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No chat for switches? - 2/8/2008 3:20:28 PM

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I"d really like to know why. It seems most rooms are either Dom or Domme related. I really get tired of those rooms for several reasons. Dom rooms seem to have so much cyber scenes going on, I can't carry on a decent conversation without ignoreing half the room. And Domme rooms? Disagree with them too much and you get the boot. Come to think of it, most dommes feel that if you are doing somthing wrong, and they tell you, you should fix it.

Wheres the room for the switches? My kind of people. The one's who don't let the tittle use, get in the way of things. I want a room without labels, bias, or so much sceneing it tends to fill up most of the screen.

Speak up if you agree with me. Speak up if you want a room. Hell, I'll make one if I find out how, and enough people will show up.

Thank you for letting me rant

D

RE: No chat for switches? - 2/12/2008 7:59:10 AM

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Frankly, I got so tired of the cattiness in the rooms and lack of response to my questions that I gave up early on. : ) I don't normally feel like a switch. I have times when I feel like a Mistress, then for my daddy I am a sub. I prefer a venue like this for talking about switch issues - but that's just a personal preference.

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RE: No chat for switches? - 2/12/2008 10:06:50 AM

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Room dynamics, on MSN on AOL on CollarMe are always so similar...it ends up being a constant stream of hellos with little substance. This switch forum, I think, is a better venue. that or PMs.

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RE: No chat for switches? - 2/12/2008 5:53:20 PM

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I think the problem is probably not the label of the chat room.... but rather, that it's a chat room.

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RE: No chat for switches? - 2/12/2008 10:19:57 PM

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Heres my way of thinking though. The Dom, Dommes have there rooms. Which are generally packed with either Dom's or Subs. Protocal seems like one of the orders of the day in those places. I don't have against that, but I have about as much time for protocal as I do for Roles. (which is to say none at all unless I'm playing) And yet, still, the Switches don't have a chat room. A place were the only major rule is... share the kink your into while your in the room. A place were the roles only exsist in discussion, and maybe a little bit of play, but still a place were one person's self appointed role, doesn't take precidence over another.

I like to talk with others. I hate it when I get the cold shoulder because I'm not willing to bow, and scrape when some one enters the room. And I really hate when every sentence out of the other persons mouth begins with. "Well my master...." or " My Mistress......."

I think a Switch chat room is just whats in order. A place for us to gather and seek out the grey area of bdsm we love to call home.

Now theres my rant. I've put in some selfish reasons, and some idealistic reasons for a Switch chatroom.
Now. (deep breath) How's with me?

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RE: No chat for switches? - 2/13/2008 7:16:15 AM

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Chat rooms are easy enough to start and make. When you're online keep one up. I'm not a fan of chat rooms in general; even IMs to me are like little post it notes that I'll read whenever I'm around, not conversations 100% attention-demanding. If I see a switch chat room, I may join, but I don't feel that there's a lack of space for us.

I feel that many Dominants and submissives don't take us seriously, kind of the way bi's were viewed once upon a time, but I won't hijack your thread.

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RE: No chat for switches? - 2/13/2008 9:34:14 AM

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Hi Dmon,

My chat home is:

http://ropetalk.net/

It's focus is rope bondage and tilted M/f, but it's generally pretty receptive to all types along the bdsm continuum - including switches. There's not much protocol or hierarchy involved. Just be yourself, be polite and spend a month there getting to know the regulars. This room has been around in one way, shape or form for nearly 15 years so a lot of folks have been chatting forever. I've been there for about 5. Our chat is 50% general chit chat, 25% kink and 25% serious conversations about real life stuff. Some scening happens occasionally in the lobby (where folks usually hang out), but more of it happens in pm. It's not perfect and sometimes it's boring, but as a self-employed consulting working from home, it generally meets my needs for contact with people throughout the day. Feel free (you or anyone following this thread) to say "hi" to me. There's a rule against pm-ing without permission, but it's permissible to pm ops about room business and I'm an op.

Vice

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RE: No chat for switches? - 2/13/2008 11:28:58 AM

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if You build it they will come, i'll show up anyway. do You have a house plan or a name for Your room yet? i think everybody eventually finds the switch in themselves, there is a rare slave barried in every Master, hopefully He can be found with at least one, even if it does not take the Dom away from him, it may even make Him more wildly Dominant, i hope i can find that gift to give my KingDom.

