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ForcefuIHands -> Hair-ed Limits... (1/26/2008 11:07:04 AM)

This is a bit of a random post but after talking to a fellow Dominant about our own choice of hair styling, an interesting subject arose. There's a bit of an unusual hard limit out there, and it deals with hair.

Let me say, I am a fan of short hair on girls. Not that I expect anything as sheared as a buzz cut, but I like to see the shoulders and neck. A good rule would be enough to get a fist full. But, in reflection, every sub has posted an objection to the idea of getting a hair cut. I find this suddenly amusing. There have been less objections to piercings, tattoos, spanking, humiliation, nasty names, and roughly every depraved thing one can imagine. The minute you suggest cutting someone's hair, welcome to a new limit. I suppose a piercing heals, but a bad haircut feels like forever?

I think they should add this to the limits lists, and in curiosity, I want to know if anyone else has stories related to their locks, or the loss thereof. So, question, girls: Would you let a Dominant choose your hairstyle?

We'll say they make a salon trip out of it, a professional cut, and not just grabbing a pair of scissors. Cheers!



nothing4ever -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (1/26/2008 11:22:27 AM)

Oh I am oh so joyed that you posted this question to everyone!

(Being the fellow Dominant) I do not at all understand this one! I have even come across men who have cutting their hair as a limit.

Why is something like a haircut, that will grow back within a few months such a major thing to people, who, almost without second thought will let people cut them, beat them & stick them with needles all of which can have effects (such as scars) that last longer than the said haircut?

Maybe it's because I have never had any attachment to my hair.. that I don't understand it, but I am very much looking forward to some input!



fullofgrace69 -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (1/26/2008 11:26:00 AM)

i'm growing my hair, its been too short for too long now and i hate it, i need for it to be long now otherwise im not gonna feel happy. you happen to be an exception to the rule, most doms i know want subbies with long hair so they can drag them here there and everywhere basically. i wouldnt cut my hair for anyone, but that is mostly because to many ppl in my nilla life know of my desire to grow my hair and there would be too many questions if all of a sudden it all got chopped of again. i have before dyed my hair according to a Doms desire, and i do take into account as much as possible wot they want. also with my job my hair has to be professional at all times, so i need to know i can retain some control over that.
but that's just me



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (1/26/2008 11:29:38 AM)

No. I would not. It's my hair, it's on my head, I have no interest in letting a potential control something or change something that works for me. He's not the one that has to maintain it or deal with it if the cut don't work out, ect ect.

I'd also refuse to dye it or do any other chemical or harsh treatmento n it. Because I do not believe in dying or perming or doing harsh things that harm the hair.

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ORIGINAL: ForcefuIHands

. So, question, girls: Would you let a Dominant choose your hairstyle?




sexyred1 -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (1/26/2008 11:29:47 AM)

Ah....this is why Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus..or on any other planet.

Boys, let me explain. You can do tons of kinky, nasty, perverted stuff to us, ravage, plunder, pillage us, really, we like it, no kidding.

But...when it comes to the hair?? Touch a hair on my head other than to pull it, and I become like Red Sonja with fire bolts shooting out of my eyes.

Not every woman looks good with short hair. Some of us have gorgeous hair and we look good with it longer. Some of us like to have our long, thick hair wrapped around someone's fist, you cannot do that with short hair.

I believe that asking a woman to cut her hair off to satisfy a whim of yours would be akin to a woman asking you to please cut off about an inch of your penis; it may not grow back, but hey, wouldn't you do it to satsify your partner?

(I know, not the fairest of analogies, but too damn bad).



christine1 -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (1/26/2008 11:30:37 AM)

i would probably change my haircolor for someone as long as it wasn't a request for bright blue or something, but i'd never shave my head or cut it drastically because i was ordered to....some things i just won't do.  if he can't accept me for how i am, hair and all...then we both need to move on.



mbes -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (1/26/2008 11:34:35 AM)

For many people, hair is a large part of their identity. It's not just women either, just watch what some men do to their heads when they start losing hair. I've never seen a woman with a comb-over. [:D]
I like having long hair, because it's "me". I get a lot of comments on it, and I feel better when it's longer. And I can't exactly cover it with clothing like I could most tattoos when it's not "me".
I wouldn't call it a hard limit for me, but it would take some getting used to, to change it drastically.



nothing4ever -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (1/26/2008 11:34:40 AM)

I am actually a female. I do not understand this. It is JUST hair & it will grow back... to me anyway. So to say it's just men who don't get it is oh so wrong.

Smiles.



fasn8nsub -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (1/26/2008 11:37:20 AM)

If i were one of those women with beautiful, long, shiny, managable, "shampoo-commercial" heads of hair that i had worked hard to grow and keep healthy looking, then i would probably be annoyed if my Master asked me to get it cut short.  With hair like that, she can put it up so you can have her neck and shoulders exposed.  No need to cut it off.  i wish i had such problems!  Just my two cents worth.

