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xxblushesxx -> RE: Has this ever happened to you before? (2/2/2008 7:05:42 PM)
I don't think it really matters 'what' is said more than the manner in which it is said. Is someone trying to take your SO over to the side, to make sure you don't hear? Are they waiting for you to go get a drink or use the restroom because what they have to say can't be said in front of you? Do they give your SO a 'weird' look, (one that conveys chemistry even across the room) which leaves you out? If so, they MAY be trying to do something naughty... ~Christina

greenearth21 -> RE: Has this ever happened to you before? (2/2/2008 7:08:03 PM)
Have you ever been with your Dominant and another Dominant came on to you right in front of him? Or someone came on to him right in front of you? How did you handle it or or did you just ignore them and walk away? This has never happened to me. If someone came on to me...I wouldnt know it unless they were constantly doing that one eyed wink thing (i never look for cues if someone is making a move on me ...unless i'm into them but stil dont pay that much attention) If someone was to make a move on a/"my" dominant...I wouldnt do much of anything. He's with me, he can handle himself and I trust he knows what to do. In the meantime...I'll just enjoy the entertainment.

adoracat -> RE: Has this ever happened to you before? (2/2/2008 8:19:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 Have you ever been with your Dominant and another Dominant came on to you right in front of him? Or someone came on to him right in front of you? How did you handle it or or did you just ignore them and walk away? Daddy would be all puffed up and proud that someone else found his slave appealing....i'd be either totally oblivious, or be embarassed to noticed. kitten

junecleaver -> RE: Has this ever happened to you before? (2/2/2008 9:18:24 PM)
Between my collar and my engagement ring, I am very rarely hit on. I get compliments and witty banter here and there, but nothing like a come on. While my Dominant wouldn't throw him across the room, he would make it crystal clear that he owned me. It would flatter me and stroke my ego. If someone hit on my Dominant, it would make smile and want to take him home and ravage him.

eyesopened -> RE: Has this ever happened to you before? (2/3/2008 5:04:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 Have you ever been with your Dominant and another Dominant came on to you right in front of him? Or someone came on to him right in front of you? How did you handle it or or did you just ignore them and walk away? So far this hasn't happened but i love when other women flirt with my Master, i take it as a compliment. i don't know exactly how Master would deal with a come-on in front of Him but He's a pretty in-control Man and has this way about Him that would make no mistake about what is His and any admiration of what is His must be done from afar. Look, but don't touch, in other words.

RCdc -> RE: Has this ever happened to you before? (2/3/2008 5:24:40 AM)
A come on is a compliment - and I thank them and refuse. If they rudely persisted I would tell them I was a little out of their league. Anything beyond that and Darcy would hold his own. In either scenario, regardless who was come onto, we would both be good humoured about it People come onto Darcy and it's (again) a compliment. I have no insecurities, so a come on is no issue. Although we would laugh about it afterwards. And probably be pretty turned on - so it only enhances our sex life.[;)] the.dark.

GreedyTop -> RE: Has this ever happened to you before? (2/3/2008 5:48:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross quote: ORIGINAL: GreedyTop a compliment can be a compliment without intent to hit on someone. So how will you accurately interpret that persons INTENT and how does that change your reaction? quote: A come on is exactly that. "Come on, lets fuck" So unless I say those exact words, anything else is completely appropriate and fine? I'm not saying that anything anyone else does or says is ok, I'm simply saying that we're grown ups living in a grown up world. Going from 0-60 just because someone finds you attractive and comes on to you doesn't leave anyone happy- very overreacting IMO. I AVOID drama. Why don't people try a level 5 response or 10 first to see how that goes? I'm not saying that those exact words need to be said. Just the attitude. I've never had a problem determining the difference between compliment and come on. shrug I'm not sure HOW I know, maybe the vocal inflections, maybe body language, maybe something else entirely... or any combination of these things. I'm not saying a come on is a BAD thing, like others have said, I consider it complimentary.

littleone35 -> RE: Has this ever happened to you before? (2/3/2008 11:51:33 AM)
Isomeone came on to me in front of my Master he would tell them she is mine move along. If they did not i think my Master would either forciable move the guy along or just ignore him and walk away with me. If someone came on to my Master in front of me i would be flatered that they see how handsome my Master is, but my claws would come out. I know Master would also be flattered but refuse any come ons cause i am his one and only. Matt's littleone

vampchick88 -> RE: Has this ever happened to you before? (2/3/2008 12:21:06 PM)
I'm a Domme and have had this happen right in front of my by a past sub who I was considering. At first I thought it was just lite flirting chatter, but when he said "Hey why don't you stop by my place tonight and we can see what'll happen" I went slightly psycho. he said it was no biggie he flirted with this girl all the time and knew she'd never show up. I viewed it as disrespectful, idiotic, and just fucked up. Needless to say we no longer chat and that pretty much ended things there. My advise would be to talk to the person, tell them your thoughts and ask why they're doing this. I'm the sort who likes to know fully where they stand, how secure things are, and how important I am. If I feel I'm unappreciated then I'm gone.

