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Crying? - 2/12/2008 7:52:38 PM   
wonderingslave


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Status: offline 		As a Master, would you be weirded out by your sub/slave/pet crying while she came?

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RE: Crying? - 2/12/2008 8:00:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		Weirded out is an odd word. He gets concerned about why. If it's just an emotional catharsis from stress and stuff, he checks in with me to see if I'm okay and then continues. If it's an emotional trigger, then it's bad news and play stops while he gets me back to normal which can take quite a while plus leaves me drained for the day. We're not so big on s & m, so I've never cried from deliberately inflicted pain, he uses it to get me to react amusingly - poke, OW!, chuckle, rinse, repeat.

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RE: Crying? - 2/12/2008 8:08:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		It would depend a lot on the circumstances.  If it were during vanilla style sex I would definitely want to know what was going on with her.  Weirded out is not the right word at all, but under most circumstances i would be concerned.

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RE: Crying? - 2/12/2008 8:18:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		Counts on the situation it might be tears of joy, or something else, but i always check, then if its joy all sookie sookie 

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RE: Crying? - 2/12/2008 8:26:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've gone to some pretty interesting places during orgasm.  When I cry during those times it doesn't weird him out at all. He knows I'm either experiencing a catharsis or releasing something inside.  If I keep crying afterward, he'll ask what's up and then tell me to stop.

It's all good.

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RE: Crying? - 2/12/2008 8:36:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		I try to bring up the crying thing pretty early on.  Sometimes intense orgasms bring intense release which means crying. 

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RE: Crying? - 2/12/2008 8:36:10 PM   
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I've gone to some pretty interesting places during orgasm.  When I cry during those times it doesn't weird him out at all. He knows I'm either experiencing a catharsis or releasing something inside.  If I keep crying afterward, he'll ask what's up and then tell me to stop.

It's all good.
LOL!!!!..I am sooo sorry owned...I just had to crack up when I read the portion of, if I keep crying afterward,he'll ask whats up and then tell me to stop...for some reason it put to mind how some vanilla  men, wish they could simply say stop and she would..how envious would they be of that ability that Dominants have, instead they stand there probably screaming inside their heads going "aw &*@##$##..now what do I do!!!...:0)....Tempting

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RE: Crying? - 2/12/2008 8:54:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		LOL no problem, Tempting, that's funny.  He just knows I communicate better when I can clear my tears and my mind.  Otherwise, I just sink into the tears and I'm no good to either of us.

But yeah, I can picture that, too. 


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RE: Crying? - 2/12/2008 9:38:18 PM   
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RE: Crying? - 2/12/2008 10:21:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		It happens, in vanilla as well.

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RE: Crying? - 2/12/2008 10:35:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		it's happened to me a time or  two as well.  it's a very intense experience, no reason to get concerned, i would think my partner would be happy to have been a part of that experience.

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RE: Crying? - 2/12/2008 10:52:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

I try to bring up the crying thing pretty early on.  Sometimes intense orgasms bring intense release which means crying. 

Cali



Me too.  It's usually a good idea to mention it just so they know it may be coming.  It can be difficult if it comes from out of the blue as people often assume crying means negative emotions.  I cry when I have intense orgasms.  I will also rarely cry during a scene.  It's not because I am sad, it's a form of release and I don't think it's uncommon as you may think OP.

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RE: Crying? - 2/12/2008 10:58:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: wonderingslave

As a Master, would you be weirded out by your sub/slave/pet crying while she came?

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The first couple of times this happened, it weirded me.  It's something you learn to adjust to and become mentally able to deal with and understand it when it happens.

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RE: Crying? - 2/13/2008 1:32:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't know about anyone else, but I’d be weirded out if there was no emotional response rather then a strong one...


edit- emotional

< Message edited by Foititis -- 2/13/2008 1:44:06 AM >

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RE: Crying? - 2/13/2008 1:36:57 AM   
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ORIGINAL: wonderingslave

As a Master, would you be weirded out by your sub/slave/pet crying while she came?

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Not particularly. Emotions and emotional release are normal.

Would I be concerned if she was crying because of something negative....absolutely. But that's a different mindset to me.

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RE: Crying? - 2/13/2008 2:52:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		I've never cried due to, or during orgasm itself. I have ended up in a crying state because the intensity of play and activity can pull out stress and anxiety. As long as I can communicate that I'm fine and just letting out some pent up tensions, none of my partners have been weirded out. They're concerned until they know the cause, then they proceed. If it's no big deal for me, it shouldn't be a big deal for them.

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RE: Crying? - 2/13/2008 3:07:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		lol... He just asks me if I am aware my eyes are leaking. I can't help it, I burst into laughter and he gives this little smirk and boy oh boy, I know then that I'm not done.

(I think he kinda likes it)

juliet

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RE: Crying? - 2/13/2008 3:09:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		{dammit Roy Orbison get out of my head!!!!}i have had crying experiences in the past due to intense mental play mixed with an orgasm, but never by orgasm alone.  i think the Dom/Master on the receiving end of such a response takes it as His due, in a way.  If They "weirded out"...i'd really have to wonder why.

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RE: Crying? - 2/13/2008 3:50:11 AM   
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ORIGINAL: wonderingslave

As a Master, would you be weirded out by your sub/slave/pet crying while she came?

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Not necessarily. Depends on why she's crying.
 
As long as she was okay, it'd probably turn me on.

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RE: Crying? - 2/13/2008 4:22:15 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: wonderingslave

As a Master, would you be weirded out by your sub/slave/pet crying while she came?

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Nope.

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