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RE: Things you don't want your sub/slave to do! - 2/1/2008 4:01:32 PM

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kind of disapointing this threads not getting more replies, it's one of the more interesting ones I am following as of late.

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RE: Things you don't want your sub/slave to do! - 2/1/2008 8:45:54 PM

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Emily is not allowed to operate my espresso/cappuccino machine. Damn thing was over $300 and it's complicated. Only I touch it.

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RE: Things you don't want your sub/slave to do! - 2/1/2008 9:32:37 PM

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I don't allow anyone to clean up. I have to put things away myself, and if someone else does it I can't find a damn thing.

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RE: Things you don't want your sub/slave to do! - 2/1/2008 9:50:12 PM

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I will not allow him to touch my clothes as far as washing them because he thinks you can just dump them all in the washing machine together.

Silly question I'm sure, but may I ask why you've not taught your sub how to sort laundry along with the way you'd like to have yours done?

- pixel

Sure Pixel:

I use a special detergent. He uses cheap stuff. He doesn't separate the different types of materials.
My skin is very sensitive to cheap chemicals. So, I prefer to do my own clothing. I even hang them up better than he does.

Good question.

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As Atlanta Mistress so astutely picked up on, the root of my question was: is there a reason your sub isn't trainable to handle this task for you? If you told me to only use X brand of detergent, I don't see how that could be such a problem. If he can read, presumably he can also read labels on clothing too to help him separate the different materials, pick out delicates, and select wash temperatures, etc. Teaching someone how you like your clothes hung up seems to me to be a matter of repetition. It only seems logical to me to have him practice over and over with the same articles of clothing until he gets it right, if him doing your laundry for your is your real desire.

So once again, what's the real reason you've chosen not to train him in the way you'd like to have your clothes washed? Is he really that untrainable, do you just not want to put the effort into teaching him, or would you simply prefer to have complete control over it yourself?

Please note: there's no wrong or right answer, I'm just curious why you've chosen not to train him to handle what seems to me to be a simple task.

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RE: Things you don't want your sub/slave to do! - 2/1/2008 9:52:20 PM

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Greetings:

We all talk from time to time about what our subs/slaves to for us. Don't get me wrong here. I love my slave, and he does a lot of things for me which I always appreciate; however, there is one thing I will not let him do for me.
I will not allow him to touch my clothes as far as washing them because he thinks you can just dump them all in the washing machine together.
What is it that your sub/slave cannot do for you?

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RE: Things you don't want your sub/slave to do! - 2/1/2008 11:47:16 PM

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My hair cuts, manicures and pedicures are done only by a professional. So, if s/he is a licensed cosmetologist/nail technician, they'd be allowed to do it but even then I have my druthers and prefer my "girl" at the salon to do it. Otherwise, they may accompany me to the salon or even pay for it! It's one of the few bits of service that I refuse to assign to anyone else.

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RE: Things you don't want your sub/slave to do! - 2/2/2008 6:28:22 AM

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ORIGINAL: AtlantaMistress

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I will not allow him to touch my clothes as far as washing them because he thinks you can just dump them all in the washing machine together.

Silly question I'm sure, but may I ask why you've not taught your sub how to sort laundry along with the way you'd like to have yours done?

- pixel

Sure Pixel:

I use a special detergent. He uses cheap stuff. He doesn't separate the different types of materials.
My skin is very sensitive to cheap chemicals. So, I prefer to do my own clothing. I even hang them up better than he does.

Good question.

Regards, MissSCD

If I'm not wrong, I think MissSCD pixel is wanting to know why you wouldn't train him - make him use the RIGHT detergent, show him how to hang them...a few times having to be punished for doing it wrong, and surely you could leave the laundry to him!

AtlantaMistress:

I don't want him to do my clothes. It is that simple. He does so much more for me like cooking, did I say cooking that I can handle this myself. Besides, I have uniforms that have be just so so, and I don't feel like training him to do that right now.
My ex-husband used to hang my shirts and tops side ways on a hanger. What an idiot? That is probably the real reason behind it. It reminds me of my ex-husband.

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RE: Things you don't want your sub/slave to do! - 2/3/2008 4:27:17 AM

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Manage My money

Groom My horse

Feed the cats

Do any of My 18 yr olds chores ( she has to learn to take care of herself before she gets catered to)

Drive ( sorry one too many accidents and no one droves better than I do)

Dust the antiques

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RE: Things you don't want your sub/slave to do! - 2/3/2008 4:32:55 AM

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i'm not allowed to cook because i am a mess in the kitchen and get random cuts from..anything.
and cut His toes...yea...i had a mishap with that too...

