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Carmeldelight -> RE: Erectile Dysfunctonal (1/31/2008 5:58:50 AM)
Our problems lyes with him be erectile dysfunctional. I understand how he feels because last year I had found a lump in my breast. All I could think about was losing my breast,so I am trying to work this matter out.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Erectile Dysfunctonal (1/31/2008 6:17:29 AM)
~fast reply~ my fiance has ED (due to medical problems/surgeries/medications) and has been dealing with it for the last 7 years. he went through a period like yours is going through now. it took him a long time through therapy and family support to get back where he can function normally around others without having the rage,etc, i can see this relationship getting worse than better each time his cock doesn't stay for more than a minute ....or second or not at all. he needs to see doctor and psychiatrist to handle this. if it was me - i wouldn't be sticking around until he puts me in the hospital or the morgue. you have to think about your health and safety too if you're planning to stay in this relationship. you have to seriously think is it worth being blamed for his ED or being humiliated in front of his friends. if this is the type of relationship you wished to have, then stay. if not, leave however you're the only one who can decide what is right for yourself.

venusinblu -> RE: Erectile Dysfunctonal (1/31/2008 6:21:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl ~fast reply~ my fiance has ED (due to medical problems/surgeries/medications) and has been dealing with it for the last 7 years. he went through a period like yours is going through now. it took him a long time through therapy and family support to get back where he can function normally around others without having the rage,etc, i can see this relationship getting worse than better each time his cock doesn't stay for more than a minute ....or second or not at all. he needs to see doctor and psychiatrist to handle this. if it was me - i wouldn't be sticking around until he puts me in the hospital or the morgue. you have to think about your health and safety too if you're planning to stay in this relationship. you have to seriously think is it worth being blamed for his ED or being humiliated in front of his friends. if this is the type of relationship you wished to have, then stay. if not, leave however you're the only one who can decide what is right for yourself. I feel this is excellent advice ..

Carmeldelight -> RE: Erectile Dysfunctonal (1/31/2008 6:55:01 AM)
The adive you have given was very healthy, but how does one get him to see and admit that the pensi is not working because of his medical conditions. I am the only person who knows and I am trying to be supportive to him. But he feels it is me and not him.

OmegaG -> RE: Erectile Dysfunctonal (1/31/2008 7:09:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Carmeldelight The adive you have given was very healthy, but how does one get him to see and admit that the pensi is not working because of his medical conditions. I am the only person who knows and I am trying to be supportive to him. But he feels it is me and not him. If he doesn't know that diabetes causes ED then he hasn't been watching enough TV. Seriously-- there is so much information about ED out there now that I can't imagine a grown man not having any clue as to his condition and your gentleman is under the care and supervision of a doctor which means he has access to more information.

Carmeldelight -> RE: Erectile Dysfunctonal (1/31/2008 7:14:53 AM)
He just can not admit it to him self that the penis is not working, because of his medical contiton. He also has a back problem too, which can bring on the ED problem.

OmegaG -> RE: Erectile Dysfunctonal (1/31/2008 7:17:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Carmeldelight He just can not admit it to him self that the penis is not working, because of his medical contiton. He also has a back problem too, which can bring on the ED problem. that would be a personality flaw in my world.

RCdc -> RE: Erectile Dysfunctonal (1/31/2008 7:23:18 AM)
And here is the crunch. quote: But he feels it is me and not him. It's not either of you. I get that you believe it may have something to do with his medical conditions, but it is still coming down to a 'me or him'. Get out of your head that its his medical condition. Understand that it is due to a medical condition... once you can do that, you will stop blaming each other and work on the solution. I am going to guess that you will go - wait a minute, I am not blaming him - but you are unconsciously by claiming the medical condition to be his. It's a very fine line, but pride can take that and make the man feel guilty and then it is easier to turn it back onto you. He needs to see and talk to a doctor about this. Oh, and he is beating you for it, thats just abusive. You need to work out whats best for you. the.dark.

domahpet -> RE: Erectile Dysfunctonal (1/31/2008 7:27:05 AM)
ok, ill admit its early and i might be missing something. but, here on the page it says the OP first joined on 4-22-05. yet on her profile, it says 1-21-08. what gives????? 'scuse the highjack, but seriously, does anyone know???

