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Taik -> RE: Boys... Speak up and tell us what is it that you want! (9/3/2005 9:44:58 AM)
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1) What motivates you to be submissive?
The enjoyment and happiness she gets from being in complete control, and the pleasure she derives from exerting it inside our consensual relationship.
2) Why do you identify yourself that way?
Becuase I don't see a way to give her that complete control without submitting to her, and consiously submitting is a natural conclusion to reach in order to achive and enjoy things that we both seek in this type of relationship.
3) What are you searching for in a Domme?
Someone who is confident in themselves know's what they want and what they expect both in and out of this lifestyle. Someone looking for a life partner to share everything with both in and outside of the lifestyle as well. Has an idea or plan of where she wants to go in life and how she might get there. Enjoys travel, the outdoors, and intellectual conversation. Who is willing to respect my bounds and comfort level and work with me one them, as we explore her intrests in the lifestyle, while occasionally dabbling in mine. But mostly, someone who will let me put her first and before myself, while allowing me to be myself and and make my own decissions. I don't want to be a doormat.
4) What are the qualities and attributes that you look for in a Domme?
I think I covered most of these above, but *shrug* Intelligance, careing attitude, willingness to explore and try new things. Has ideas of thier own and is more then willing to share them and even discuss them. Strong character and knows what she wants from her sub, and is willing to tell him instead of having him jump through hoops for those answers.
5) What is the hardest part of being a male sub?
Convincing people I don't want to be a doormat, that I have a mind and I want to use it. Seperating myself from the doormats, and the guys who just want wanking material. Convincing people that one can still be submissive, while being able to make thier own choices and act on thier own accord.
6) What kind of challenges do you face when attempting to approach a Domme?
Mentioned some of these already too, seperating myself from the crowd of doormats and fantasizers. My location and the understanding that I travel a lot, so many Domme's want someone close and in thier local area, not that I don't understand that and there isn't anythign wrong with it, my life just isn't condusive to it at this point.
7) What are you biggest fears when meeting a Domme?
In reguards to BDSM, that she will take things to far. In reguards to everything else, that ackward feeling of nervousness at first meeting and the inital breaking of the ice. Also behavior.. Do I hug her? Do I kiss her? Is it ok to take her hand crossing the street? What things does she consider socially acepptable and what is she comfortable with, in reguards to where we are in the relationship.
8) What do you believe to be your best strengths and attributes? And do you feel they are often overlooked?
My mind, my handyman skills, my ability to acomplish tasks that I havn't done before. I think only the last one gets overlooked, although the second one does too, but through no fault of her, more along the lines of the fact that the oppertunity to use it never presents it's self.
Taik
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