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RE: No chat for switches? - 2/13/2008 11:30:48 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: iammachine

I think the problem is probably not the label of the chat room.... but rather, that it's a chat room.

bingo...I don't do chat rooms...they always tend to get taken over by the self-righteous or somehow end up being an odd boring room that talks about baking recipies...which is fine...just really not what I would go to a chat room for. Good luck though!

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RE: No chat for switches? - 2/13/2008 3:08:34 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ToysAndTies
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I feel that many Dominants and submissives don't take us seriously, kind of the way bi's were viewed once upon a time, but I won't hijack your thread.

Hijack away, because this is often how I feel on the subject. I was trying to be polite in case it was just me, but yes, many Dom's and Sub's don't take us seriously. Atleast thats how I feel.

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RE: No chat for switches? - 2/19/2008 9:15:14 PM

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A chat room for switches sounds like a great thing to have available imho and I agree with both the observations on the nature of chat rooms and the protocol and other obstacles in dom/me or sub oriented rooms.

How switchy of me to agree with both points lol

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RE: No chat for switches? - 3/11/2008 1:34:23 PM

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I'm willing to stop by and give it a shot, although I must say that I haven't gotten much grief here on CM for being a switch. This is pretty surprising, considering how much grief I get for it elsewhere and from people in private.

I will say that I often (and almost exclusively) hang out in the #subs_for_Dommes chatroom here on CM. It tends to be much more chat and much less scene oriented, and there are no protocol requirements besides "Don't be an ass." Most of the time, the stuff we talk about is normal life stuff. The Ladies there don't care that I identify as a switch at all.

</plug for my favorite chatroom>

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RE: No chat for switches? - 3/12/2008 5:08:08 PM

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so... babble babble babble... but how does anyone ACTUALLY start a chatroom and get it listed on here? I think it's overdue for a nice switchy etalkspace.

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RE: No chat for switches? - 3/12/2008 9:49:41 PM

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Create it, and keep it up. No pain, no gain.

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RE: No chat for switches? - 3/13/2008 12:19:01 PM

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switches are unique

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RE: No chat for switches? - 3/13/2008 8:15:52 PM

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I'd put one up but I don't know how.. nor would I have the time to manage it

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RE: No chat for switches? - 3/14/2008 4:19:03 AM

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If you create one, and there is call for it then it will um be there, maybe the reason is that this only got 16 replies and some said they dont actually chat

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RE: No chat for switches? - 3/14/2008 9:31:49 AM

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I think colouredin is right. It would be nice to have one, I suspect, but I'm not too sure it would have a lot of activity. Even this forum has far less activity than the others. It seems many switches are reading/replying elewhere.

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RE: No chat for switches? - 3/14/2008 9:34:52 AM

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As a follow up, I notice that only 'in the news' has fewer posts originated than this one. Perhaps if this were a more active forum, the demand for a chat room would also increase.

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RE: No chat for switches? - 3/22/2008 5:07:00 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dmon

I"d really like to know why. It seems most rooms are either Dom or Domme related. I really get tired of those rooms for several reasons. Dom rooms seem to have so much cyber scenes going on, I can't carry on a decent conversation without ignoreing half the room. And Domme rooms? Disagree with them too much and you get the boot. Come to think of it, most dommes feel that if you are doing somthing wrong, and they tell you, you should fix it.

Wheres the room for the switches? My kind of people. The one's who don't let the tittle use, get in the way of things. I want a room without labels, bias, or so much sceneing it tends to fill up most of the screen.

Speak up if you agree with me. Speak up if you want a room. Hell, I'll make one if I find out how, and enough people will show up.

Thank you for letting me rant

D

Hello D,

First of all, there isn't a chatroom #switches`r`Uus,
because they are people like Yyou and I.

I would welcome Yyou into My chatroom here on Collarme : #subs`crave`Humiliation
in which people are all welcomed in, and
being spoken to in a friendly manner.

Dom/mes switches and subs are all welcome.

I've to be known a strict but fair host.

And yes Wwe do scene at times, but there are also discusions of any sorts going on.

So hereby you're invited.

It's hard to make a good chatroom work, and it cost allot of time. So if you don't have that time, then join a room which is a place you would feel at home.

I wish you a great Easter weekend,
and to speak to you soon.

Warm Greetingz

GoddezzT`

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