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RE: "soon to be had" - 2/7/2008 6:14:24 PM

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Licking the bottom of his shoe can be damgerous to your health. Someone who cares for you should know that and not subject you to things that can hurt you.

iWe started off small, He was naturally Dominant and i was naturally submissive, but although he knew more than i did We both ended up learning together. When we married i was 18 and from the moment we said our vows our D/s relationship went into full swing.

i was never nor have i ever been treated unfairly. Michael is loving, kind and very strict also and does not enjoy humiliating me nor does he take pleasure in treating me like i don't count.

i always cry when i am being punished for several reasons. One because it hurts and it's suppose to.Two because i have disappointed him and three because it hurts.
i have never felt like i have given up anything.It's just the opposite, i walked into a beautiful life that changed my world forever and we have been happy togethger for thirty years.

If you are having a problem with this issue, especially since it could damage your health and he is unwillingly to bend. i would rethink your statement about him being loving. There comes a time when you have to seperate play from reality. For it's his obligation to keep you safe and out of harms way.

If he doesn't know how to seperate play from reality. You may have a pronblem.

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RE: "soon to be had" - 2/7/2008 6:18:07 PM

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you might be better off talking to those whose perfection in submissiveness is without question, and that is the majority of submissives who post here.

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RE: "soon to be had" - 2/7/2008 6:24:06 PM

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I was using that as a figure of speech..

Foreverowned.. this is what I need.. he would never put me in harms way.. I want to know from a slave who has been there. I know it's like but not what its like..

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RE: "soon to be had" - 2/7/2008 6:32:28 PM

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Was it hard to change the mindset?

It's more a recognition of what already exists and it being "right" to continue.

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"my Master" is very strict and very protocal driven.. everthing this way and that way and no deviation from it. Were there times of punishment, did you cry..

Yes, but who cares? You have to decide if THIS person in THIS relationship is right for YOU.

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I am quite the sensitive one and wish only to please.. but to lick the dirt from his boots, come on..

Oh dear if that's the most digusting or degrading thing you can think of that a master would require, you really do need to slow it down.

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would a Master ask a girl of something that he would not do himself??

Constantly. That's a main purpose for owning property for me.

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I have and need much advice on this matter.. I need to know what to expect

Whatever they have told you to expect. So better ask him.

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I have to know because once the decision is made there will be no turning back. There are no velcro collars..

We're not the ones collaring you.

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RE: "soon to be had" - 2/7/2008 6:42:56 PM

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24/7 TPE is different for everyone. How they live it is between those involved. Not everyones dynamics are the same and they way they do things is not. The reality of it is you don't spend every waking hour chained to a post and crawling on your knees. You need to discuss with him what is expected and then decide for yourself if this is what you want to do.

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RE: "soon to be had" - 2/7/2008 6:45:40 PM

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it's my feeling that when you are with the right person, there is nothing more fulfilling or wonderful in this universe. You have to be going in the same direction though, and you have to be able to talk to him freely and your needs have to be taken into account. Otherwise i don't believe that the person's feelings for you would be true ones.

When you are going in the same direction nothing will be too weird, because it's something that you both enjoy and you have negociated so it's right for both of you.

i think that in many relationships including vanilla ones. If the partner says it's my way or no way or the highway, they usually don't have long lasting healthy relationships. You'll find that they go through manyu subs quickly and are anxious to jump into a 24/7 right away.

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RE: "soon to be had" - 2/7/2008 6:48:46 PM

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What LA said...

Truly, slavetobehad, ask this on the Gorean forum and you will get much the same answers. Only your Master will define your slavery. It will be his mastery over you which holds you in your place. It does not matter what any one else has experienced at the hands of a Gorean Master. In fact, your potential Master may not think it appropriate that you are asking these questions of others in the first place.

Know this, there isn't anything SJ could ask me to do for him that I would not attempt. (I say that knowing he would not ask me to kill myself so please no flames.) There may be things he will ask me to do that I will not like, but they will be done to the best of my ability and they will be done for him. If you are ready to do whatever your Master asks to the best of your ability, then you may be ready to kneel before him. If when you are with him, you are unable to do anything but kneel before him, then you may have met your Master. If you have the will to walk away, then maybe he isn't.

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RE: "soon to be had" - 2/7/2008 7:02:55 PM

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Thank you all.. these are the things I wanted to hear. Others ideas of what it is like for them..

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RE: "soon to be had" - 2/7/2008 7:15:32 PM

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a girl knows what it is to be a slave to a Master..

I want to know what it feels like to be in a 24/7 TPE relationship.. I can't answer that because I have not been there yet.. what did it feel like to you????

If you know why are you asking?
You sound almost....terrified.
You may find your feelings are not going to matter many times...
So, IF...your going to go into a M/s relationship based, as well as making decisions based on your *feelings* all the time....I wish you the best...

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RE: "soon to be had" - 2/7/2008 7:19:38 PM

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I just wanted others opinions... that's all.

Thank you all for your time. I guess we are done here...

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RE: "soon to be had" - 2/7/2008 7:23:47 PM

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Why do you feel that he is the right one for you, if you don't know what he expects?

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RE: "soon to be had" - 2/7/2008 9:14:09 PM

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I love the flower... a Rudbeckia?

The question (s) are more in the line of, and I know this is silly to ask but.. when you finally made the decision to be a 24/7 slave, how, what happened.. I know you have given up your last choice, and the choices are no longer yours to make. Was it hard to change the mindset?

