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LadyEllen -> RE: marriage and true relation (1/26/2008 9:08:50 AM)
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Well, here are the relevant bits from the two posts;
Post 27
………..a need in the male for the ideal female. Since, believe it or not, women are people too, they are rarely able to live up to this ideal and more importantly rarely want to either - because it is a highly sexualised ideal, constructed from male sexual fantasy. When combined with a fetishistic approach, (another broad motivation) whereby one can have the person by way of their accoutrements, the male embarks upon liason with his ideal female by way of making himself as close to her as possible by way of adoption of her attire and her manner and her behaviour.
Post 33
ORIGINAL: popeye1250
Lotus, I can't understand how a man can be "submissive."
Its no big mystery Popeye - its utimately just one form of reproductive strategy in a huge range of such strategies - whether conciously or not, and quite a successful one at that, to give yourself and all you have and do to the woman with whom you aspire to reproduce. By placing everything at her disposal and showing devoted submission to her wishes, the male seeks to demonstrate that he will make a good mate, always attendant to her (and thence her offspring's) needs.
But it is purely a reproductive thing - submissive males are usually not so submissive to other males and often not so submissive to just any female but those he has identified as attractive - ie worth reproducing with.
The puzzle with crossdressers (as per this thread) is that its not always clear whats going on with their submission - but I feel that for some it has at least something to do with offering up themselves even more completely, by a sort of ritual castration that says their manhood belongs to her too.
The question is Catia - are you confusing your desire to submit to a woman (a reproductive strategy) with your erotic enjoyment of crossdressing as a means of acquiring a woman (a fetishistic association), and coming to the conclusion that the fulfilment of both is to transition permanently - thereby submitting forever to a woman, even if she is in fact made from your body and your imagination?
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