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TracyTaken -> Non Sexual D/s: For the Slaves/Submissive Who Works at It (2/7/2008 2:32:31 PM)
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A couple/few thread this week made me feel like an alien ... or like other people were lying, and since I'm paranoid, I went with the latter. I don't base it all on sexual stuff (and - come on - one sexual act does not usually affect your entire life ... unless someone get's pregnant, but that's another thread [one that refuses to die] and not what I'm talking about. I'm not talking specifically about refusal, but I'm not not talking about that either. I'm talking about struggling with it. See, I don't even know what language to use. Am I talking about TPE? Am I talking about 24/7? Am I talking about 50's-style (if so, is that neither TPE nor 24/7)?
My question is (open to Doms/Masters/submissives/slaves):
Are there any circumstances under which you would lie to your beloved (or even hired) slave/sub/master/dom/switch, that had nothing to do with creating an ambiance for a scene but everything to do with maintaining the relationship?
To get things rolling, these are the things (just this week) I either lied about or commited a lie by omission. Obviously, I'm not ashamed of them enough not to post them here, so ...:
"That’s a great idea! A casement window in the bathroom. Yes, it maximizes airflow" (and what I didn’t say “it minimizes privacy”. Why didn't I say that, because he loved the idea, he had decided for himself, so he decided for me too).
"Yes the pup is doing great." (I didn’t say that the little fluffy alpha still marked if I wasn’t very careful about letting him out all the time. Why? Because I have faith that Master Max will get there (housetrained), and in the mean time, Hubby stays happy with pooch, pooch stays happy with hubby, and I am doorman for a dog (which is surely every service submissive’s dream-come-true [8|] ).
"Oh, this trip we’ve planning to Crater Lake, OR is cancelled in favor of a trip to Osh Kosh – where we get to camp beside noisy airplanes instead of in the peace and beauty of nature, and we get to visit with airplane nuts who will be talking about technical crap that I don’t understand and couldn’t care less about? Heck yeah! Let’s go to Osh Kosh!"
"You want to go on a low-carb diet, and I need to research what that entails, cook accordingly and get all prohibited foods out of the house. So I’ll be on this diet too. Sure, I’ll get right on that."
"You want me to track the changes in interest rates and get a refinance in motion when I think they’ve gone as low as they are going to go. I appreciate your faith in me, so I’ll learn as much as I can figure out about this whole economy thing, make my best guess and get the paper in motion when the time seems right." (What I didn’t say: Since when am I some financial wizard? I do have classes to study for and stuff, and this sounds VERY time-consuming, and I think you should get someone who knows something about this stuff, because I’d be starting from scratch, and I’m likely to screw it up. - I didn't say that because he already said what he wanted AND he already has an accountant.).
I know that I'm ever naive and tend to believe offhand that other people's outsides equate with my insides. Still, I think some people must feel some relief (to say nothing of connection with the real world), when they hear that other people who do WIIWD (whatever the fuck that means [I know what it stands for]) find it difficult and uncomfortable and not something they could EVER successsfully pull off at 100% - FOR REAL every day.
I hope that makes a bit of sense, and probably anyone who has read this far doesn't even remember the question:
Are there any circumstances under which you would lie to your beloved (or even hired) slave/sub/master/dom/switch, that had nothing to do with creating an ambiance for a scene but everything to do with maintaining the relationship?
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