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fatfiftyfemale -> rehab after stroke (1/25/2008 9:38:57 AM)

i have recently suffered a cva with resulting weakness on right side and of course am right handed. do i have to give up all hope of ds relationships or will i be able to resume eventually? i am relatively young



mydestiny2043 -> RE: rehab after stroke (1/25/2008 11:10:53 AM)

Hi fff[:)]what does your doctor say?How severe is your rt sided weakness?Are you doing physical therapy?Occupational therapy?Speach therapy?There are alot of variables that we on the board don't know without more information......But your Doctors and therapists would have a better idea on your prognosis...Wishing you a speady recovery[sm=flowers.gif].



peppermint -> RE: rehab after stroke (1/25/2008 11:23:53 AM)

I don't have a crystal ball and can not see into your future.  No one can predict what will or will not happen.  If i were you i'd concentrate on rehab.  Getting healthy and regaining your strength should be your #1 concern.  Worrying about what is or isn't possible at some time in the future should not be a concern to you at this time. 

As to whether people with health issues can be part of D/s, the answer is YES.  My own Sir had a lung transplant nearly 7 years ago.  He only got 1 lung which means he does lose his breath when he is active and has to slow down and rest.  He can't go hiking in the woods to hunt anymore.  He'll never swim the English Channel.  However, he golfs several times a week, we take frequent walks, he leveled some land and built us an RV site last summer, he does all the upkeep on our motor home, he drives us from MT to WA to AZ every fall, and drives us back every spring.  In other words, he lives an active life and doesn't worry about those few things he might not be able to do or has to do slowly.

There is life....and D/s....after and with disabilities. 



KaylinSilverfurr -> RE: rehab after stroke (1/25/2008 11:55:53 AM)

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As someone else said, I would worry about regaining your strength on the right side first. Talk to your doctor and your occupational therapist first about what your limitations are. Those will give you a good indication of what you can do, and what might be best avoided.
Can you still have a healthy D/s relationship? Absolutely yes. Just make sure your partner is aware of your medical history so that they can be sure to watch for signs if you have another stroke, and be careful about blood play if you're on Asprin therapy. In fact, you can also involve your partner on some aspects of your care if you're comfortable with that.

~Kaylin



DelilahDeb -> RE: rehab after stroke (3/1/2008 11:25:12 AM)

Dear FFF,

Let me start by extending my sympathy! I have been exactly where you are (turned 50, bought my stock options, the towers fell, survived software release, took vacation, returned to work a week...had a stroke--CVA and no precursors). Left brain stroke, right hand dom, right hemiparesis plus "ideomotor apraxia"--which put me on the floor many times post-stroke just moving around my home because my body wasn't where my brain thought it was. A mild stroke as such things go, but I was six months getting back reasonable use of my right hand, and am permanently disabled from day job, any day job. (The inherent stress *will* kill me.)

Now...my difference was that I wasn't active in BDSM at the time of the stroke. Some years before, yes. The last two years, very!
I haven' t found it a barrier to most play. The one thing I am careful of, is communications--from negotiations, to safewords, to NOT pushing limits. And (while it does not limit my preferences, that is just my luck) I don't engage in role play as a scene element--because the biggest thing that broke in my head is aphasia...and several related diagnoses concerning emotional communicatons and responses.

But it most certainly need not end, nor even severely limit, your participation in the scene once you have identified your physical and mental changes, and begun to come to terms with them. I watched a D/s couple once play at a dungeon: D in a wheelchair with micro-mobility on own feet, and s cross-dressed with a prosthetic half-leg. Their limitations did not equal hard limits. http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m11.gif

I never did play to bruising, let alone bloodsports, so that does not limit me; it may limit you. I am on a lifetime prescription to manage my BP, and an aspirin regime since the second day in hospital, so even if I wished it, blood and bruising are "contra-indicated".

Please feel free to direct personal questions to me by message, or ask them here. Wishing you well in your recovery.

Blessed be,
Delilah Deb



WalterRego -> RE: rehab after stroke (3/2/2008 3:36:56 AM)

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I never did play to bruising, let alone bloodsports, so that does not limit me; it may limit you. I am on a lifetime prescription to manage my BP, and an aspirin regime since the second day in hospital, so even if I wished it, blood and bruising are "contra-indicated".


Deb, is that on medical advice? In the past I've done both minor blood sports and enjoyed being marked.  I had a stent put in a few years ago, and am on aspirin and plavix now. (I was on bp medication for years before that with no consequence in play). I noticed  twice since then that when I (clumsily) bit my tongue or lip more bleeding than in the past, but the dentist who knows about my medications and status has had to take no additional precautions. And bite marks at least seem to go away as quickly as they did in the past.

Granted, I haven't done anything lately which (was supposed to) draw blood , but does that mean I should now avoid being marked too?



celticlord2112 -> RE: rehab after stroke (3/2/2008 10:05:41 AM)

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ORIGINAL: fatfiftyfemale

i have recently suffered a cva with resulting weakness on right side and of course am right handed. do i have to give up all hope of ds relationships or will i be able to resume eventually? i am relatively young


The answer is you can resume a D/s relationship right away.

As for various forms of play....you and your partner do need to realize that your physical limits are not where they were, and adapt accordingly.

Your medication regimens may preclude blood play (assuming that's not already a hard limit for you), and you may need to be careful about excessive bruising, but these are merely altered limits.  Play is very much a possibility, and you should not be afraid to indulge yourself.




DelilahDeb -> RE: rehab after stroke (3/2/2008 3:44:18 PM)

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ORIGINAL: WalterRego

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(Delilah Deb) I never did play to bruising, let alone bloodsports, so that does not limit me; it may limit you. I am on a lifetime prescription to manage my BP, and an aspirin regime since the second day in hospital, so even if I wished it, blood and bruising are "contra-indicated".


Deb, is that on medical advice? In the past I've done both minor blood sports and enjoyed being marked. I had a stent put in a few years ago, and am on aspirin and plavix now. (I was on bp medication for years before that with no consequence in play). I noticed twice since then that when I (clumsily) bit my tongue or lip more bleeding than in the past, but the dentist who knows about my medications and status has had to take no additional precautions. And bite marks at least seem to go away as quickly as they did in the past.

Granted, I haven't done anything lately which (was supposed to) draw blood , but does that mean I should now avoid being marked too?


No, not on medical advice. Combination of preference and experience--I've always been slow to heal holes in skin. (I also run to anemic; another reason not to give away blood.) If I wanted to play there, I'd ask for medical opinion & precautions. Because I don't, it's a non-issue for me.

Everyone is different; it looks as though you're in good shape to play as you prefer. My own instincts would be to stay with minor when it comes to blood sports, is all. And, really, if you like being marked, and you get to wear the bite marks longer, that seems to me to be a plus. Pleasurable memories, and all that, sort of like I get every time I sit down the day after a great fisting. [:)]

Delilah Deb



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