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RE: Your physical appearance - 1/30/2008 12:47:52 PM

breatheasone

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

First hugs sexred1 for the great answers she gave here. DommeofFantasies. That a person cannot have a sexual relationship with an unattractive person is pure garbage. I know of relationships that would have you tossing that ideal out the wimdow. The op claims that her hubby had an affair on her. Mmmm Tell me again what is it that she is having now. You are attractive in your own eyes. That is great. If it bothers you now that your hubby finds you unattractive then what is stopping you from leaving. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. So not everyone is going to find you attractive. Live with it.

No sir ...I am not doing anything that my husband hasn't approved of... My husband and I even talk about my D/s relationship often just to make sure he is still comfortable with the situation.
I posted this ealier in this thread.......

"I know is shouldn't be important....I really do....but at least now I know why my husband of 24 years and father of my 3 kids doesn't want to have sex any more. What kills me is that it is my fault. I know I gained more weight with the kids then I should have....and I know I STAYED heavy WAY too long....so when I did finally lose weight (80 pounds, no drugs, no surgery, on my own) my skin didn't "forgive" me...and my body looks like a deflated balloon.... I get it.....It just really took the wind out of my sails you know? "

I worked VERY hard to lose that weight!...and may I add that hubby used to be a 32 waist when we married, and now wears a 42 and I DON'T turn him down ..... I guess I didn't realize I wouldn't be "wanted" anymore because him and I grew older TOGETHER I have been with this man OVER half my life.

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RE: Your physical appearance - 1/30/2008 12:54:13 PM

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I don't have anything nice to say about your husband.

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RE: Your physical appearance - 1/30/2008 1:01:32 PM

LadyHathor

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I don't have anything nice to say about your husband.

What she said.

So the man on your profile is not your husband but your Master? Whoa baby and you are worried why? OkOk sorry, had to--I know, I get the love connection--to be honest, Me thinks his next line will be:

"Well honey since you dont satisfy me sexually---I'm going to look for a submissivr to fulfill me"

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RE: Your physical appearance - 1/30/2008 1:03:54 PM

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Wow ... are you sure you aren't married to my husband's brother, breatheasone? ... he took my self-esteem and ground it into the mud. It has taken my Master months and months of patience to get me where I am now .. and even now .. Shhhhh, don't tell anyone .. but even now, when he says something wonderful to me, or tells me I am beautiful or that he loves me body, a small voice inside me wimpers 'liar!!!!!' ... it never really goes away, but it can be compartmentalized to the point where it's managable .. sorta ...

please feel free to PM me if you ever want to chat, sweetie ..x

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RE: Your physical appearance - 1/30/2008 2:07:05 PM

breatheasone

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ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I don't have anything nice to say about your husband.

What she said.

So the man on your profile is not your husband but your Master? Whoa baby and you are worried why? OkOk sorry, had to--I know, I get the love connection--to be honest, Me thinks his next line will be:

"Well honey since you dont satisfy me sexually---I'm going to look for a submissivr to fulfill me"

When my husband and I had the talk about 2 years ago that facilitated me going outside the marriage for a D/s relationship (hubby is not at all interested in that kind of dynamic) he and I discussed HIS needs and mine....He is and has been FOR TWO YEARS NOW able to seek out what it is he feels he needs sexually, that I obviously don't have any more in his eyes. I had asked him not long ago in fact if he was looking, he said and I quote..."Its too much work, I don't want to hassle with it." He even asked me to find him a woman LOL. I respectfully declined that assignment.

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RE: Your physical appearance - 1/30/2008 2:08:00 PM

KatyLied

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He even asked me to find him a woman LOL. I respectfully declined that assignment.

I didn't think I could think less of him. I was wrong.

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RE: Your physical appearance - 1/30/2008 2:12:28 PM

breatheasone

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ORIGINAL: venusinblu

Wow ... are you sure you aren't married to my husband's brother, breatheasone? ... he took my self-esteem and ground it into the mud. It has taken my Master months and months of patience to get me where I am now .. and even now .. Shhhhh, don't tell anyone .. but even now, when he says something wonderful to me, or tells me I am beautiful or that he loves me body, a small voice inside me wimpers 'liar!!!!!' ... it never really goes away, but it can be compartmentalized to the point where it's managable .. sorta ...

please feel free to PM me if you ever want to chat, sweetie ..x

OMG....thats EXACTLY how it is with me....it actually HURTS me when bill(hubby) says nice things....because his actions don't match what he IS saying...it matches what he DID say

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RE: Your physical appearance - 1/30/2008 2:25:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: breatheasone
OMG....thats EXACTLY how it is with me....it actually HURTS me when bill(hubby) says nice things....because his actions don't match what he IS saying...it matches what he DID say

And he descends yet another notch... is he in the depths of hell yet, or can he sink a little lower?

