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Owner4SexSlave -> RE: A theory I have... (2/19/2008 8:14:01 AM)
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I'm not really certain where you going with this thread. However, I'm going to go into the Vanity aspects for a moment and how it relates it to my current relationship. Looking good can apply to things and places as well as people.
She loves to make and design her own clothes and does this for other people. It's something she simply loves to do, and it's nothing I want to change either. Since we have been together she said she's starting to feel more inspired to make things again. Basically for the last few monthes she's not been very active with this hobby. She's been checking out some of the fetish dress and model girls from my myspace friends. She's been exploring the thought of using Latex and PVC and whatnot. She honestly diggs a lot of the looks and designs. Added Bonus, I enjoy these things. OK, so this is all about her personal look and she loves making things for others.
She currently has a project of working on Tribal style tattoo art for a pair of Jeans and a white tank top for me. Basically, these are things I want to wear out when I'm playing guitar and singing in front of people at the bars. Both her and myself want me to look better and kewler in front of people. So this is a task for her.
In terms of around the house decor and living spaces, her bed room is very exotic and interesting. Love it to death, and actually it's very relaxing and puts me at ease. We both have similar interests in decor and tastes. Basically, how to tap into nature and bring it into a room.
Last night we were talking about how great it feels to wear nice things, not for the sake of pleasing other people but ourselves and how it makes us feel about ourselves.
Both her and I think the same when it comes down to the way many of the college girls dress. You know basically girls claiming about dressing because it's an expression of individualism yet the seem to be following the Heard. Yes, the heard of college girls all wearing the same shit, looking the same. They even travel in heards from bar to bar and places to eat too. Ok, well perhaps both her and I are being too hard on these poor young girls. What matters is that both me and her think much a like. Back to the whole concept of a sub/slave being a reflection of their master and vice versa.
In terms of my own vanity, I really don't try to think too deeply upon trying to please or be eye candy for the whole world. I wear what pleases me, and if it shocks or makes others take notice so much the better. I'm not the GQ type of guy. Oh yes, I'm that crazy musician type. I have gone into Goth hang out places wearing bright colors when everbody else was wearing black. Says a lot more about being a non conformist, don't you think? Don't get me wrong I love the Goth Look as well. But I'm not gonna dress up all Goth for the night when I myself don't feel like it.
Looking good is a matter of wearing or making things look the way you want them to look. If you can express your own creative ideas and true individualism, you'll be a much happier person. People tend to enjoy and find beauty in people that are happy with themselves. I think seeing somebody with a smile upon their face and being happy, looks good. Compared to somebody following the heard trying to fit in, being not so happy and confused. Sure the outfit they are wearing might look like a million bucks but it they are not happy, it shows and it's not all that attractive.
Clothing and jewerly can show and express a lot about a person. Some of these things can have great meaning to a person, beside just looking good. Take BDSM collars for instance. Some girls love to wear them because it looks kewl or hot. However, they are not really collared and don't know shit about the BDSM lifestyle. On the other hand, we all know how much meaning a collar can and does have. Sure both the vanilla girl and the BDSMer girl both enjoy the look and feel. The meaning is somewhat different. If the vanilla girl really enjoys wearing it and it happy as hell. Who has the right to dimension her happiness in wearing it. If she is wearing it just so she can fit in with all her friends, or look just as kewl at club, then good chance she has self esteem issues.
I notice things that people wear, I'll actually ask them questions about articles of clothing or jewlery. See if there's any meaning or story behind what they are wearing. It's actually a great conversation starter, plus you get to quickly learn a lot about the other person. Even more so when you see the smile on their face while you tell you a short story behind it all.
Looking good is mental and a physical state. Even the decor one has in their house says a lot about their mental state of mind and personality. Be it the art they hang on the walls, or lack of it. The books on display on a bookcase. The type of things they collect and have on display or again the lack of such things. Some people try to break their necks trying to impress people, and some people simply show themselves for who they really are.
I've been to peoples houses where they were trying to impress me with Quanity and how much money they spent on shit. Other people's houses that were showing me things with deeper meaning and value beside how much it cost.
It's good for people to Love themselves, however if they get too carried away it can be very Narcissistic which is really an ugly thing.
These are my thoughts on looking good from a vanity point of view.
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