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touchofeuphoria -> Orgasm Denail of A Woman (1/24/2008 4:57:08 AM)
If you deny a male an orgasm, he gets hornier, becomes more submissive, and gets more desperate for that orgasm. That's obvious. What happens to a woman when she's denied one?

laurell3 -> RE: Orgasm Denail of A Woman (1/24/2008 4:59:00 AM)
I'm not sure your statement is true for all men and I don't think there's any universal statement true for all women. For me personally at first it keeps me on edge, eventually it distracts me to the point that it's not a helpful tool.

Bound2One -> RE: Orgasm Denail of A Woman (1/24/2008 5:00:22 AM)
Same thing, for me.

Dnomyar -> RE: Orgasm Denail of A Woman (1/24/2008 5:01:04 AM)
She turns all bitchy. She can do it to you but your not allowed to do it to her. It is in the dammed rule book.

Bound2One -> RE: Orgasm Denail of A Woman (1/24/2008 5:05:53 AM)
Damn it. Making mental note to get Master that rule book. [;)]

touchofeuphoria -> RE: Orgasm Denail of A Woman (1/24/2008 5:06:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar She turns all bitchy. She can do it to you but your not allowed to do it to her. It is in the dammed rule book. Ohh well see that's why I'm here to learn :P

laurell3 -> RE: Orgasm Denail of A Woman (1/24/2008 5:07:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar She turns all bitchy. She can do it to you but your not allowed to do it to her. It is in the dammed rule book. I don't actually use it with male submissives other than the obvious biological differences and limitations between men and women. I've certainly never told anyone they could not use it with me. It's not my place to do that. I have merely responded to the effect it has on me.

canupleaseme -> RE: Orgasm Denail of A Woman (1/24/2008 5:09:01 AM)
I am with Laurell. When me and my boy were long distance sometimes I would deny myself orgasm until I saw him next and in my experience I could go almost two weeks and it kept me right on the horny edge, any longer than that and I found it difficult to think about anything else but having one I coudlnt concentrate properly and was very moody. To a point it is fun but after that point it was agrivating. I am so glad im on my side of the fence and can have them when I want, I definatly get more pleasure controlling his than my own!! Ive found as well that whilst my boy can go longer than me after a certain point it has the opposite effect and he isnt bothered about it at all.

phoenixinchains -> RE: Orgasm Denail of A Woman (1/24/2008 5:11:26 AM)
Based on what the OP has stated, i must be a man trapped in a woman's body... lol, Domnyar is right too. i'll get bitchy, and i'll confess to my own shame, whiny. and damned if my Mate doesn't always pull that trick out of left field! such conflict, please Master by not cumming or let body do what it wants so dearly to do... phoenix

soul2share -> RE: Orgasm Denail of A Woman (1/24/2008 5:13:52 AM)
Depends on the woman, obviously...orgasms are not the be all and end all for me.....my personal pleasure comes from making sure His orgasm occurs.....i find that i am more sexually satisfied from getting a great beating. Physically, she can always pleasure herself when he's not around, but I've never found orgasm denial painful in any way. Of course, I was voluntarily celibate for over 7 years! Am I wierd? Could be....I know female friends who cry if they can't be allowed to orgasm. And yes, women will "knock one off" just as frequently or commonly as men do, but i'm just not into solo sex. Maybe it's age or hormones, I dunno. I had my first caning experience last night...talk about mind-blowing! I'd gauge the pain level at about a 14.....i have some beautiful welts to show for it, OK, so I'm bragging a bit...but the point is, I was far more satiated than had I had an orgasm. i not once begged to cum, but i kept begging for more of the cane, crop, and flogger.....go figure!

jasmine2008 -> RE: Orgasm Denail of A Woman (1/24/2008 5:19:04 AM)
men need orgasim denial more than women i love it

Dnomyar -> RE: Orgasm Denail of A Woman (1/24/2008 5:55:29 AM)
A note to men. Women do not have orgasims all of the time. I was with a married woman who had children. After we were finished she told me that was the first orgasim that she had ever had. It wasnt an ego boost for me it just got me to wondering how man women like her were out there.

