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ruthiexxxx -> RE: Have you ever been "collected"? (2/14/2008 1:11:39 PM)

"hot,scarey and cute" someone mentioned....and how often these go together! For a while ,til i was collared ,i had amazing phone sex with an incredibly hunky Dom in the UK.  He could,and would,make me have record numbers of orgasms while describing,in great detail,exactly what He would do to me WHEN,not if,  i eventually came to see Him.  During one of these sessions it finally occurred to me [thick or wot?!] that He might not be alone!!!!!  that thought/fear blew my mind for the night!




fairerthanshe -> RE: Have you ever been "collected"? (2/14/2008 1:18:34 PM)

Greetings all,

Is there really any difference in this situation and going back to read old emails?  Is it different from saving voice mail messages and replaying them?  Is it different than recalling with absolute clarity a moment in time spent in each others arms? 

I don't think there is much difference.  I find the idea incredibly touching and since they already have a practice of watching themselves on video to study one another, then it seems like a natural outcropping of an agreed upon course of behavior.  Hot, sexy, meaningful...

well wishes ~ fairer than she




hejira92 -> RE: Have you ever been "collected"? (2/14/2008 1:48:33 PM)

Master recently played a phone message for me that I had left on His voicemail months ago. It was a very graphic description of my thoughts of Him and what we had done the night before. He transferred it to His computer for posterity.
 
It weirded me out- more embarrassment than anything, really- but, when it comes down to it- it was His to do it with. Granted, I knew I was being recorded when I said all that, but who keeps voicemails?
 
The fact that the couple in question are long term and committed makes me fall more on the side of it is harmless and actually nice- he is still so turned on by her, he wants to learn her "trigger points" even better, and he voluntarily entered it into their repertoire.
 
Dirty and fun to me. [;)]




batshalom -> RE: Have you ever been "collected"? (2/14/2008 3:41:52 PM)

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ORIGINAL: FRSguy

Thats a lot of food for thought.  You cant trust anyone because they are not you but if you cant give yourself compleatly to your Dom then you will never find what you are looking for (dosnt apply to everyone of course.)
As a Dom I want all of my sub... and I mean all of it heart, body and soul.  I dont want to do anything to betray the trust of course, but I really cant make it work without it. As Dom I want a woman to take it so she can give it .... kind of like yeah my dick is up your ass by my hand is in your soul kind of thing.  Hope some of this makes sense like I said .... its hard to put into words.


You seem to be speakin' my language today, FRSguy. Lots of stuff in there to think about. Thanks.




batshalom -> RE: Have you ever been "collected"? (2/14/2008 3:44:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: fairerthanshe

Is there really any difference in this situation and going back to read old emails? 


Greetings, fairer. Very good point.  I hadn't considered it until now. Thank you. ~smiling~




FRSguy -> RE: Have you ever been "collected"? (2/14/2008 3:56:15 PM)

Your welcome! :)




batshalom -> RE: Have you ever been "collected"? (2/14/2008 3:57:09 PM)

heijira, yeah. ~smiling~ Dirty and fun to me too.

I've been keeping girlfriend up with these responses and she's been enjoying it as much as I have, so thanks from both of us.

According to D (the D-type, see) he does not record every single one of their phone scenes. He sometimes has an idea when he will record, sometimes he records them if they start "speaking" to him, so from now on she will know that recording is a possibility but will never know if he is or not, and he vows he will not tell her. ~chuckle~

Also, he said that he will most likely not share these reccordings with her because (as heirjira stated, and girlfriend and I both agree) it would be embarrassing for her to hear and he doesn't want her "acting" on what his favorite scenes / sounds / intimacies are. He wants her to be herself, holding nothing back, emptying her mind of anything except where he guides her during those times.

She told D about this posting and he is quite amused by it, reminding us though that regardless if the consensus had been negative, the decision was still his to make, but he's feeling pretty punky though since it seems that most subs and Doms are basically with the idea. He will be hard to deal with now. ~chuckle~

I'm really beginning to hate that they are monogamous.




kallisto -> RE: Have you ever been "collected"? (2/14/2008 5:49:06 PM)

I have to admit that I would have mixed feelings about this.   My biggest thing is they've been in a relationship for a long time for him to just now be telling her.     I don't think I'd be freaking out about it.  [:)]




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Have you ever been "collected"? (2/14/2008 7:21:34 PM)

I'd be upset if it was something they'd never even mentioned or had said it was something they wouldn't do.  If it was something I knew could or would be part of the relationship, then no problem.




Cuffkinks -> RE: Have you ever been "collected"? (2/14/2008 9:00:34 PM)

   I don't see the problem here. If he let on that he was recording her, she might give thought to what she said or did. Either to entertain him or out of
self-conciousness, and that might have an effect on what she said or did. That might have been what he was thinking as well. Anything she says, does, thinks, or feels...he has a right to. (Provided all involved agree initially.) That is one of the rights of the "D" type. I personally, will not have My little girl editing herself in any way when responding to Me. I have saved recordings of her in the past. Graphic recordings. I saved them because it aroused and entertained Me, and quite frankly...Because I can. I own her and I have that right. I might do it again if I choose. She will not know because she doesn't need to know. I would never use it against her. That much she does know, and that's all she needs to know.




ownedgirlie -> RE: Have you ever been "collected"? (2/14/2008 9:38:59 PM)

I'd think it was hot.

