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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 1:46:34 AM

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It stands for fabulous ;)

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 1:47:59 AM

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I'd buy it. ;)

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 1:50:12 AM

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I'm way too slutty for you chico! :D

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 1:53:20 AM

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Doesn't mean we can't get drunk and flick Skittles at eachother while watching TV. :P

'cause I'm just that kinky.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 1:55:38 AM

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ROFL- ok that's fucking hysterical, a prior lover is too slutty but getting drunk is no biggie?

Ironically, I don't drink alcohol.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 2:14:00 AM

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Hah, I don't drink, either. :P Still, friendly drunk.. You know, where you do something things like, well, flick Skittles at eachother..

..or in the case of my friends, apparently wrestle eachother grumply until collapsing and whistling in one's sleep..

"A" prior lover is too slutty..?

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 2:36:03 AM

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I am my master's slave 24/7 but that does not mean I always happily comply to his every wish. Sometimes I first complain and then he (usually) tells me to do it anyway. :P

I have few other things in my life that take priority over my master's orders, the most important being my 3-year-old son. If he needs me I'm there. And my master understands this and agrees with me. And if I'm at work and my master calls me I may not answer the phone, or I only answer to tell him that I'm busy and will call him back later.

IMHO this doesn't mean I'm not his slave at those times. I have different social roles that are all important and he wouldn't want it any other way. It's not a question of whether I can handle being 24/7 there to attend to his smallest wish. I could well handle that if the situation was such that I didn't have a child and didn't have a job (and just to clarify, my master wants me to work outside our home). But there's always other things in life that affct your relationship. Slaves don't just pop up from nowhere, they have a life and a history. Some things in that life can be adjusted to better serve master's needs while other things - children, for example - can't. I'm still his slave in my heart and mind all the time, even when I'm not there at some specific moment.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 2:50:53 AM

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I am currently searching for an additional property. In my quest to find another who thinks like my kali thinks, I find many who claim they want 24/7/365. The difficulty is that the fantasy of that does not match up with the realities of daily and continious enslavement.

Who else out there really lives a 24/7/365 total slave life or aspires for that?

i am a slave and have been living in an APE relationship for over 5 years now. Obedience is my main objective and Master's pleasure my greatest reward. Complying with something that i do not "enjoy" doing just puts me one step closer to attaining my goal as His slave. Sometimes i succeed - sometimes i fail - but at ALL times, my desire is there.
However, being His 24/7/365 slave makes me no less human than anyone else. i think, i talk, i express opinions. But i also know that His word is final, whether it be a decision, a directive, or just a passing statement. i work a full-time job, shop, cook and clean. i have friends, family and leisure interests. All these things, i do with Him in the forefront of every thought, word and deed and with His permission. W/we laugh, joke, and cry. He is there for me when i need Him just as i always want to be there for Him.
i am NOT a doormat, a robot, or a "Stepford Wife". i am not treated "sub-human" in any way.
Master seeks another as well - but it's a "needle in a haystack" search. He finds many of the same "fantasy-driven" ones ("tie me up, strip me, and play with me all day long", but few willing to accept the reality ("What do You mean 'scrub the toilet"??) of slavery.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 3:12:12 AM

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ORIGINAL: dogobedience
To me total and complete ownership means you do what you are ordered to do. Most of the time you want to obey anyways. However sometimes you do not want to follow orders. It is that defining moment(s) that a true slaves heart surfaces. FEW REALLY HAVE THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! A true and developed slave obeys and is happy to comply nomatter the command, finding satisfaction in the doing of something that she did not want to do. Yes there some limits, but few.

Who else out there really lives a 24/7/365 total slave life or aspires for that?

i probably shouldn't reply but... for me, its not that difficult to obey every command whether i feel like it or not because of the relationship i have with my Master. Heck, we are so much alike that when i first visited His home, it was like stepping into my own right down to the color, style and materials of the furniture. Spooky almost. We have been so open and honest with each other that although i have only been His property for a few months, i trust Him without reservation. He will cause me pain but He will never harm me.

You have found that perfect (for You) slave. Was it easy? Maybe it was, but the reality-v-fantasy could have been different because it was a one-on-one relationship instead of the poly relationship that is the reality You seek with these additional pieces of property.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 5:41:25 AM

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Yep 24/7/365 here. My office is at one end of the house and his is at the other and we have an intercom system that connects them. As the Op said it is hard to find another person to join a family that is like that.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 5:54:20 AM

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according to your original thought, i'm not a twue anything since i have freedom to be independent, not commanded/told what to do and/or how do it, not subject myself to the whims of my dominant, etc. according to your original thought - i'm living a fantasy since i'm not a 24/7/365 twue and happy "slave".

LOL

thank goodness, i'm not your "slave". my title reads submissive and i'm allowed to remain as me before i entered my relationships with mine and not changing a single darn thing about me. i'm happy not to think like yours ...why should anyone think or be like your slave? i prefer to have my own personality, opinions, views etc not turning into a carbon copy - so unoriginal ...and so one-way twuism from you.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 6:27:50 AM

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ORIGINAL: wolfsprincess

i am a slave and have been living in an APE relationship for over 5 years now. Obedience is my main objective and Master's pleasure my greatest reward. Complying with something that i do not "enjoy" doing just puts me one step closer to attaining my goal as His slave. Sometimes i succeed - sometimes i fail - but at ALL times, my desire is there.
However, being His 24/7/365 slave makes me no less human than anyone else. i think, i talk, i express opinions. But i also know that His word is final, whether it be a decision, a directive, or just a passing statement. i work a full-time job, shop, cook and clean. i have friends, family and leisure interests. All these things, i do with Him in the forefront of every thought, word and deed and with His permission. W/we laugh, joke, and cry. He is there for me when i need Him just as i always want to be there for Him.
i am NOT a doormat, a robot, or a "Stepford Wife". i am not treated "sub-human" in any way.

