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MasterKalif -> RE: How to get your Email Read (or, CM and you) (1/27/2008 10:12:09 PM)

I have to agree with LordandMaster, I think about 10% of the people who use this site even read the forums...and by just getting exposure doesn't necessarily increase your chances of meeting new people; I have so far only met one person from CM...

Also for those who complain on the one liners...I can't blame the trolls or even real people who are searching for this. I have many a time written a thoughtful response after reading a profile, have explained a little about me (not my life story just a short intro) yet no response, lucky if you get a  generic response of "I have too many e-mails I will answer as soon as I can" or "no thanks" (in my opinion "no thanks" is much more sincere and polite from my perspective). Hence this is why people write generic messages or the "hi" as it is easier less time consuming way of exposure (I don't do it out of principle). I dunno I think this site is for a few friendly people to talk to about politics and a bunch of teenagers out for fun creating fake profiles....I guess being in this lifestyle it can be expected it will be more difficult than a vanilla site.



capturedprincess -> RE: How to get your Email Read (or, CM and you) (1/28/2008 5:11:15 AM)

I find it funny (or sad) that their have been a couple of people who have sent me messages that I replied with a polite version of "no thank you" that then send me nasty rude email to which I will sometimes reply in kind (OK I'm not perfect). I'll sometimes block the profile or just delete any further messages unread.

But the really sad part is that these people are at the top of the "Who Viewing Me?" list every morning.  I don't understand why someone would obsess over a bunch of words and pictures on the Internet after burning their bridges.



Stephann -> RE: How to get your Email Read (or, CM and you) (1/28/2008 7:31:04 AM)

Hiya captured,

different people handle rejection differently; I think it's one of the best ways to determine their character.

Still, something I should have added earlier was that introductory messages that demand or expect anything more than "Hi, you're interesting, and I'd like to learn more about you." seem both presumptuous, and a little on the desperate side.  I know for a fact, had I written a "You're an awesome girl, and I want you to become my slave" to charlotte, we probably wouldn't have met; I'd seen emails in exactly that tone from men that were firmly rejected by her, before she and I had met.

Stephan



charlotte12 -> RE: How to get your Email Read (or, CM and you) (1/28/2008 8:36:15 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Stephann

Hiya captured,

different people handle rejection differently; I think it's one of the best ways to determine their character.

Still, something I should have added earlier was that introductory messages that demand or expect anything more than "Hi, you're interesting, and I'd like to learn more about you." seem both presumptuous, and a little on the desperate side.  I know for a fact, had I written a "You're an awesome girl, and I want you to become my slave" to charlotte, we probably wouldn't have met; I'd seen emails in exactly that tone from men that were firmly rejected by her, before she and I had met.

Stephan



I would fallen to my knees and begged your collar over webcam...i swear [;)]

But seriously, that was the thing I was going to elaborate on earlier and never made it back to this thread.   People who are too into me too quickly come across as extremly desperate.  Some people may be flattered that you think they're the best person to walk the face of the planet upon first contact but many of us already know this about ourselves ([;)]just kidding) and would like to see the person we're talking to being choosy as well.  I personally want to be with someone who cares that we're compatible too and has some idea of things he wants in a partner and is taking the same time I am to make sure these things match up.  An inital email of, "You seem like a very interesting person and "I'd like to get to know you better," is a million times more appealing than "You are definitely the person for me," suggesting that they have no actual desire to get to know you since they clearly already know everything there is to know about you....[&:]

charlotte





capturedprincess -> RE: How to get your Email Read (or, CM and you) (1/28/2008 8:46:27 AM)

If I'm not interested and the person has taken the time to write an actual thoughtful email, they get a polite reply, often with the "why" I'm not interested. Curiously enough the reason I'm often not interested is becuae of the way they present themselves in their profile. For example, a lot of peopel self-identify as a "Daddy Dom" which is someting in my profile that I state I absolutely do not want.  Or they say that they are looking for a sex/domestic slave, also something that doesn't interest me as a way of life (and is covered in my profile).  But too often, when I call them on what they say in their profile, they backpedal and try an other approach or just get rude and nasty in their response.

If the person sends me a one-liner I usually just delete it with no response.

If they send me a message in which they tell me how the will sexually abuse me and humiliated me to make me their slave (or some version thereof) they get a nasty reply and a block. Not for the sexual content, which is just tacky and indicates, to me, a lack of maturity, but because if they had read the part where I have no interest in being a slave they might have sent me a more interesting message. ;)

I work with words for a living; perhaps my standards are too high to expect other people to have some facility with the language.




AquaticSub -> RE: How to get your Email Read (or, CM and you) (1/28/2008 12:54:18 PM)

~Fast Reply~

Great advice. I would just add to read the profile twice to see if they mention how they want to be addressed.



Stephann -> RE: How to get your Email Read (or, CM and you) (1/28/2008 1:03:13 PM)

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ORIGINAL: capturedprincess

If I'm not interested and the person has taken the time to write an actual thoughtful email, they get a polite reply, often with the "why" I'm not interested. Curiously enough the reason I'm often not interested is becuae of the way they present themselves in their profile. For example, a lot of peopel self-identify as a "Daddy Dom" which is someting in my profile that I state I absolutely do not want.  Or they say that they are looking for a sex/domestic slave, also something that doesn't interest me as a way of life (and is covered in my profile).  But too often, when I call them on what they say in their profile, they backpedal and try an other approach or just get rude and nasty in their response.

If the person sends me a one-liner I usually just delete it with no response.

If they send me a message in which they tell me how the will sexually abuse me and humiliated me to make me their slave (or some version thereof) they get a nasty reply and a block. Not for the sexual content, which is just tacky and indicates, to me, a lack of maturity, but because if they had read the part where I have no interest in being a slave they might have sent me a more interesting message. ;)

I work with words for a living; perhaps my standards are too high to expect other people to have some facility with the language.




A woman who understands the use of semi-colons; a woman after my own heart! <3

Stephan



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