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Something I thought might be helpful - 2/21/2008 12:57:38 AM   
DaddyAndCarina


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This was sent to me in Email recently from my oldest ... I think it is a good reminder

USEFUL KNOWLEDGE THAT EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW... PASS IT ON...

 
 




Subject: Through a Rapist's Eyes (no Joke)
  In light of a recent abduction and murder , it is important to share this with as many women as we can. Please share with the women in your life.

Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke) 

This is important information for females of ALL ages 



Please pass it along. 

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed . They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair . Women with short hair are not common targets. 

2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly . Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing. 

3) They also look for women on their cell phone , searching through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered. 
4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:00a.m. and 8:30a.m. 

5)The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots. Number two: is office parking lots/garages. Number three: is public restrooms. 

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught. 

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years. 

8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming. 

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands. 
Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it. 

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question , like what time is it, or make general small talk: 'I can't believe it is so cold out here,' 'we're in for a bad winter.' Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target. 

11)If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK ! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back . Again, they are looking for an EASY target. 

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

13)If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and armpit)OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts . 

14)After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN . I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there. 

15)When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible . The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly. 

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!! 

You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble. 

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point of your body. If you are close enough to use it, do! 

2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans . If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives. 

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location. 

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking garage:
A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.
B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars. 
C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. 

IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked 'for help' into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim. 

9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her 'Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.' 

I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as well



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RE: Something I thought might be helpful - 2/21/2008 1:06:01 AM   
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Thank-you Carina

    I learned some new tricks and will send a copy to my 19 yr old niece away at college.

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RE: Something I thought might be helpful - 2/21/2008 1:49:32 AM   
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Welcome ....  I  hope  many  pass this on to  family  members I sent it to everyone on my mail list

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RE: Something I thought might be helpful - 2/22/2008 8:49:30 AM   
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even a brooklyn girl learned a thing or two thanks. passing it on to as many people as i can

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RE: Something I thought might be helpful - 2/22/2008 1:55:25 PM   
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WOW  2 urban legends at once. . .

"Rapist letter" debunking  http://www.snopes.com/crime/prevent/rape.asp

"Safety tips" debunking  http://www.snopes.com/crime/prevent/ninetips.asp

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RE: Something I thought might be helpful - 2/22/2008 2:03:19 PM   
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I am guessing this means you  see nothing useful in it ....

I  do and no I dont believe it will KEEP anyone from being raped I  think that  it is highly possible it will deter the possibilies

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RE: Something I thought might be helpful - 2/22/2008 2:52:29 PM   
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Having been in law inforcement, and working in womens shealters, and on crisis hot line this is very good advice.

Snopes or not.

I also reconmend that every woman take a self defence course. 1 in 3 American women are raped or sexualy assulted.
Get yourself some information on self defence.

Use pepper _Foam_, not spray. Who in the hell is going to check wind direction before they spray some asshole? The foam sticks to thier face.. and disables them longer.

Always have some sort of protection in your car. Billy clubs on the driver side is always a good idea. Also teaching your kids how to react in a dangerous situation is very important. There are many self defense programs out there for both.

These are a few: http://www.rapeescape.com/ for women and children self defense in Phoenix, AZ


here is more helpful info.

"In a stranger-rape situation, if he allows you to see his face, you get his name, or you can somehow otherwise identify your attacker, and he knows it, it’s all the more important to get away from him, even if he has a knife and you are risking injury.  Because unless he’s quite inexperienced, he’s likely to kill you to leave no witnesses." 
 John Douglas, legendary FBI profiler
 
3/4ths of the rapes commited are by known attackers.
 
This is a very good website, with many links and sections on self defense, rape, and domestic abuse. http://www.safetyforwomen.com/start.htm 
 
any thing that teaches you to kick or anything really complicated like that will not in the end be effective. If you are on the ground, of course kick the living shit out of him. esp the groin.
 
Usualy screaming, being really loud and making as much noise and trouble scares them off. Also even if you are not in the dangerous situation keep your eyes peeled. Look for others who may need your help. Do get involved and call 911 if you see something off.
 
http://www.defendu.com/wsdi/principles.htm

I hope this helps.


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RE: Something I thought might be helpful - 2/22/2008 6:33:29 PM   
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Hmm.  One thing you can tab on - rapists aren't commiting crimes of passion, they're crimes of power.  They can and will take whatever catches their fancy, and the availability factor [compounded with guilt/shame complexes] sometimes make family members easy targets.

When I was raped, it wasn't by a stranger.   But then I was also rather young.



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