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just a tad bit confused - 2/20/2008 12:27:03 AM

SwitchyRooWitchy

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well I have to pose this question....I am really not sure how to say this or pose this question so I will explain the situation first.
Me and another Switch I guess are helping eachother better understand things about the other,and we were on the phone one night almost 2 months ago now , anyway one thing lead to another,he was way up in sub space, and within 5 seconds without meaning too let him drop way to quickly he'd said a few choice words to Me and hung up the phone...now I've realized how I messed up appologized to him and reassured him that it was Me who messed up and should of seen it well I have still yet to earn the level of trust we had between us back and We've got through that, or so I thought we had, we have since then talked and gotten closer, well the other night on the phone yet again something triggered and he was in tears on the phone telling Me he was sorry and so on so forth, I had yet again explained to him that it was not anything he had done it was Me who made the mistake and I did not blame him for anything that was said or done when this incident happened.

okay now to My question, he proclaims to be a Switch, but I was speaking a My Sister and thought on this for a while, Im not sure what I've come up with actually not really too sure what I think, I do know that knowing him for as long as I have this confuses Me just a tad bit....but does this reaction to the situation after all this time show?

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RE: just a tad bit confused - 2/20/2008 9:40:17 PM

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Could you please explain this more carefully for us? I am not really sure what it is you are trying to say and, therefore, I am unable to respond to you. I am sure others are having similar difficulty. I would like to help if I can.

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RE: just a tad bit confused - 2/20/2008 11:30:52 PM

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Are you asking us to identify if he is a sub or a switch from what you told us about him?

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RE: just a tad bit confused - 2/20/2008 11:35:16 PM

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There are no set emotions that fit only into any one role. We cannot tell you what role he is or why he experiences those emotions. Does it matter what role he is? Does this relationship work for you? That's what matters.

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RE: just a tad bit confused - 2/21/2008 12:52:40 AM

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not asking for you to tag him as neither submissive or Dom, just curious as to ya'll ideas of what or how after this amount of time he could still be emotional like he was, I mean he says his a switch but those actions show me he's more submissive then switch,or that he's got alot of insecurities about his submission, my sister and myself have discussed this a bit and I believe that he may be a submissive with some Top quailities, when that need in me arrises to be have a Top ~shrugs~ just curious as to what others think is all, right now at this point it does work for Me, I just can not figure out why he's feeling those emotions after this length of time. maybe it's just me and I'm thinking on it to hard, but I really do care for him. and am trying my hardest not to let that subdrop happen again. well dang just found out that he had other things going on with him that caused the drop like that, dang wish he woulda said something BEFORE I decided to post this, maybe then I wouldn't of started trying to question myself to some degree

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RE: just a tad bit confused - 2/21/2008 11:25:28 AM

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"Questioning yourself to some degree" is not a bad thing. People here will give friendly advice, but there's just no way we can tell you why he's experiencing difficulty. It sounds like the two of you have talked about it again and you have some resolution. The answer you will most always get is that. Talk to him and then talk to him again and again.

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RE: just a tad bit confused - 3/12/2008 4:48:08 PM

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Try not to think of any steps towards solution you take HAVING to be from a Dominant or switch or sub point of view. You are two people, trying to figure out how to push the right buttons HARD without touching the bad buttons. It happens.. I agree with laurell3 - talk talk talk talk talk talk. Then do it some more.

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