*smiles*, I echo what she said!! Especially the last sentence. I have been more free to be ME, and able to express it totally completely utterly, since I became His slave. With nobody else do I have this utter freedom, than in my total belonging to him. Then again, i don't get pms, and haven't in years ... lol! and complying when it is not convenient for me, or when i might not want to, well, that just turns me on even more and makes me feel to my very core how completely and thoroughly i am controlled by him -- it's all good!

Love your collar wolfsprincess!

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 6:51:30 AM

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I'm SFM's slave 24/7/365. It's what I was searching for and I'm glad to have found it.

However I would have no interest in being your slave 24/7/365...or even for an hour. And I don't mean that in a mean way...just that we have vastly different tastes and I would be totally miserable as your slave.

I have a feeling that it's more likely a case of incompatibility than people being "fakes" - just because someone doesn't want something with you doesn't mean they don't want it at all.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 7:38:40 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dogobedience

To me total and complete ownership means you do what you are ordered to do. Most of the time you want to obey anyways. However sometimes you do not want to follow orders. It is that defining moment(s) that a true slaves heart surfaces. FEW REALLY HAVE THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! A true and developed slave obeys and is happy to comply nomatter the command, finding satisfaction in the doing of something that she did not want to do. Yes there some limits, but few.

Who else out there really lives a 24/7/365 total slave life or aspires for that?

I'd tentatively agree with your definition though I'd add that it is a purposely obedience and a focus by the owned on the life of the owner to that.

Fox and I live that 24/7.

It is not the thing of fantasy and I find that is what brings most people down. They want the fetish clothes, the confinement, and the rituals/protocols every second in their fantasy.

Reality doesn't work like that.

On the one hand, reality is really mundane and boring most of the time.

On the other hand having that level of authority, submitting to that level of authority is frightening and energizing at the same time.

It's so hard to talk about this in just printed words... Unless you live it, unless you see it, it's difficult to understand the feelings, the connections, the challenges, and the rewards.

Anyway....

In my opinion, someone who claims to be looking for 24/7 right off the bat, is way off the reality track. That isn't something you just jump into, it's something that is built over time hopefully with a bloody large dose of reality. Someone who writes to me and says "I want to be your slave 24/7" or a variation on that is rarely taken seriously by me.

Fox certainly never said that to. He was interested in learning about BDSM, about erotic slavery, and about me and my household. Over time we became owner and slave but that was not our original goal.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 8:09:24 AM

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yes, with all my heart. One day, we will.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 8:25:46 AM

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It is unrealistic to expect ‘total enslavement’ immediately. Submissive folk do not come out of a box all perfectly suited to every dominant.
You are the common denominator here; if your search isn’t going well perhaps you need to re-think your approach.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 9:30:32 AM

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While I do not wish to be what my definition of slave would be..I also question the 24/7/365 term to be held as the only way to actually live a D/s or M/s BDSM life...I also resent being thought of as a part time living in fantasy land, confused submissive...and resent that if you do not live the 24/7/365 life that a longterm relationship will not be possible..and then to be referred to as then simply a Top/bottom, if not in this 24/7/365 thing you have subscribed to really gets my ire going..I am happy for you and your kali..but to diminish other relationships as less than....IMO makes you appear to be a bit of a less than ,as a person..to me you are showing your own insecurities by putting down that which you yourself do not live...Tempting

I agree with you.

The thing is there is no in between here... either you are a 24-7 live in willing to do whatever another says without ever a negative feeling or emotion about it, or you are "justa bottom". I have zero respect for this assessment of other people's relationships. Slaves, submissives, and bottoms are human beings with feelings, whether we submit to things we would not like or not.

To the OP, you are lucky to find ONE that suits your needs so well, instead of insulting all those who don't as being nothing more than bottoms that have no desire for a weal twue power exchange. Perhaps it is a motivational thing, inspiring ONE s-type to submit to you in the way you desire is more than many dominant types ever get. Perhaps being grateful for the one, without any expectations on others, will bring about more of what you are looking for. I am forever reminded of what I read repeatedly around here, just because they are not the slave for YOU, doesn't mean they are not a weal twue slave. Just because someone experiences a different relationship than you does not mean it isn't weal or meaningful for them.... just saying

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 9:48:28 AM

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Who else out there really lives a 24/7/365 total slave life or aspires for that?

Not me, Mon! The type of submissive woman I'm looking for in a 24/7/365 D/s relationship -- intelligent, strong, perhaps a bit bratty -- isn't going to want a "slave" lifestyle, anyway. Submisssive? Definitely. Slave? No.

I think there probably are shades of gray, even for "slaves." Anyone care to comment?

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 10:24:53 AM

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I do. I live by the but clause so to speak, and that's what the extended family swears there putting on my grave stone when i die. Bottom line for me as a live in 23/7 slave.... i may not want to do it, i may not like doing it, but i do it anyway.
This may not be how every slave thinks, each person is diffenent, and in my opinion doesn't dictate that if other slaves are not like this, they are not true slaves. Maybe what you need is to describe it as a different level of slavery ,and your need is to find someone who thinks the same way.
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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 10:32:42 AM

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I was in a 24/7 relationship for a while. I found it very difficult to sustain. No one is "on" all the time. After a while, it seems that nothing is new anymore. I want a LTR with commitment, but unless someone really extraordinary comes along, I shy away form a live in or 24/7 relationship. That does not mean I an against such an arrangement- it could work if the right people found each other.

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