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RE: Turning off the Switch? - 2/28/2008 10:35:14 PM   

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i had a switch that would change only when she addressed our relationship or my attention. otherwise she was bitch dom to all others.

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RE: Turning off the Switch? - 3/12/2008 5:00:36 PM   

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When I get into a 'space', be it top or bottom, it usually takes a while for me to come down enough to switch on my own. If I'm in a scene with a Dom that is particularly 'in my head', I can switch on demand, but only if asked. I usually get ensconced in my role and play it out till the scene is over.

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RE: Turning off the Switch? - 3/17/2008 11:56:14 PM   

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Most of my relationships have a clear power dynamic with one exception.  I can have scenes as both dominant/top and submissive in the same evening.  I do need some down time after being in sub space before I can move to top space most of the time. 

My first experiences switching was with a swtich who could go from top to bottom and back again within a scene.  I found myself going along for the ride switching fluidy with him.  I think at this time it was about switching between bottom and top and not between dominance and submission.  I actually think that the power dynamic was he was in control of our scenes, or dominant, and I was submissive, even as I topped him.  As my switching grew from this, I found that our scenes changed and I was topping a lot more.  My taste for dominance has grown and now I only submit to my Master.


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RE: Turning off the Switch? - 3/19/2008 6:54:14 AM   

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Hmmm....totally dependent upon who I'm relating to. I usually only feel either submissive or Dominant toward a very few select individuals. If I meet a boy or a girl and they seem to respond to me in a submissive way, I may respond in kind, but not always. I only feel submissive toward men, so usually it can just be in watching the way he walks, speaks to others, plays, or treats his submissive that will make my slaveheart skip a beat. I can usually switch on the same night and I actually prefer to be simutaneously in both roles. I love serving a Dominant and at the same time have someone kneeling to me. Its a double orgasmic feeling to be in both spaces at once. One thing I have discovered however- If my submissive side has not been nourished, I lack the energy to sustain my Dominant head space for long.


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RE: Turning off the Switch? - 3/20/2008 11:55:47 PM   

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My only experience unfortunately is with one I apologize if My opinion doesn't hold as much weight in this topic, although I've been with her for a while....a good while...Anyhow, I've found that the switch inside Me is quite dependent on My partner, as she is a switch as well; should she be in the mood for dominance, I'll gladly go submissive...but then take back over with dominance and swap the roles to add some more fun to our passion.  But eh...normally I tend to have a slightly submissive mentality with her, considering she's older than Myself by 3 years, and I trust her wisdom paired with My if this didn't make that much sense.

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RE: Turning off the Switch? - 3/21/2008 3:01:10 AM   

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I switch simply depending on who I am with at the time.

I only switched once during a session, and didnt like it so much. =/  Once I get into the sub headspace, Its hard to come out of it.

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RE: Turning off the Switch? - 4/7/2008 11:02:48 PM   

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When I play with my boyfriend we sometimes switch so often that we aren't quite sure who's being the sub until someone says "Master." Other times, it's obvious and unchanging. It can be a pretty wild ride (in a wonderful way) seeing how often we switch and who feels the need to play what role. Also it means that when we have ideas, we can voice them or put them into effect immediately. I definitely agree that it's very instinct based.

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RE: Turning off the Switch? - 4/8/2008 5:40:10 PM   

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Personally, I switch in both my feminine and masculine personas ..... meaning there are actually four different roles I can take, with each one being completely different in my own mind, and with different results. For me, to experience each role to it's best, I can't switch back and forth with the same person ... I'm better off assuming one role and staying with it, as the chemistry just gets all screwed up. In the cases where I have switched from sub to dom with someone, it seemed to become more of a game of one-up-manship, with me already planning my "revenge" while still plaing the bottom role. Everybody is different, and I deeply admire those who can switch back and forth with the same partner, with each getting all they want and need in each role.

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RE: Turning off the Switch? - 4/9/2008 7:03:18 AM   

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For me, it totally depends on who I'm with.  If I'm in a relationship with a dominant personality, I'm submissive.  If I'm around someone more submissive than I am, I want to take control.  I dated a switch for a short time and found that I couldn't get into true sub mode with him, though I did bottom.  I'm just not as fluid as some others because I like knowing where I stand in a relationship at all times, so there's really nothing to "turn off."  It kind of makes me wonder where my mischieviousness comes from, though.  I mean...who else has ever asked a dom if he wants to lick your brand new black patent leather thigh high stilletto boots?!?  hahahahahahahaha  That was fun!  Oh, and I just couldn't resist swatting his ass on does that make me a SAM or is that my dom side rearing her little head?


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RE: Turning off the Switch? - 12/21/2008 10:02:14 AM   

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vanilla pussy will undermine that submissive side

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RE: Turning off the Switch? - 1/2/2009 7:27:10 PM   

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Really it depends on what my husband is wanting. Most the time hes dominant and I tend to this and sometimes he will ask me to dominant him which I really enjoy.

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RE: Turning off the Switch? - 1/2/2009 7:31:00 PM   

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I've only topped one person (and it was pretty mild, mostly I just spanked her) but I've come to realize that it would be hard for me to switch within a scene, even if I were asked to. The mindset would just be too difficult - even when my husband has me to do sensation play with him bound and blindfolded, I still find myself approaching it from a submissive's state of mind. I admire those who could do switch, especially in scene.

I enjoy being a submissive so much, but it was that topping of my friend that got me to realize how wonderful it was to be able to *give* someone a good beating, so I've got warm fuzzies about the whole thing, though, no matter what. 


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