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RE: what to do when a Mistress is bitter - 2/1/2008 12:44:03 PM

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It doesn't really matter what the relationship was at the beginning. The fact is that you are still living in the house with her. Even though you and she have virtually ended the relationship, how would you feel if she were to be seeing other women? It is just damn near impossible to be openly seeing others while still living thogether. It also does not sound like a domme relationship. It sould like someone who wants to play the part, but not have the responsibility that goes along with it.

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RE: what to do when a Mistress is bitter - 2/1/2008 1:37:10 PM

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i will have to agree with TysG's advice. What you need to do is to get your life back in your hands clear out of the past and have a clear mind to plan for your future. If you still under influence that is not going to help you much. Its time for a fresh outlook of what you wish to do and lay future plans in your life.

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RE: what to do when a Mistress is bitter - 2/1/2008 3:59:31 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: fllguy

It doesn't really matter what the relationship was at the beginning. The fact is that you are still living in the house with her. Even though you and she have virtually ended the relationship, how would you feel if she were to be seeing other women? It is just damn near impossible to be openly seeing others while still living thogether. It also does not sound like a domme relationship. It sould like someone who wants to play the part, but not have the responsibility that goes along with it.

Just my two cents worth.

She does see other females, thats fine, and a lot more than I do, we were still together when I was dating the girl, and it ended while we were together, the other Domme I talk to is Long Distance, she has several people she sees on a very regular basis, if that hurt me maybe I would have thought a lot more about dating the girl and seeing the Domme, which I did think about it and ask her several times, I will tell someone if something will hurt me or if it wont, I will be honest about it and I tend to expect people to do the same, which is me being naive as a good friend pointed out. I also am a lot more hoenst with MYSELF about these things, so she very well didnt know it would hurt her, and she still wont admit that it did/does. As I said when the girl I was dating became a probleam for things here, I ended it. I at this point do talk to a Domme, but that can not be classifyed as much more than a friendship with interest. I think the damage is done, and I see where I made some mistakes, I dont understand really how it became so big, but thats not in my control, lessons learned I guess. Thanks everyone for all the advice and encouragement, means a lot to me. I really hope she starts taking her meds again

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RE: what to do when a Mistress is bitter - 2/1/2008 4:03:52 PM

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And another thing, if I havent been clear on this, I am sorry. I AM moving, there is no question of this, I know we cant work things out with our friendship living under the same roof with this stress, I KNOW this, and I am working on this plan. I will move out by march 15th, ready or not, I have to ive myself that deadline, even if things get better, and I hope they do, there isnt really a reason for my being here. She sometimes says otherwise, but I care about the friendship we have, the D/s and the being lovers were just perks to what was already wonderful, and very important, despite the rough time I love her, she is my friend, and I do not have a light switch for feelings like that, just sometimes we have to change our interactions, So I am just a little scared, I feel alone out here, and a little lsot, but that is good too, I am sure I will grow a lot in this and get stronger.

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RE: what to do when a Mistress is bitter - 2/1/2008 6:42:33 PM

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RE: what to do when a Mistress is bitter - 2/1/2008 9:19:51 PM

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yasfhiwtry.

LOL, uhmm, what? I love you! Thanks! I think hehe

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RE: what to do when a Mistress is bitter - 2/1/2008 10:47:33 PM

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sidebar to petpete, congratulations on your new CM status "deviant".

I always knew you had it in you.

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RE: what to do when a Mistress is bitter - 2/2/2008 2:39:25 AM

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well, i'll have to say more crazy then anything else, and i really don't understand why such a beautiful creature as Yourself wastes Her time with a punk like me??? Please somebody tell Her that us Aussies are meant to live in isolation from the rest of the world due to our criminal history.... keep on rockin me babe!!..

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RE: what to do when a Mistress is bitter - 2/2/2008 10:26:08 AM

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I stopped reading at, "She stopped taking her bipolar meds." It's at this point when you say, "I love you, but you are toxic for me," and leave.

Master Fire - Bipolar

There's a world of knowlege in these few words. My sister is also bipolar, when she is not on meds there is not a thing in the world you can do to talk to her rationally and staying out of her line of fire is the only possible and best recourse. Take care of you Zara and stop looking for reasons other than she's not healthy and chosing not to be.

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RE: what to do when a Mistress is bitter - 2/2/2008 1:46:59 PM

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Do you have a friend or relative back home you could move in with? Have you searched Craigslist for someone wanting a roommate. You would be in the same situation as now, in not having your own place, but the rules would be upfront.

Bipolar and not taking meds equals a disaster. Save yourself however is necessary. Drive home, take a Greyhound. Stay on a coworkers couch for a couple of weeks while working two jobs until you find a roommate wanted. Keep working two jobs till you can get your own place if that's what you want. Take a break from relationships. This jumping from one to the next just not to be alone is a guarantee of disaster.

BTW for her offspring's sake, contact her ex and inform him she's off her meds and he ought to sue for custody.

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RE: what to do when a Mistress is bitter - 2/2/2008 2:20:34 PM

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i would walk away...the others in the column are right..cut your losses and run like hell to the hills...thats what i would of done in that situation..on the meds part..i take meds so i know what its like to be without meds when you really need it...ouch...

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