)
Its ok to have regrets in my book .... because that is how I learn from my regrets ... just dont let those regrets keep you from going forward and trying again ....

youngsubgeoff -> RE: when it just doesnt work out... (1/19/2008 3:57:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 quote: ORIGINAL: youngsubgeoff sadly, Ive had to end a relationship recently, with someone I thought was a wonderful domme. There were mistakes made on both ends, and I have no animosity towards her. Does anyone else have relationships end like this before they really even get going? Come on spill. What went wrong? If you gives so little in the way of info you are not going to get indepth responses. Basically, neither of us was what the other was looking for. It is not my place to discuss what happened publicly.

PanthersMom -> RE: when it just doesnt work out... (1/19/2008 6:48:41 PM)
it happens to all of us. best to learn from the mistakes and move on. PM

Maya2001 -> RE: when it just doesnt work out... (1/19/2008 7:09:15 PM)
Yes and as a result we became good friends, I was able to help him out on a business assignment for a major contract he had to do and was crunched for time and he was there for me when I needed a shoulder to cry on, also has volunteered to be my safe call if I ever need

MissMagnolia -> RE: when it just doesnt work out... (1/19/2008 7:13:00 PM)
Nilla, unnilla (yes, I made that word up), it happens.

LadyPact -> RE: when it just doesnt work out... (1/19/2008 8:34:54 PM)
Two things. First, yes, it happens. Second, I'm personally very proud of you for taking the high road. quote: ORIGINAL: youngsubgeoff quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 quote: ORIGINAL: youngsubgeoff sadly, Ive had to end a relationship recently, with someone I thought was a wonderful domme. There were mistakes made on both ends, and I have no animosity towards her. Does anyone else have relationships end like this before they really even get going? Come on spill. What went wrong? If you gives so little in the way of info you are not going to get indepth responses. Basically, neither of us was what the other was looking for. It is not my place to discuss what happened publicly.

Bound2One -> RE: when it just doesnt work out... (1/19/2008 10:37:49 PM)
quote: Basically, neither of us was what the other was looking for. It is not my place to discuss what happened publicly. Ah, Geoff ... you're a true gentleman. Thank you for that, sincerely. I've had that happen - things ending before they really get started. They weren't right to begin with.

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