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ORIGINAL: daddyncherry

Okay, so i have been reading the recent thread on emotional sadists that puts them all in a big pot with abusers...There have been a couple of posters who have mentioned being into emotional sadism, or classified themselves as emotional masochists. They have said how it is a good thing for them etc.

This made me curious....What does it mean within a relationship? What forms does it take. how does it manifest? How does it make you feel? And if you can explain it in some detail, what about it is satisifying.

i'm very curious to learn....and open this to the emotional masochists as well as the emotional sadists.

Thanks in advance for your replies.

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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

Our power exchange is maintained because of this: to Master i am the perfect body and of course to Him i am capable of all things and so He will use everything at is disposal to break that power i might hold over Him by bringing me to my knees in a way that does not physiczaalyy detract from my beauty: by touching upon my sense of worth, by using me sexually and refusing to kiss me as he does it, to walk past me without looking, to avoid even eye comtact, to strike me verbally if and when he feels like it for no reason, to make me cry and then watch whilst i recover, to walk away when i am struggling with tasks.

To me, as beautiful as i might appear and as whole as i might appear to others, He is a reflection of the incompleteness i was always reminded i was, He is a perfect match to the deep sense of self-harm i am compelled to continue as an extension of that which was done to me as a child.... and therefore there isn't anything i would not do to make myself whole again to prove and create myself as an extension of perfection for Him.
He is therefore both my destroyer and my healer.

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ORIGINAL: daddyncherry

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth


the way it manifests in our relationship most commonly, and simply, is He will say something that will affect this slave's emotions and is sure to get an emotional response, like tears, for example, and then He will giggle and hold this slave while she cries, saying stuff like, "aw, poor little baby".
 
it brings us both a little joy, but then we embrace our sadism/masochism, both physical and emotional.

beth,

Thank you very much, that puts it perspective that i can understand....along with some things others have said as well.

And, although i would never ever consider myself a dram queen or attention whore, i do have a tendency to read into things, or when my mind fills in blanks in things, i tend toward the negative, scary, sad, emtoional end of things....This is from experience in my life that have shown me more ugly than good....i am trying to work on it, but it isn't easy to do.

So is that akin to emotional masochism? Or only if i prefer that state of being to being truly happy?