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sister in crisis - 2/13/2008 9:16:10 AM

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I am a slave. Totally and wholly owned. I know before I ask this question that I should approach my Master first, and I am inviting punishmet...that alone should speak to the gravity I feel at this situation.

My slave sister is in crisis. He has hurt her very deeply emotionally and she is very likely going to leave him. This hurts me as she is family.

I love him. I need him. He is my Master. But if he has let another collared slave suffer so badly, would it not be smart for me to leave as well?

He has never been anything but kind to me. He loves me and takes care of me in a thousand ways. I cry just thinking about it. I can't fathom it.

RE: sister in crisis - 2/13/2008 9:20:21 AM

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LOL, justr now out here.........I suspect wank.

have you seen everyone the same way in your entire lifetime and has everyone seen you in the light you desire in your lifetime.

No.

What happens for one, is not necessarily what will follow for another.

Yeah, kick his ass to the curb, between the wank and the apples and oranges, you deserve it.

Ron

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RE: sister in crisis - 2/13/2008 9:23:06 AM

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What were these slaves expecting out of this relationship?

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RE: sister in crisis - 2/13/2008 9:25:04 AM

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I don't think you included enough details about what your sister was hurt about for anyone to give you much advice about it specifically. For me, it would completely depend on what he had done. Is it so morally reprehensible that you would never be able to stay with him either? Is it possible that you don't understand the entire story from both sides, and your view may be biased by the support that you naturally extend to your sister in her crisis?

I would first wait out this crisis, because unless he's dangerous to you, you don't need to make any decisions right now. Then I would broach the topic when your sister has gone and the dust has settled a little. This is a highly charged emotional time, and that's the best time to try and keep a level head and don't join in the panicking. The two of them may even end up working out their problems, and it would be best for you to stay out of it and let them work on it.

This kind of thing strains relationships to the breaking point, so try and remain a calm center so you can both lend your support to your loved ones, and so that you give yourself some room to come to your conclusions with a clear mind.

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RE: sister in crisis - 2/13/2008 9:26:02 AM

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Why is his treatment of her so different from his treatment of you? Please elaborate.

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RE: sister in crisis - 2/13/2008 9:26:51 AM

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well I'm not sure I know what 'wank' is (thought it was slang for masturbation, but doesn't seem to fit with your statement)...but I do get your point. Thank you

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RE: sister in crisis - 2/13/2008 9:29:02 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MollyTroubletail

I don't think you included enough details about what your sister was hurt about for anyone to give you much advice about it specifically. For me, it would completely depend on what he had done. Is it so morally reprehensible that you would never be able to stay with him either? Is it possible that you don't understand the entire story from both sides, and your view may be biased by the support that you naturally extend to your sister in her crisis?

I would first wait out this crisis, because unless he's dangerous to you, you don't need to make any decisions right now. Then I would broach the topic when your sister has gone and the dust has settled a little. This is a highly charged emotional time, and that's the best time to try and keep a level head and don't join in the panicking. The two of them may even end up working out their problems, and it would be best for you to stay out of it and let them work on it.

This kind of thing strains relationships to the breaking point, so try and remain a calm center so you can both lend your support to your loved ones, and so that you give yourself some room to come to your conclusions with a clear mind.

Thank you. I needed your calm words to remind me to be calm *kisses*. Sorry, I cannot give more details. (and no, I am not in danger.)

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RE: sister in crisis - 2/13/2008 9:31:49 AM

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Perhaps it's just as well. I can't understand why you'd ask a group of strangers if you should leave your master, whom by your own admission treats you well.

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RE: sister in crisis - 2/13/2008 9:41:51 AM

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Well sometimes a submissive needs to throw her raw emotions and confused thoughts out there, to air them out a little and get some feedback. It's hard to be deeply hurt, confused, having had the ground wobble beneath your feet with someone you have trusted totally. And at the same time she wanted to talk to someone who didn't know her, anonymously. I, too, find comfort in telling the big wide world about it and hearing the feedback. It's a little like calling a crisis hotline... a kinky one. You're there to talk about it and settle yourself down, you're not trying to get out of doing your own thinking or taking your own advice.

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RE: sister in crisis - 2/13/2008 9:47:58 AM

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Thank you again, Molly. I will tell him of this once the dust clears. And I suspect he will understand and support the method I am using, for the reasons you stated.

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RE: sister in crisis - 2/13/2008 9:52:23 AM

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well.in your home the relationships are either seperate or they are not.

either his relationship with her is "none of your business" or everything is out in the open.

if it is the latter then it would be within the scope of your relationship to be able to broach him about it...at least as far_as_to_say_you_will_miss_her.

if_it_is_that_things are seperate... then it is between them...and with her_feeling_hurt I_would_be careful that she is_not trying to manipulate you to_side with her...
it is_possible that_subconsciouly_she_is_using_you_to_get_back_at_him.

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RE: sister in crisis - 2/13/2008 9:54:21 AM

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everything is out in the open, yes. your caution is wise, thank you.

sorry about your space bar. lol

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RE: sister in crisis - 2/13/2008 10:08:05 AM

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You two are different people. Your needs are different. Your ways of interacting are different. Just because he's a good partner for you doesn't mean he would be so for me. Compatibilities vary.

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RE: sister in crisis - 2/13/2008 10:32:35 AM

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If this is so troubling to her that she is going to leave, do you know him well enough to know if this is a pattern for him? Conversely, do you know her well enough to know if it is a pattern for her?

This situation is completely subjective as it's written, but if he is prone to lose slaves in this manner then common sense says that your feelings with be deeply hurt sometime. However, if she's prone to be dramatic over particular things (and this is one of those things) then you're in less danger of being so hurt by him.

Did he trip one of her hard limits? Does his action / reaction seem rational and reasonable? Does hers? If you were in her position, knowing what his position is, would you be just as likely to leave? How long have they been together (this does matter some)? Lots of different variables to consider. In short, use your common sense.

I am sorry for the upset and wish all well.

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RE: sister in crisis - 2/13/2008 12:10:05 PM

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/pulls up a chair
/grabs the popcorn
/grabs a bud

/sits back to enjoy

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RE: sister in crisis - 2/13/2008 4:29:31 PM

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Has he hurt her, or has she hurt herself? I know, you can't give any more detail. Then you won't likely get a whole lot of fitting answers...

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RE: sister in crisis - 2/13/2008 6:27:18 PM

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your instincts will lead you. listen to them, follow accordingly.

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RE: sister in crisis - 2/13/2008 8:11:01 PM

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You've got free access to the internet, it can't be that bad. And if you felt it was time for it to end, you could end it.

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RE: sister in crisis - 2/13/2008 9:56:22 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

well.in your home the relationships are either seperate or they are not.

either his relationship with her is "none of your business" or everything is out in the open.

if it is the latter then it would be within the scope of your relationship to be able to broach him about it...at least as far_as_to_say_you_will_miss_her.

if_it_is_that_things are seperate... then it is between them...and with her_feeling_hurt I_would_be careful that she is_not trying to manipulate you to_side with her...
it is_possible that_subconsciouly_she_is_using_you_to_get_back_at_him.

(my space_bar sticks)

isn't there a law against to many underscores in one post. Yes YES i am in crisis. I can't give any details wait let me get back to you on that!

BadOne

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