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RE: Would you ever bend - 2/8/2008 2:28:12 AM

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Recently My Pet and I have been toying with sharing. At current, she has a mistress who is semi-equal/semi-submissive to me aswell. Imagine this situation:

There is a dominant. They have a submissive. They take on a new toy. If they want that new toy dommed by proxy, the submissive does it.

Would I personally bend, as you put it? Not at the moment. Right now, the integrity of our relationship is heavily hinged on my dominance and her submission.

In another place, another time, I can see it happening. I could see a domme bring out my submissive side, getting My Pet as a package deal.

As a personal note, I find submission sexy, but I've never felt a need to serve, so I doubt I'd find someone to top My Pet and I.

... In short, I do think it's very possible. Poison Ivy has Bane, afterall.

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RE: Would you ever bend - 2/8/2008 3:56:34 AM

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You make it sound as though the average submissive male can't be a "real man" to the outside World.

Just what I was thinking.

For a domme, you don't seem to have a whole lot of respect for submissives.

I can think of at least two submissive men that I know that fit your description of 'real men', but are in no way dominant.

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RE: Would you ever bend - 2/8/2008 4:53:29 AM

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You paint an interesting picture - a big biker type, fresh off his Harley, wimpering under your ministrations.. *grin*

I've actually done that once in my entire life, with a tomboy partner/sub, who involved her girlfriend. Was tremendous fun, but I've never run into another sub who made that happen, it was her initiative.

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RE: Would you ever bend - 2/8/2008 6:27:34 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TotalState

quote:

ORIGINAL: Focus50

You make it sound as though the average submissive male can't be a "real man" to the outside World.

Just what I was thinking.

For a domme, you don't seem to have a whole lot of respect for submissives.

I can think of at least two submissive men that I know that fit your description of 'real men', but are in no way dominant.

I don't mean it as a lack of respects for subs that fall into this sort of fantasy I've had stuck in my head. I made it quiet plane that it was thoughts I'd been working through and asking questions on never a trying to pit any male domes here who can't see where Im going down a peg. It seems alot of males just jump to the chance to tug the envelope and assume I mean ALL domes, I mean hell whats the point of just telling me you arn't them, obviously Im not asking them.

I hold alot mutual respect for fellor Doms and any submissive who can speak to me respectfully, I love my subs and even have a large sub as friends family.

Anitpode- Ahh see thats such a lovely vision in my head. I did say in the above messages that I had a similar very personal experince with a male older Dome friend of mine who's been a big brother in my life. I don't see this being someone I'd run into anyway soon by the way the Masters in this thread so defensive of a little girl seems a bit pointless. I know Im small, but I always ask equal respect Dom or Sub.

Thank you though. I as simple question with many answers.

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RE: Would you ever bend - 2/8/2008 6:45:05 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper

Recently My Pet and I have been toying with sharing. At current, she has a mistress who is semi-equal/semi-submissive to me aswell. Imagine this situation:

There is a dominant. They have a submissive. They take on a new toy. If they want that new toy dommed by proxy, the submissive does it.

Would I personally bend, as you put it? Not at the moment. Right now, the integrity of our relationship is heavily hinged on my dominance and her submission.

In another place, another time, I can see it happening. I could see a domme bring out my submissive side, getting My Pet as a package deal.

As a personal note, I find submission sexy, but I've never felt a need to serve, so I doubt I'd find someone to top My Pet and I.

... In short, I do think it's very possible. Poison Ivy has Bane, afterall.

HK,
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RE: Would you ever bend - 2/8/2008 6:57:14 AM

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Sounds like you seek a Switch, who is willing to be sub to you and dom to others. Yes, such said man does exists out there for you. Best to search through the switch profiles.

One thing that is a little hazy, is your expectations of his submissive side. Could you be a little more specific in terms of your expections there?

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RE: Would you ever bend - 2/8/2008 7:11:49 AM

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ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch

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ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper

Recently My Pet and I have been toying with sharing. At current, she has a mistress who is semi-equal/semi-submissive to me aswell. Imagine this situation:

There is a dominant. They have a submissive. They take on a new toy. If they want that new toy dommed by proxy, the submissive does it.

Would I personally bend, as you put it? Not at the moment. Right now, the integrity of our relationship is heavily hinged on my dominance and her submission.

In another place, another time, I can see it happening. I could see a domme bring out my submissive side, getting My Pet as a package deal.

As a personal note, I find submission sexy, but I've never felt a need to serve, so I doubt I'd find someone to top My Pet and I.

... In short, I do think it's very possible. Poison Ivy has Bane, afterall.

HK,
Have I ever told you that I truly find you wise wayyyyy beyond your years?

I have to agree <3

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RE: Would you ever bend - 2/8/2008 7:14:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave

Sounds like you seek a Switch, who is willing to be sub to you and dom to others. Yes, such said man does exists out there for you. Best to search through the switch profiles.

One thing that is a little hazy, is your expectations of his submissive side. Could you be a little more specific in terms of your expections there?

Its a little hard to say, I like to leave these things pretty open in hopes I don't pass by the right person one day just because one thing on my "list" isn't checked off. Obviously a vert dog like demenor is apporpriate who wants to please one special person in his life, but able to be cold, callouse and generaly a bit stiff around "strangers" till he gets to know them. I'd have him fuck them, help in my domination scenes and be general "right hand" kinda man if you can see?

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RE: Would you ever bend - 2/8/2008 11:40:09 AM

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Red Magic, Maybe it the Military, in me I'm very direct. I only put sugar on something that i want to be sweet, Also had one too many doms pull my profile. Sweet for the ladies only unless they become naughty.

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RE: Would you ever bend - 2/8/2008 11:58:40 AM

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If he's doing what you tell him, then he isn't a dom he's a primarily submissive switch who only tops under your control. None of which has anything to do with him being big or short, aggressive or soft spoken, brutal or gentle. You've got a stereotype in your head of what true male subs are; small, soft spoken, non aggressive etc. There are plenty of male subs who don't feel that way, the problem is they think they have to present themselves as fitting that stereotype also if they're going to find dommes.

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RE: Would you ever bend - 2/8/2008 1:37:28 PM

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If he's doing what you tell him, then he isn't a dom he's a primarily submissive switch who only tops under your control. None of which has anything to do with him being big or short, aggressive or soft spoken, brutal or gentle. You've got a stereotype in your head of what true male subs are; small, soft spoken, non aggressive etc. There are plenty of male subs who don't feel that way, the problem is they think they have to present themselves as fitting that stereotype also if they're going to find dommes.

I hate to repeat myself but this isn't supposed to be a question of -all- sub but a specific "sterotype" as is worded. And again something Im asking questions about. Again Im not assuming anything, I have had experince with all sorts of subs, agressive and passive alike, meek and small to big and burly. Thats not whats at the basis of this. Im not so embassed as to admit I AM looking for someone who takes special care of thier build and prepare thier bodies to be a tool to me. I think under this specification of a fetish, being its -mine- and Im not asking anyone else to be such a thing as to try and push domes over in hopes of getting what I want. I wanted to have an adult conversation about those who -DO- think this a possibility.

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