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zoescherry -> Experiences with Humiliation? (1/25/2008 2:53:17 PM)

Well ..having been asked by 2 Mistresses to start a topic on this subject how can i refuse. Humiliation is an often talked about fantasy by sub guys particulary those of us that enjoy the sissy type cd/tv play. In my experience its something that can be very much a double edges sword as it can give you the most electric buzzes or put you in a real turmoil. What id like to ask you folk is what are your experiences desires and fantasys in this area and how have you found dealing with both the high and lows it can enduce. For my part my reasons are given below.

First and foremost im a guy an average looking middle aged guy that loves to wear a frock for fun. I love and adore women and love being in their company the humiliation is i can never ever be regarded as the real deal either male or female . Im there simply as an amusement to both sexes and the best i can ever achieve is being the sissy. Oh i might share the womens time and their confidences, i might and often do see them naked, help the dress, bath and help them get ready for a date..but thats the closest i will ever get..my natural male urges are supressed..(my way of serving perhaps.) Oh im shown affection, flirted with, teased and tormented and even allowd male lovers..just never women..lol which is what i want above all else..my natual male ego is humilated.

This role is reinforced with my cuckol situation a real emotional rollercoaster..but deliciously so. As i love and adore my Mistress so much i want her to have everything she desires..and if that's a :::laughing:: real man then so be it..again my male ego is squashed. My role as a sissy husband/wife is one of extremes im not expected to behave or act like a real woman my role is dress in a fashion that most real women would shudder at...playing the fool again humiliating if its not how you feel.

Anyways before i waffle on..would love to hear of others experiences in this area..what is it that sends that shiver down your spine and that little thing your drawn to do despite every sense you have saying..stay away..<g>




jasmine2008 -> RE: Experiences with Humiliation? (1/25/2008 3:03:14 PM)

hey i whish mydommne would hummulate me sometimes i think i need it



stripmymanhood -> RE: Experiences with Humiliation? (1/25/2008 3:47:31 PM)

For me, the appeal of humiliation is in the aftermath, not in the actual act at the time...seeing that i can be stretched to do things for the pleasure of another is what gets me going...specifically, the idea that my manhood is being taken in one way or another...at the time...i'm horrified in some way by what i'm doing...but later...looking back on the experience...these are the things that get me going.



Reigna -> RE: Experiences with Humiliation? (1/25/2008 8:13:26 PM)

So you're into cuckoldry! Has this always been an interest of yours? If not, how did it develop? This is one of those areas where I'm not sure I could go, particularly if it involved sharing my sub with a "real man." I don't enjoy sharing. But never say never, eh? 



iwearpanties -> RE: Experiences with Humiliation? (1/26/2008 9:48:57 AM)

ive had a few humiliations one i never thoguth would happen when i was made too expose my self to a male Dom as the panty wearing sub male i am  it was the frist time anther male ever saw me in females things the excitement and thrill mixed with the embrassment and shame or humiliation was and is somethings i cant explain.....we had spoken about it and she knew it was big fear of mine to be outed and seen by anther male was some thign ill  never for get anyone else every good thur this



MsCfromMelbourne -> RE: Experiences with Humiliation? (1/26/2008 4:08:53 PM)

Our city had a lovely CD French Maid who would totter each day to the Post Office in her 6 inch heels and frilly frocks to do the daily postage for our local BDSM store.

She was an exhibitionist and loved all the public attention.  Even though it was mostly laughing and pointing (as the OP says, many sissy type CDs assume the clown/jester role)

But she was also deeply afraid of being verbally abused and/or bashed by people who hate TVs of any kind.

Every time she conquered her fear of verbal and physical abuse to walk to the Post Office, she was exhilarated

Perhaps that explains why some sissies want to be "forced" into humilating public exposure.  Their personal triumph over fear and shame.





iwearpanties -> RE: Experiences with Humiliation? (1/27/2008 4:02:55 AM)

it think many a submives crave and want too experance humiliations and embrassments in all types of forms and public is one that can realy push you to limits or makeing you crave more and dareing thigns



chiaThePet -> RE: Experiences with Humiliation? (1/27/2008 8:21:36 AM)

Well, I realized after I arrived at work yesterday, that I had on two different
shoes, sooooo embarrassing I must say. Though I did eventually enjoy all
the attention it brought me in the long run.

I suppose when all is said and done, it made me happy, so count me in.

A little color in the cheeks isn't such a bad thing. (minds out of the gutter)

chia* (the pet)



SubJordanTyler -> RE: Experiences with Humiliation? (1/27/2008 9:08:19 AM)

Feminization for me isn't about humiliation, but about becoming and acting like a real woman.  Humiliation is a big part of what I am involved in, but it's always done to me as a male - and a naked male.  It's about stripping the manhood away from me and making the male part of me seem worthless.  I'm humiliated as a male - never as a CD or sissy or anything like that.



