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irishdan -> humilation (2/17/2008 10:57:50 AM)

have seen a lot of posts hear about humilation but a lot seem to be male fantasies rather than females! the purpose of being a slave is to do what the domme wants is there many dommes that really enjoy humiliation? what kind of humiliation do you really enjoy?



LadyEllen -> RE: humilation (2/17/2008 11:03:13 AM)

I enjoy verbally humiliating males - but it has to be done very carefully (we dont want to cause genuine distress after all) and I must have the space and urge to be creative with it.

E



irishdan -> RE: humilation (2/17/2008 11:05:44 AM)

thats so what would be considered going to far? what would you say?



LadyEllen -> RE: humilation (2/17/2008 11:08:42 AM)

Going too far Dan, is extremely variable - each male has different buttons, some of which you can press anytime, some of which you can press in the right circumstances and some which are strictly off limits because they generate real, genuine distress. It requires that one know the guy really very well indeed - or that one treads very carefully.

E



irishdan -> RE: humilation (2/17/2008 11:09:36 AM)

thanks!




DiurnalVampire -> RE: humilation (2/17/2008 11:10:40 AM)

Going too far varies on the person being humiliated. Angel and Fox are both mine. Angel enjoys humiliation, Fox does not. That means that treatig Angel a certain way, and saying things to him that are meant to humiliate him works just fine. With he and I that has worked well from the onset of our realtionship.  These VERY SAME things, said to Fox would not have anything even close to a positive effect. The humilation for Angel is a turn on. For Fox, it would shut him down.
You have to know not only what to say, but how to say it, when to say it and to whom you can say it to. Many people who have humiliation fantasies have very specific ones, and there are only certain topics that will have any effect. Even with those who truly enjoy humiliation, you can step over a line and move from erotic humiliation to actual hurtful comments quickly.

DV





MstrssM4u -> RE: humilation (2/17/2008 11:13:14 AM)

I like to take him out to dinner and have him wear his mouth gag so that everyone will see and then look at us, as if to say what the hell is going on,lol. No body knows but him and I. then when I want him to order all I do is have him to take it off himself and then that is when he can order. that is how I like to humiliate My boi.

Ms M



irishdan -> RE: humilation (2/17/2008 11:17:48 AM)

thanks for replies keep them coming! all are helpful



AAkasha -> RE: humilation (2/17/2008 11:25:13 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MstrssM4u

I like to take him out to dinner and have him wear his mouth gag so that everyone will see and then look at us, as if to say what the hell is going on,lol. No body knows but him and I. then when I want him to order all I do is have him to take it off himself and then that is when he can order. that is how I like to humiliate My boi.

Ms M


What restaurants specifically do you do this at? What does the waitstaff say?  Have any parents given you dirty looks and then took their children and left before their food arrived?

Akasha



irishdan -> RE: humilation (2/17/2008 11:26:24 AM)

also what do you actually enjoy doing to your males to humilate them? is humilaiton something that many mistress really enjoy?



AAkasha -> RE: humilation (2/17/2008 11:27:02 AM)

I get off on reactions, so I have to select tasks that are specifically impactful for the submissive and make him feel the type and level of shame that I am craving.  It includes leash training, forcing him to eat from a bowl on the floor, forced feminization, face slapping, verbal humiliation/degradation, embarassing him in front of female friends, CFNM situations, etc.

Akasha



SunNMoon -> RE: humilation (2/17/2008 11:29:28 AM)

The trick with humiliation play is that it’s really based on who you are with. Everyone finds different things humiliating and because of that it really changes what can happen. Also as DV pointed out humiliation might not be a positive for the submissive and can be damaging.

I know that a few of the types of play that I’m into would be considered humiliation play. I also know that part of humiliation play is watching to make sure that the line isn’t crossed (the point where it’s no longer fun). I know a lot of what I like is verbal humiliation and a long pet play.



MistressVnus -> RE: humilation (2/17/2008 1:02:36 PM)

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also what do you actually enjoy doing to your males to humilate them? is humilaiton something that many mistress really enjoy?


It depends on the slave.  As someone pointed out, different slave either do, or do not, enjoy humiliation (and/or degradation).  Then, I consider there to be to kinds of humiliation:

1) Physical acts that are humiliating.
2)Verbal taunting that is humiliating

And, of course it can involve both.

Some of my things to do?   Make him bend over neeeked and spread his cheeks as far as he can for inspection.
Make him have to get his "pee bowl" and pee in front of me, squatting, in the bowl, after getting permission to pee (every time).
Using that full bowl of pee as a constant reminder of what can happen if he isn't behaving properly.  It will get dumped on him.  If the bowl isn't full when he needs that punishment, making him sit and drink glass after glass of water until he pees in the bowl enough to get it full.
Inspecting his tasks and chores and doing things like making him lick the floor to proove it has been mopped well.
Or, shoving his head into the toilet bowl if I find it isn't cleaned to my satisfaction.
Corner time (nose in corner) can be very humiliating.  Especially if other people are present, or come over (bdsm people).
Slapping his face in public can be extremely humiliating.  I try to reserve this for places like a bar or parking lot where there aren't likely to be children observing.  I don't care if adults see this particular activity as it doesn't necessarily denote BDSM.  Just an upset girlfriend.
There are so many things.  But they are different for everyone.  It can expand into many things as you get to know someone.



irishdan -> RE: humilation (2/17/2008 1:50:24 PM)

wow you sound like quite the expert mistress venus!



MistressVnus -> RE: humilation (2/17/2008 2:11:12 PM)

Ha!!  Not hardly.  But, thank you.   I have learned a few things over the years.  However, as stated by others, it really is about getting to know "that" particular person as to what is humiliating for them.  AND, that humiliation is not necessarily used as a "fetish" to turn on the slave, but as a form of punishment and behavior modificaion in some cases.  And that is when you have to understand someone's buttons and know that particular individual well for it to be effective.



dreamerdreaming -> RE: humilation (2/17/2008 4:21:20 PM)

irishdan, i perved your profile. u r cute! Welcome to the world, baby boy. This is my first post, so please bear with me. I just hafta say I LIVE to punish, completely humiliate, objectify, and truly OWN my slaveboy. There is nothing that brings me more pleasure than his abject humiliation. The white-hot, exquisite beauty of it is extremely gratifying for me.



DominaJayde -> RE: humilation (2/17/2008 5:07:29 PM)

Well that depends on the person, for one of my boys the most humiliating thing I can make him do is wear female panties under his work clothes where there is a damn good chance they will be seen during the day by his fellow workers, for another that scenario would have him erect the whole day since it's a turn on not a humiliation.

For another boy having his masculinity called verbally into question is very humiliating for him, adressing him as My Girl and calling him a slut, giving him a female name, that pushes his buttons for humiliation,  another boy loves it when I call him My Girl and begged me to give him a female name.

So it all comes down to the person, and knowing what really pushes their buttons.

DJ




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