~slavebitch

You can check out any time you like... but you can never leave.



sexyred1 -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (1/26/2008 11:37:47 AM)

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ORIGINAL: nothing4ever

I am actually a female. I do not understand this. It is JUST hair & it will grow back... to me anyway. So to say it's just men who don't get it is oh so wrong.

Smiles.


You must not have great hair, sorry.

Smiles.



cuffncollar -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (1/26/2008 11:40:54 AM)

my hair and clothes are limits.....i like my hair short, and my taste in clothes is eclectic!



ForcefuIHands -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (1/26/2008 11:46:38 AM)

Wow, talk about a hot thread, all of a sudden. I never realized hair was taken quite so personally. Why do you think this is? I am amused by the "accept me for me" responses, especially since hair is, in fact, a renewable resource, as mentioned before. Is your hairstyle such a deeply intimate expenditure of one's very being? Is it the last bastion of control you can't let go of? I don't quite make the connection between hair and penis-chopping, but maybe that's a guy thing.

I have been through a few different hair combinations, both cut and color. Maybe it is a control thing.



sweetwenchie -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (1/26/2008 11:49:16 AM)

Once upon a time i had fun playing with  my hair, had mohawks, buzz cuts, all sort of freaky good styles back in my wild youth ~sigh~  Now i would have to stop and consider chopping my hair off.  Odd as it sounds, my hair has become part of my identity.  Thankfully i honestly cannot see being asked to cut it short by anyone.  Of course being single i can do what i want with it ~grin~   For some reason i have the type of hair that people notice and comment on. i have even had little old ladies coming up and asking if they could touch my hair.  It is hot in summer, and a terrific pain in the ass to control the curls, but the thought of cutting it off and risk looking like a short chubby poodle???  Terrifying thought! 

That said, would i consider my hair a hard limit?  No, if i had a SO in my life and He wanted it short, i would comply, with the hopes that He would see how ridiculous and ghastly i looked and would let me grow it long again.

ugh, i need coffee... pardon the rambling response to a straightforward question.



sexyred1 -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (1/26/2008 11:51:09 AM)

No, it is a vanity/identity thing. My hair is something everyone notices and comments on. I am a born redhead. It is part of me. Why would I want to purposefully make myself look bad to satisfy someone's control freak issues? That makes no sense. It has nothing to do with "last bastion of control", I am not a no limits person anyway, so that is irrelevent to me.

But then again...in my time on earth and with all the men I have been with, not one of them would have ever asked me to do such a thing. Why? Because A. They loved my hair and B. they established their Dominance and control through other ways that would not cause me long term problems, as cutting my hair off would have.

What on earth is so difficult to understand about this?



lynn20063 -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (1/26/2008 11:54:24 AM)

I have crazy curly hair...to have it cut much shorter would simply make me look like a poodle gone bad

and it grows slow...and yes, I believe a lot of women have a lot of ~self~ invested in their hair...but I will remember to make this a hard limit  :)



lynn20063 -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (1/26/2008 11:56:45 AM)

when I went to post,your post wasn't showing

but the dual poodle thing is funny



SubmissiveAK -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (1/26/2008 11:58:44 AM)

For me its an identity thing. My hair is the most feminine feature I have... its a big part of how I self-identify (in a positive way). I have considered cutting it at times, usually when I am depressed (though I used to have it shaved at one point) but I know that if I did I probably would cry for a week. I just cant see doing this... I could get a hair cut or styled for his/her tastes, but cutting it short/off... its one of my few (known) limits.

~submissiveAK~



sweetwenchie -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (1/26/2008 11:59:49 AM)

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1


But then again...in my time on earth and with all the men I have been with, not one of them would have ever asked me to do such a thing. Why? Because A. They loved my hair and B. they established their Dominance and control through other ways that would not cause me long term problems, as cutting my hair off would have.

What on earth is so difficult to understand about this?


Not a thing hun  ~smile~  i completely agree with that statement.  Honestly cannot recall ever being asked to cut it, generally i get threatened if i ever consider cutting it shorter.  Not that i would ;-)  My wild youth is long gone



christine1 -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (1/26/2008 12:00:01 PM)

i have struggled with my curly hair for more years than not and have been through hundreds of hair styles...my most favorite but abhored was my mullett in high school lol, and i've finally found something that works for me and my face shape, etc.  it is me, i won't change the basic me, it would be like a dominant wanting to curb or change my sense of humor, that is part of me as well, some things i won't change for another person.  i'm not trying to be bitchy, it is just how i am...the question was asked, i answered honestly.



sweetwenchie -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (1/26/2008 12:00:56 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: lynn20063

when I went to post,your post wasn't showing

but the dual poodle thing is funny


Must be a curly hair thing, eh?[:D]



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