MzStripes -> RE: Experiences with Humiliation? (1/27/2008 10:06:56 AM)

I agree there are many ways to humilate a male other than as a sissy. I've found the use of a good strapon works wonders, especially once they realize they begin to crave that penetration. But that is my twist...it is how I enjoy things.

Mz Stripes



mindwarp -> RE: Experiences with Humiliation? (1/27/2008 10:31:21 AM)

i personally dont agree that humilation should be involved in the bdsm lifestyle, as subs we are human beings, you wouldnt treat a dog that way sorry its just my personal opinion, those that do like i feel for them, i know i will never do it as long as i live i find it a disgraceful trait but thats me
                                    m



stripmymanhood -> RE: Experiences with Humiliation? (1/27/2008 12:06:27 PM)

Hey...i have a copyright on that phrase!

quote:

ORIGINAL: SubJordanTyler

...It's about stripping the manhood away from me and making the male part of me seem worthless.  I'm humiliated as a male - never as a CD or sissy or anything like that.



iwearpanties -> RE: Experiences with Humiliation? (1/27/2008 12:13:35 PM)

if you feel humiliation shouldnt be part of B/d then what should it be a part of ? i think many of us crave the humiliatioons in time as submissive ?  havent you ever wondered what a Mistress or master has in store for you ?   i know i also feel this way i rather not know and have too go thur with it of cousre with reason



SubJordanTyler -> RE: Experiences with Humiliation? (1/27/2008 12:15:10 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MzStripes

I agree there are many ways to humilate a male other than as a sissy. I've found the use of a good strapon works wonders, especially once they realize they begin to crave that penetration. But that is my twist...it is how I enjoy things.

Mz Stripes


The strap-on is the best way to humiliate me as a male - to be bent over and be taken hard in the ass is to give over all control to someone else.  And yes, I soon began to crave it and what it represents.........especially as the pain begins to increase.



SubJordanTyler -> RE: Experiences with Humiliation? (1/27/2008 12:17:12 PM)

I crave the humiliation myself, but if someone else doesn't, there isn't anything wrong with that.  We should just do what we like and enjoy and if you don't like and enjoy it, don't do it.  I usually am treated worse that you would a dog - but that's just part of the humiliation of taking away my manhood.  I don't see it as anything bad or wrong.



mindwarp -> RE: Experiences with Humiliation? (1/27/2008 12:33:26 PM)

yes it is a bad thing your a human being and if you cant see that each to there own, i wouldnt allow it by anyone in bdsm or in vanilla life its not right



AAkasha -> RE: Experiences with Humiliation? (1/27/2008 12:50:56 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mindwarp

yes it is a bad thing your a human being and if you cant see that each to there own, i wouldnt allow it by anyone in bdsm or in vanilla life its not right


Great, another expert who has never been in a bdsm relationship and lives with his parents at age 40.  Before you start judging what should and should not be acceptable, you should get some experience under your belt. Humiliation and various forms of "ego-play" are common among kinky people. 
Akasha



mindwarp -> RE: Experiences with Humiliation? (1/27/2008 12:57:56 PM)

no im not an expert, i just dont agree to it, and just because im nearly 40 and live with 2 disabled parents dont slag them please , yes i have 5 years experience but was taken into account my likes and dislikes, if someone trys humiliation tactics then sorry i dont play, and never will, so before assuming i know everything ask and dont start pulling people down you dont know end of conversation



MsCfromMelbourne -> RE: Experiences with Humiliation? (1/27/2008 3:55:28 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mindwarp

, if someone trys humiliation tactics then sorry i dont play, and never will,


Humiliation is a feeling and only you can choose how you will - or will not - feel.

No-one can control another person's emotional response without his or her consent. 

No Domme on the planet can humiliate a man if he refuses to feel humiliated.  Any attempt will fail. 

A man might be unable to control his body (eg it feels pain), but he is always in full control of his mind (although I recognise that some people - like our mothers - have the knack of making us all lose control eventually - but thats non-consensual abuse not consensual BDSM!!)

Healthy men who crave humiliation play have a strong sense of self and good self esteem.  They find humiliation great fun, because they know its just make-believe and they want the emotional thrill.  It is erotic teasing to them.  They feel better - not worse - about themselves afterwards

However, there's very good reasons why men who are less than supremely confident in themselves and/or not thrill seekers should not play around with humiliation.  It is - after all - edge play. 




 



lilrey -> RE: Experiences with Humiliation? (1/27/2008 3:59:35 PM)

mindwarp,   I feel like the problem that occurred here was in your wording. Your thought was that by making it your personal feelings, it negated that your statement was telling people in a BDSM topic about a form of play, that it had no place in BDSM. It would be like me saying, In my opinion no one should use dildos because it's appalling (not my true opinion, they are fun ^_^ ). You should probably approach your statement in a fashion of "I can't stand humiliation; it's just not my thing." That would fit with your, to each their own philosophy after you had already said something that sounded judgmental. It was wording, and that's all you have in text to express yourself. My advice is to be careful and remember you can be unclear or misinterpreted, take it or not but good luck regardless. ^-^



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