RCdc -> RE: Erectile Dysfunctonal (1/31/2008 7:30:16 AM)
Unless you sign up both at the same time, you will have different sign up dates. The op might have signed up here on the forum and you never have to have a profile on CM. They are different sites, but the same (if that makes sense). If you sign up on CC(here) the profile on CM might not even be the same person. I used to be darkangel years ago, but the profile on the otherside isn't me, so they kindly altered my name eventually, because I wasn't a blonde american! the.dark.

venusinblu -> RE: Erectile Dysfunctonal (1/31/2008 8:12:39 AM)
Then what are you doing, or not doing, that makes him think it's you? How on earth can it be you? Doesn't he think you're sexy enough or something? Not only is he acting out of terrible ignorance regarding his medical condition, he's doing you a great disservice by blaming you - this could have some massive impact on your self-esteem and is he worth that? I am so sorry to rant on about this, but my husband messed with my self-esteem regarding my attractiveness and his lack of a stiffie, and having met other cocks after him, I have to say that HIS cock was the one with the problem.

Zaraseeks -> RE: Erectile Dysfunctonal (1/31/2008 8:31:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark And here is the crunch. quote: But he feels it is me and not him. It's not either of you. I get that you believe it may have something to do with his medical conditions, but it is still coming down to a 'me or him'. Get out of your head that its his medical condition. Understand that it is due to a medical condition... once you can do that, you will stop blaming each other and work on the solution. I am going to guess that you will go - wait a minute, I am not blaming him - but you are unconsciously by claiming the medical condition to be his. It's a very fine line, but pride can take that and make the man feel guilty and then it is easier to turn it back onto you. He needs to see and talk to a doctor about this. Oh, and he is beating you for it, thats just abusive. You need to work out whats best for you. the.dark. I think this is the very best advice that could be given!!! Thanks Darcy!

Mercnbeth -> RE: Erectile Dysfunctonal (1/31/2008 8:37:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Carmeldelight What should I do, should I leave the relationship or stay until he figures out it is not my fault? I do love him but I am tried of takening the blame for his lame cock. I did not become his pet for this type of abuse. What would you do?????? this slave would encourage you to leave. IF, at some point in the future, he takes responsibility for his cock and seeks professional help for the issues concerning it, THEN negotiate a relationship that fulfills you both.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Erectile Dysfunctonal (1/31/2008 8:43:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Carmeldelight The adive you have given was very healthy, but how does one get him to see and admit that the pensi is not working because of his medical conditions. I am the only person who knows and I am trying to be supportive to him. But he feels it is me and not him. imho, trying to supportive to him is doing more damage than good. he has to learn how to master and handle his medical condition himself. yes be there as a support outlet however you cannot do everything to make him understand it's him not you.

parttimehotty -> RE: Erectile Dysfunctonal (1/31/2008 9:03:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: windchymes Well, if you want to be beaten because his cock won't stay hard, stay. If you don't, leave. Seems pretty cut and dried to me. [8\|]Exactly

littleone35 -> RE: Erectile Dysfunctonal (1/31/2008 9:23:54 AM)
This sounds like abuse. He is beating you because he has a medical condition? Does not sound like it is healthy for either one of you. You say you love him so i will believe that, but for you own health you may have to leave him. Matt's littleone

mnottertail -> RE: Erectile Dysfunctonal (1/31/2008 9:27:49 AM)
perhaps you could entice him to beat you with his flaccid dick. couplea reasons for that. easier on you, and he can feel as tho he is participating in some fashion. god help you if he discovers viagra or one of the other pills, however....that fucker is gonna hurt. Ron

Jeffff -> RE: Erectile Dysfunctonal (1/31/2008 9:40:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Carmeldelight I am tried of takening the blame for his lame cock. I think once this is said, the magic has pretty much gone out of the relationship Kreskin

Dnomyar -> RE: Erectile Dysfunctonal (1/31/2008 9:52:29 AM)
op how many men have you fucked all over the world??

lauren0221 -> RE: Erectile Dysfunctonal (1/31/2008 9:57:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff quote: ORIGINAL: Carmeldelight I am tried of takening the blame for his lame cock. I think once this is said, the magic has pretty much gone out of the relationship Kreskin I have to agree with you there, Jeff. And I had correct 12 typos in 8 words because I was laughing so hard.

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