Ostentatious -> RE: Has this ever happened to you before? (2/3/2008 2:31:58 PM)
I've been given phone numbers by dommes when I was out with my ex partner. I handled it by saying, thanks very much. No need to offend anyone, you don't need to call them, we are all grown ups and I'd rather be with someone everyone wanted than no one wanted :)

CalifChick -> RE: Has this ever happened to you before? (2/3/2008 2:41:03 PM)
FR I am really not seeing how this scenario is any different than any other couple, vanilla or no, in the world. People make passes. You deal with it and move on. Or is there something more complicated that I am missing? Cali

beargonewild -> RE: Has this ever happened to you before? (2/3/2008 3:59:22 PM)
~FR~ Being hit on is no big deal for me nor was it an issue with my former owner or with my curent. We are adults and mature enough to know that people will flirt with people irregardless if they are spoken for. This happens in regular life and it happens in the world of kink. My current uses enough common sense to allow me to take the initiatve when another crosses the line.

slaveluci -> RE: Has this ever happened to you before? (2/3/2008 6:27:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 Have you ever been with your Dominant and another Dominant came on to you right in front of him? No. Most men, dominant or not, seem to have more sense than to do such a thing. quote: Or someone came on to him right in front of you? How did you handle it or or did you just ignore them and walk away? As others have said, I'd take it as a compliment if another female came on to Him. What would I do? I wouldn't DO anything except follow His lead. He's free to do as He pleases. I don't decide for Him which women He responds to or how He responds. Hopefully, if she's hot, I'll be included if she follows Him home[;)]. Again, that's up to Him.............luci

MRandme -> RE: Has this ever happened to you before? (2/3/2008 7:05:54 PM)
If i were approached while with my Master, i'd simply tell the Dom to speak to Him. No reason for me to get upset or take it badly unless the guy did so with a lack of respect -- for me as an individual or for my Master's position as my owner. That would probably be the only reason my Master would get upset too; if the Dom didn't accept my Master's decision or came on in an offensive manner. It is also not my place to get upset if someone propositions my Master. And as luci said, if i'm lucky maybe we'll both get to play!! grin

Evanesce -> RE: Has this ever happened to you before? (2/3/2008 10:58:09 PM)
quote: Have you ever been with your Dominant and another Dominant came on to you right in front of him? Or someone came on to him right in front of you? How did you handle it or or did you just ignore them and walk away? Scenario #1: Someone coming on to the Kaptin. Result: Absolutely nothing, because He'd be completely oblivious to the come on unless I point it out to Him. Scenario #2: Someone coming on to me. Result: The Kaptin gets the pleasure of seeing me shoot down yet another dominant. Unless, of course, it's someone about whom I've spoken with the Kaptin previously; in which case, I'd probably take him up on the offer.

BitaTruble -> RE: Has this ever happened to you before? (2/4/2008 12:31:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 Have you ever been with your Dominant and another Dominant came on to you right in front of him? Or someone came on to him right in front of you? How did you handle it or or did you just ignore them and walk away? Personally, I love to flirt and I'm quite good at it generally giving back as good if not better than I ever get. Himself is just amused when those situations arise. That said, I've had men grab my hair, touch me without permission and other sorts of things that you just don't do if you have any social skills at all and people of that ilk are dealt with in an appropriate manner depending on the venue. Sometimes that calls for a few choice words, other times leaving is more appropriate. Either Himself or I have always been able to deal with such situations. Celeste

DesFIP -> RE: Has this ever happened to you before? (2/4/2008 7:30:13 AM)
Some subs are allowed to play with others, some aren't. How is anybody to know what your protocols are in such a case without talking to you? Or do you wear a placard saying you aren't allowed to talk to other men/dominants/ human beings without permission? Take it as a compliment. Say "I appreciate the thought but I don't play with others" and then talk about the weather. Just like you would if you were at any other kind of party.

Missokyst -> RE: Has this ever happened to you before? (2/4/2008 9:54:27 AM)
Oh heck. I flirt all the time, it is my personality. I view people flirting as a harmless thing. One either picks up and runs with it, or you just smile politely, give a playful grin back and move on to other topics. It is basic human interaction. If I was with a mate then he of course would have my full attention. If someone were to approach me it does not change my dynamic. I would have the skills to be charming and still diffuse the flirtation as I always have. Why would my mate expect less of me than who I am? Why punish someone for another persons actions and your response? Unless of course I unbuttoned that guys shirt and kissed his chest, or handed him my business card and told him to call me at a better time, it is just normal life. Flirting happens. Hopefully people are adult enough to know how to deal with it, on all sides. Kyst

BeingChewsie -> RE: Has this ever happened to you before? (2/4/2008 9:57:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 Have you ever been with your Dominant and another Dominant came on to you right in front of him? Yes, it has happened. I ignored it, I'm owned by a man but much prefer women(like 99%) so other men hitting on me is a laugh to both of us. quote: Or someone came on to him right in front of you? I try to judge his reaction, if he seems interested I try to back off and blend in..letting her know he is available and she doesn't need to concern herself with my presence. If he isn't interested he usually shuts it down pretty fast.

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