breatheasone -> RE: Orgasm Denail of A Woman (1/24/2008 6:08:38 AM)
For me personally it would adventually kill it for me. I would just not want it any more....So it would have the oppisite effect of what you say happens to men.

vtviceversa -> RE: Orgasm Denail of A Woman (1/24/2008 6:17:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: touchofeuphoria If you deny a male an orgasm, he gets hornier, becomes more submissive, and gets more desperate for that orgasm. That's obvious. What happens to a woman when she's denied one? I think it is worth distinguishing between denial and extension. As a male, I enjoy the "denial" in as much as it extends and changes my state of arousal a great deal. From the perspective of the top (or bottom) this might be played as "denial" but for me (again, as either top or bottom) it is "extended". It is not merely semantics, but a distinct state of mind. In this regard, the same thing is applicable and even enjoyable by a female partner. I'd not want to drag this into a place that made it nasty or unpleasant, but I think that there is a deep well of pleasure to be found in the extended orgasm play.

laurell3 -> RE: Orgasm Denail of A Woman (1/24/2008 6:19:30 AM)
Unfortunately there can be unwanted side-effects from extended orgasm denial in some as well, which is why I avoid it with male subs. There are quite a few threads here on the subject.

soul2share -> RE: Orgasm Denail of A Woman (1/24/2008 6:20:11 AM)
Dnomyar.... There are more if us out there than you'd think! For me, I'll admit I've faked a few, mainly in vanilla relationships, just to avoid the ego issues. But the reasons for faking an orgasm are varied, and not always bad. My personal experience with the Doms I've known don't seem to be centered around my having an orgasm....i've never really been denied the opportunity to cum, just had it delayed. Again, I'm mch more satisfied knowing that I've been able to provide pleasure to the Dom, and not just from the whole D/s point of view of "it's a sub's job to do that". It can be something as simple as knowing what kind of beer or wine he likes, and having it on hand. Anyway...sorry if I drifted off topic.....i need caffeine! I shouldn't try this before I've gotten some.....

laurell3 -> RE: Orgasm Denail of A Woman (1/24/2008 6:29:06 AM)
I'm not sure saying orgasm denial may not have the desired effect is really saying I'm not service oriented or I don't care about the Dom's wishes. I'm not obsessed with having an orgasm and unlike you they do come rather easily and in fact caning, spanking, etc can cause them spontaneously and it's pretty close to impossible for me to stop them. Thus my statement that it's really not all that effective of a tool with me and attempting to stop them is a huge distraction that many D types learn doesn't work as they intended. You see, we are all different.

mnottertail -> RE: Orgasm Denail of A Woman (1/24/2008 6:30:50 AM)
If you have to de-nail a woman after orgasm, it is a pretty good bet that it was a strong one. Bob Vila

soul2share -> RE: Orgasm Denail of A Woman (1/24/2008 6:40:38 AM)
Laurel, not sure if your comments are directed at me or not.....or if it's just the order the posts hit, but I'm not fixated on having an orgasm at all.....I too have them during a great beating....even tho I don't realize it at the time they happen. My head just isn't in the same place as my body during that period of time. And i agree with your statement about having to concentrate on not having an orgasm...it's really one heck of a distraction for me to have to physically do that....rips me right out of whatever place i'm in. Sort of sucks, actually! The pain that was causing me such pleasure hits in waves when my attention is drawn to someplace else, and I have to sink into it all over again. As I was told once, I am just wired a litte differently, I guess.

Gwynvyd -> RE: Orgasm Denail of A Woman (1/24/2008 6:41:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar She turns all bitchy. She can do it to you but your not allowed to do it to her. It is in the dammed rule book. Ding ding ding! they can be taught! chuckles and when the hell did you find the rule book? Your _Did_ return it right? No Photocopies were taken for you or your buddies right? chuckles Nice to see some one knows the rules. Gwyn

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