But then I've fantasized about him doing this before, without my knowledge.  I've also fantasized about him conferencing someone into the call to listen without my knowledge.  Whether he has or not is unbeknownst to me at this time.  If he does this then it's obviously something he enjoys, so my thought is why not?  If he owns me which means I am his to enjoy.  He already has hours of video, gigabytes of photos, and known recordings of me as well.  Since I don't require him to report to me what he does, it's not a big deal to me. 




faithfulfemme -> RE: Have you ever been "collected"? (2/15/2008 2:09:25 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I'd be upset if it was something they'd never even mentioned or had said it was something they wouldn't do.  If it was something I knew could or would be part of the relationship, then no problem.


i've got to agree with LA: This is something that should have been negotiated.  D negotiated the videos, so why didn't he the audios?  D would have been in the exact place he is right now if, earlier in their relationship before He started the recordings, he had negotiated He might want to do them.  Absolutely no different place. 
 
Dominants and submissives are equal partners in their relationships.  When a dominant takes the liberty of doing something to/with His submissive without the submissive's consent they are no longer equal.  Also, in this lifestyle we ride a very thin "line".  If, after being with a dominant for over 5 years, i found that She was doing something concerning me for any length of time without my consent i might wonder if She was still aware of just where the "line" was anymore.  
 
i guess i'm really old school on this because, imho, i consider consent to be the foundation of any kink relationship.  It might not always be safe, it might not always be sane, but it absolutely must be consentual.
 
Just my opinion, and going by the number of posts on this topic, we all have them.....
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batshalom -> RE: Have you ever been "collected"? (2/15/2008 4:27:49 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

I'd think it was hot.

But then I've fantasized about him doing this before, without my knowledge.  I've also fantasized about him conferencing someone into the call to listen without my knowledge.  Whether he has or not is unbeknownst to me at this time. 


Ohhhhhhhhhh that's hotttttttttttttttttttttttt. Nasty nasty girlie! ~impressed~

~chuckle~




Aileen1968 -> RE: Have you ever been "collected"? (2/15/2008 4:28:49 AM)

It would freak me out to find out that I had been taped without being told.  I can somewhat understand why she wasn't told though.  It would definitely sound more realistic with her not knowing.  If I knew I was being taped I'd probably "act" a bit.

I've had two people in the past ask to take pictures of me.  One I turned down flat out and said I'd walk out the door if he did and the other I allowed and knew it would happen since he requested that I bring my camera to the meeting.  Since I knew about it, it didn't bother me.  Had any been taken secretly I'd be so angry.




sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Have you ever been "collected"? (2/15/2008 4:58:34 AM)

no, i haven't been collected however i do "collect" others by archiving all of my yahoo IM messages




camille65 -> RE: Have you ever been "collected"? (2/15/2008 6:48:01 AM)

Oh jeez he has a huge 'collection' of me and no I didn't know about it for a while. It never bothered me and infact it makes me feel good inside knowing there are times he wants to hear me talking, moaning, cumming etc for him.He has taped us together but he did let me know beforehand, I wish he hadn't because it took forever to get past being self conscious. I have a collection of him as well, tons of voice mails and chat logs. I keep voice mails from most people for awhile and some I keep permanently (not just him but friends long gone or family).




SubbieOnWheels -> RE: Have you ever been "collected"? (2/15/2008 7:25:06 AM)

I'll preface this by saying I don't do phone sex at this time. If I were in a long-standing relationship, it might be different. By that time, I would know Him so thoroughly that I might be able to use my imagination more.

That being said, I'm a bit of an exhibitionist, so the thought that He might be recording me, either in person or on the phone would actually make me hotter - He would have some new recordings to treasure!

It's already been said that he might have not mentioned it at first out of apprehension that it might inhibit her. Then, as time went on it would have become more difficult to reveal because she might have freaked out. It's the same way with telling people bad news - some put it off and put it off until it either slips out (as in this case) or it becomes mandatory to tell.




junecleaver -> RE: Have you ever been "collected"? (2/15/2008 7:51:35 AM)

I would think it was totally hot.  Especially if I never specified that I didn't want to be taped or whatever.




ownedgirlie -> RE: Have you ever been "collected"? (2/15/2008 8:23:42 AM)

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ORIGINAL: batshalom
Ohhhhhhhhhh that's hotttttttttttttttttttttttt. Nasty nasty girlie!




LOL wipe up that drool, you nasty slut.  [8D]





BlackPhx -> RE: Have you ever been "collected"? (2/15/2008 8:25:01 AM)

It would disturb me to some extent. Mostly wondering what I had said..and how it could come back to bite me. Emails I send I keep copies of.

poenkitten




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