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RE: Your physical appearance - 1/30/2008 2:30:08 PM

LadyHathor

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Ok so here is My deal----since he is too lazy to find someone ( gawd how sleezy is that, talk about a ho)---he obviously loves his hand and his pecker more--invest in him:

My size barbie:                                                            $217.00

Enlargement mirror                                                  $150.00
     ( you know objects appear larger than they are)

Painting the spare room                                            $ 75.00

Letting him know who rules:                                   Priceless

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RE: Your physical appearance - 1/30/2008 2:46:59 PM

SailingBum

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ORIGINAL: Level

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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

For a woman, sexy lingerie. It works every time, no matter what you look like. Men especially are rigged up mentally to see the "good bits" on a womans body.

Gotta disagree my friend. I have a co-worker, there is no lingerie that would help....... of course, that's all subjective. She has a b/f that loves and lusts for her.

Not sure when he fell and hit his head.....

You mean love ain't BLIND. all these years i've been lied to.

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RE: Your physical appearance - 1/30/2008 4:21:30 PM

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As for me, I have begun to get a very soft spot for old people... I watch them, and I often think that they are so beautiful.... I mean people in their 90s. There is something about some people... they radiate something from within... and age doesn't dim it.

That is so very very true.

And breathe, you are lovely. Thoughtful as well. What a terrific combination.

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RE: Your physical appearance - 1/30/2008 6:34:24 PM

ELUSIVE1

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

You know, there is this guru guy I used to listen to often on a podcast that talked about how no one else's appreciation of us can ever fill us up... we have to give that to ourselves. It is a hard thing to do, but it is possible to love ourselves first and best.

You know, that is very true. I think that is a lesson that many women need to realize, especially women who are used to getting alot of attention or who always relied on men for that appreciation. Also as you get older and your star starts to fade, it is something you must do for yourself, difficult as it may be.

You know, there is a Bette Davis movie called Mrs. Skeffington that I saw that I never forgot. There was a line in the movie where someone, I think it was Claude Rains, her husband, said, "A woman is her most beautiful when she is truly loved".

So if you find someone who truly loves you, you will be beautiful to them.

domyar is right--you are right on target with that answer Sexyred1.
I do hate the way people obsess about looks though. . .if anyone told me they like me 'despite' of my looks, I'd give them the big ol boot so fast....as well as if somene liked me because I look good on his arm...same boot, different booty, but same basic principle

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RE: Your physical appearance - 1/30/2008 6:39:24 PM

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Well, I guess I have a different opinion. I'd be surprise to learn they did like my looks. I'm a big guy, not a lot of hair (damn, I do miss my hair) but I'm comfortable with myself. I always thought that the ladies loved me for my sparkling personality, wit and intelligence. Damn, I'm in trouble.

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RE: Your physical appearance - 1/30/2008 6:53:03 PM

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ORIGINAL: MidMichCowboy

Well, I guess I have a different opinion. I'd be surprise to learn they did like my looks. I'm a big guy, not a lot of hair (damn, I do miss my hair) but I'm comfortable with myself. I always thought that the ladies loved me for my sparkling personality, wit and intelligence. Damn, I'm in trouble.

Yah, i'm guessing this is just a question for the ladies... i've never been under any illusion that i'm attractive. It still seems unnecessarily rude to go ahead and point it out, though.

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RE: Your physical appearance - 1/30/2008 7:14:58 PM

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I would not mind a bit if they did not find me attractive at first. However, I would feel greatly insulted if they could not come to gradually appreciate my appearance. I understand that personality is far more important, but it is true that partners should find more beauty in each others' looks the closer they become. If they did not find me attractive I would feel that I had let them down emotionally.

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RE: Your physical appearance - 1/30/2008 8:09:17 PM

InkedMaster

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eyesopened says she loves my appearance, personally I think she loves my incredibly huge tool and Harley, okay the Harley, I'm hung more like a can of cat food...short but wide!

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RE: Your physical appearance - 1/30/2008 9:11:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: Aereci

I would not mind a bit if they did not find me attractive at first. However, I would feel greatly insulted if they could not come to gradually appreciate my appearance. I understand that personality is far more important, but it is true that partners should find more beauty in each others' looks the closer they become. If they did not find me attractive I would feel that I had let them down emotionally.

uh...sorry, but anyone who did not find you attractive must have a seeing eye dog!

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RE: Your physical appearance - 1/30/2008 9:13:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: InkedMaster

eyesopened says she loves my appearance, personally I think she loves my incredibly huge tool and Harley, okay the Harley, I'm hung more like a can of cat food...short but wide!

If it's not too much trubble, I think we ladies would like to see some proof

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RE: Your physical appearance - 1/30/2008 9:21:33 PM

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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

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ORIGINAL: InkedMaster

eyesopened says she loves my appearance, personally I think she loves my incredibly huge tool and Harley, okay the Harley, I'm hung more like a can of cat food...short but wide!

If it's not too much trubble, I think we ladies would like to see some proof

em.....no i dont want to see that.

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RE: Your physical appearance - 1/30/2008 9:23:39 PM

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I said LADIES!!!

Just kidding

ya know I luvs ya really!!

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