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MrThorns -> RE: Orgasm On Demand (9/7/2004 6:48:13 AM)

Welcome to the boards Ronin...

~Thorns




MistressRoninS -> RE: Orgasm On Demand (9/7/2004 10:29:50 AM)

Thank you MrThorns... *smile*... Nice too meet you.


MR




slavencali -> RE: Orgasm On Demand (9/16/2004 8:55:42 PM)

i guess i must be one of the few who ]will admit that i was trained to cum on demand ( i am a bit out of practice, but i know that i could again once i get into the right relationship and in the right situation). i am multi-orgasmic so that was never a problem, the problem i faced was not cumming once i was told to several times in a row. thats just this humble slaves view though..




Interesdom -> RE: Orgasm On Demand (2/14/2005 8:41:44 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Estring
I have trained my new slave to cum on my command. ...
My question is, is this possible in a vanilla relationship?

Yes, though I'm not sure I've ever really been in a vanilla relationship I achieved this some time back, long before being involved with BDSM.
The woman already was 'trained' to get sexually excited by stroking her cheek (I'm not sure how, or even if it was deliberate). Using simple repetition and association (thank you, Pavlov) I extended this so that by stroking one cheek, then kissing the other, I could often make her come. All it took was stroking her cheek and kissing her face nearly every time she came. We split up before I had total command of her but I have no doubt I would have got there in just a few more months. Interestingly, although most people start this process by denying orgasm, I never even attempted that in this case.




Alexander -> RE: Orgasm On Demand (2/14/2005 9:05:33 AM)

I believe someone already mentioned this but here is my take.

There are two things you are working on when you do this, one should be the over all goal to make the slave girl incredibly responsive sexually in general, to release her potential. The other thing you are doing is conditioning her to be responsive to you and your voice. The main technique here is the solid repetition in "the masters voice" during orgasm reinforcing her connection with you.

I don't think you should work on this technique until you have reached a place where you are bringing the girl to her full potential and making her cum hard and often. I think the first power ‘comes’ (couldn’t help it) before the second (I know this is completely obvious). This kind of thing doesnt just happen, theres got to be chemistry and maybe thats what we are really talking about.

Reasoning. Over-thinking the results of failure: Say your conditioning fails? For a week she’s not orgasmic and you both think something’s wrong. Welcome to D/s relationship anxiety 101.

Ok ok so it happened to me once I admit it!

Also I just think that commanding a girl to cum is nowhere near as fun as forcing her to. Or just using her and not worrying about it. Make them beg I say. I’m satisfied if the girl gets wet when she hears my voice in her ear softly. Mystery and anticipation are the crucial part for me. if theres a connection everything comes naturally.




Darthbetta -> RE: Orgasm On Demand (2/14/2005 9:13:08 AM)

yea, Somnovi can be a "gusher"..... such a great thing as the power of command words [:D]




RiotGirl -> RE: Orgasm On Demand (2/14/2005 9:28:46 AM)

Access Denied




blondenough -> RE: Orgasm On Demand (5/9/2005 9:50:22 AM)

Heck with sex-ed...Y/ya can't even find it in what's supposed to be a intricately-detailed medical book. Jeesh!




tinkastoi -> RE: Orgasm On Demand (5/9/2005 7:22:43 PM)

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For all the subs/slaves in terror of becoming trained to one person, and will be stuck that way forever, take heart that if the relationship ends, you'll be able to go back to 'normal' a few months later i.e. orgasm without being instructed to.


Not entirely true... i learned to cum on command with my first Master... also i learned to not be able to cum without permission... to this day (5 years later) after not being with him anymore i still cannot cum without permission at the time. Masturbation is worthless to me for release and only frustrates me more. i think this is something that few take into consideration when teaching this. i think it all depends on the person, the depth of training and how intense the training was. This also makes things dangerous for a sub/slave as they will prowl to fill their needs.

tink




wetsub000 -> RE: Orgasm On Demand (5/9/2005 10:00:35 PM)

I love this thread. I was introduced to orgasm control a couple of years back and it's changed me. Firstly can I say for those who are worried about not being able to cum should something happen to their relationship with the Dom who trains them. It doesn't have to be an exclusive thing. I can now cum as he demands, I can also cum when others demand (to a lesser extent) and I can just cum as part of a normal response, though I do find it is generally much easier to cum. This is because not only has my Dom trained me to respond to him, we've discussed what things help to push me over the edge, I'm much more aware of my own responses and having cum many, many times for him, less inhibited about getting there.




sinnah -> RE: Orgasm On Demand (5/10/2005 3:14:02 AM)

Regarding the earlier posts about vanilla sex.

While I am a dom and do enjoy a BDSM lifestyle, my wife and I have an equal (ie. non dom/sub) relationship. But I do remember, that earlier in our marriage, my wife would cum (with multiple orgasms sometimes) when I said 'Cum for me'. This happened when after a few times of her orgasming, I would say 'Cum for me'; and the link stayed in her mind.

It didn't affect her ability to orgasm normally, and after time, as we moved on to other partners as well, we found that she didn't always come with the command.

It didn't make her more submissive or me more dominant in the relationship, so I guess it was fun, but not personality (sexuality) threatening like some others seem to find.




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