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RE: Things you don't want your sub/slave to do! - 2/3/2008 6:01:20 AM

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I really can't think of anything. I'm pretty particular about my laundry, but then again, I'm pretty verbal about how I want it done as well. And I love having someone else paint my toes on the odd occasion that I do it. I don't mind training as to how I like everything done. And if it isn't done right I don't mind saying so and having them try again.

Cooking... ok, I may have a few meals that have to be redone, but they'll eventually get it. Driving... they'll learn what I like, I'm not a quiet passenger when I'm uncomfortable. Laundry? Really, they don't want to screw up my clothes, trust me on that. I'm one of those that would hang it back in my closet and each time I wanted to wear it would remind them of what they did to it. I don't believe a sub/slave wants an dom/owner going out looking like crap anymore then we want them to.

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RE: Things you don't want your sub/slave to do! - 2/3/2008 7:49:21 AM

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pixelslave:

I actually thought I would get by without one flame, but I guess I was wrong. It is like this, if I don't want him to do my clothes, he won't. You have no right to judge if my slave is trainable or not. He has been in the lifestyle long before you arrived in this world.
That is my final reply to you. This is a thread for Dommes, and most other subs answered the question properly.
For what it is worth, back off.

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RE: Things you don't want your sub/slave to do! - 2/3/2008 10:59:10 AM

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Actually I really don't care how he dresses, normally, and it's not my place to want him to dress better or expect him to dress better. Or to not want him to go out looking crappy. But then again I am thankful and lucky that he doesn't dress like a gang banger or some wanna be rapper with chains and pants down to his knees or what I'd consider embarrasing to be seen with. His average dress is jeans work boots and a t shirt. I am quite fine with it. He doesn't control how I go out either. If I wanna put on a dress with holes he lets me. Of course I have sense enough to put something nicer on when the ocasion calls for it.

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I don't believe a sub/slave wants an dom/owner going out looking like crap anymore then we want them to.

Jewel

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RE: Things you don't want your sub/slave to do! - 2/3/2008 11:37:52 AM

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I might end up being in the lundary camp, I like it sorted a certian way. Washed on a certian setting, so in some ways it's easier if I just do it myself. Not saying he couldn't do it, but it's also something I don't mind doing in the cleaning chores.

But really the one thing that I don't want him to do is play with my hair. I just don't like it to be touched besides when I'm getting it cut.

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RE: Things you don't want your sub/slave to do! - 2/3/2008 4:13:07 PM

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my M'Lady wont let me into her bedchamber's or do the kids chores but other than that i love to cook and clean and i know how to do laundry correctly(have 3 teenage daughters). proudly collared by LadyPact

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RE: Things you don't want your sub/slave to do! - 2/14/2008 11:02:28 AM

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IF I still had a slave/sub she would not be allowed to serve anyone BUT ME.
Not allowed to flip channels on TV. One person in the house doing that is more than enough.
Discipline my furry pets. I don't even like someone else feeding or caring for them.
Get into my personal things, clothes, jewelry, papers, computer......without express permission from me.
Work in my flower gardens. I am very fussy about my flowers.
Shop for some items. I am very picky about things like clothing and household furnishings. Also, I know this sounds weird, but purchase horse hay......that was an expensive mistake once.

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RE: Things you don't want your sub/slave to do! - 2/17/2008 4:33:54 PM

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he's not allowed to wash my car. It was my first baby and only I can touch it.

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RE: Things you don't want your sub/slave to do! - 2/18/2008 2:24:45 AM

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Lady Hathor,hypothetical situation so please bear with me.I am your sub and we have agreed to take a trip back to central new york to meet my brother,some of the rest of the family and all my vanilla friends.Taking a bus,plane and train out of the equation,are You really going to drive roughly 12 or 13 hours without blinking an eye about it??In the event you are wondering.."my dad let's me drive slow in the drive way on sundays"...LOL.

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RE: Things you don't want your sub/slave to do! - 2/18/2008 5:01:57 AM

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It's laundry for Me as well. For one thing I do love the smell of fresh laundry. For the rest, I see how he does it, and if I'm not happy with it, I train him to do it My way.

I'm sure there are other things too, but I can't think of one right now...

Miss Lily

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RE: Things you don't want your sub/slave to do! - 2/18/2008 5:43:46 AM

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Master does not allow me to drive his truck. Other chores he has taught me to do "his way". Most times "his way" is a longer, drawn out process and does not make any sense to me. I still do things "his way" being I am there to serve and please him.

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