The idea that is your last decision doesn't apply to all relationships, not even all master/slave ones. We feel that, no matter what, I can leave - if no other reason than he doesn't want a woman who doesn't want him.

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What is it like... what happens..

"my Master" is very strict and very protocal driven.. everthing this way and that way and no deviation from it. Were there times of punishment, did you cry..

Yes there have been punishments and yes I have cried but not because of the punishments. I don't like them, but they are fair and sparing.

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I am quite the sensitive one and wish only to please.. but to lick the dirt from his boots, come on... would a Master ask a girl of something that he would not do himself??

Yes, some would. I would not be asked to lick dirt from his boots. But if he felt sadistic he might order me to lick what I thought was dirt and have it be brownie mix.

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I have and need much advice on this matter.. I need to know what to expect.. I have to know because once the decision is made there will be no turning back. There are no velcro collars..

While I don't agree with the idea of velcro collars, I don't hold with the idea of "once you agree, it's over". If you do hold with this, I would suggest waiting for several years at least.

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RE: "soon to be had" - 2/7/2008 11:34:08 PM

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Did you ever think to ask/discuss such things with him?

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a girl knows what it is to be a slave to a Master..

IMO you have NO IDEA what it is to be a slave if you are asking these questions and it's the easy stuff

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I am wondering what could he posibly as me to do

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I wanna know how wierd it gets, would should I expect. I have never been owned...

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RE: "soon to be had" - 2/8/2008 7:10:32 AM

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I'm sorry, but, this is a trainwreck waiting to happen.
You want to be owned so bad (and don't think that those of us who are, don't understand that.) that you will go into this relationship relatively blind.
How long have you been speaking to this gentleman?
Do you know his name, address, phone number? Spent any vanilla time together? Met any friends or family?
Have you asked him what a typical day would be like?
What he expects from you? (besides 'unquestioned obedience'?)
Has he told you his philosophy on a M/s relationship?
What will he be bringing to the table?
Has he owned slaves before?
If so, how/why did those relationships end?
Does he want a monogamous relationship, or will there be other slaves as well? Does he want to share you with others?
Will you be expected to live a 'vanilla' life shown to the outside world, with a private bdsm life, or will you be caged and shackled 24/7 and only eat gruel, (with the occasional boot lick thrown in for fun?)
I do live a 24/7 D/s relationship. Ours is mostly vanilla, with undertones of bdsm at most times. I do wear a collar every day, and I try to serve Him and please Him as best I can.
Before we began our relationship, we began as friends. (on this site) we started emailing each other every day, then talking on the phone for hours at a time, and then finally meeting. We began spending weekends together, and got to know what each other wanted both in and out of the lifestyle before even considering trying this. By that time I had a more realistic vision of the lifestyle, and knew that it wasn't going to be leashes and cages every day...
My advice?
SLOW DOWN.
QUICKLY.
before you find yourself in a serious relationship with a stranger who may not have your best interests at heart.

Good luck.

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RE: "soon to be had" - 2/8/2008 7:53:48 AM

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you were asking in a post on this thread, along the lines of a master asking a slave to lick his boots to get them clean and why would he have a slave do something he would not.

i will use and example of what i do for my Lord and Mistress. neither of them is inclined to clean house as it needs each day. in the spring and summer i clean their boat each time we go out and then prep it for the end of baoting season and do the sasme at start of the season.

they don't like doing the shopping at the market,so,i have a cart i use and go buy the groceries and what ever else they desire from the store. i make their beds,fix their meals. just about the only thing i don't do is bathe or shower them.

as a slave i for myself do what my Lord and Mistress require of me.

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RE: "soon to be had" - 2/8/2008 10:20:47 AM

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Slavetobehad....how in the world can you say you are HIS...and all that goes with it, when it looks like you know NOTHING about him...meaning what he is like...what he expects..... NEVER never never....go into an arrangement before you had talked about at LEAST the ground rules....whats acceptable and whats not for you BOTH. You are old enough to know this stuff....You would you do things this way if it were a "regular" relationship?....THINK.....

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RE: "soon to be had" - 2/8/2008 11:46:35 AM

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She doesn't want to hear that, Candy. Please pay more attention in the future or your right to give common sense answers will be revoked indefinitely.

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RE: "soon to be had" - 2/8/2008 11:50:18 AM

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She doesn't want to hear that, Candy. Please pay more attention in the future or your right to give common sense answers will be revoked indefinitely.

Gotcha.....Sorry my mistake...

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RE: "soon to be had" - 2/8/2008 12:20:05 PM

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RE: "soon to be had" - 2/8/2008 12:32:18 PM

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The person to ask specific questions of is him. If you're afraid he'll deliberately step in dog poop and demand you lick it off, then ask him. If you're afraid he'll decide to share you with his biker buddies, ask him. And ask him what punishment he will deliver if you willfully disobeyed, if you were incapable of obeying, if you would lose your job if you obeyed him instead, if you would lose your relationships with your offspring/parents/siblings if you obeyed him. And decide for yourself if he's worth losing your job, your bank account, your own home, contact with your children, contact with your mother etc is worth it.

And if you really don't know enough about him yet to know if he'll understand choosing not to get up and get him water when he asks versus being unable to as you're in a body cast versus needing to go immediately to the hospital to be at your mother's death bed then what on earth are you doing planning to sign over all assets, and all control to him? You should not make this decision until you have a lot more history and deep knowledge of him.

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