MistressZanthia
Posts: 88
Joined: 7/2/2004 From: Seattle, Washington, USA Status: offline
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I am going to toss my .02 cents in just because. Yes, the web is full of wannabes, on all sides of the spectrum. Quite frankly most ladies don't have time to play 20 questions with every boy who comes along, and the slightest thing indicating she may have to, is very off putting to people with time constraints. I for instance, do not email or chat with anyone but established friendships. Why? These exact same HNGs have wasted my time with their questions in the past and I refuse to go there again, ever. Granted if I were looking for a personal submissive/slave I would ask those questions, but guess where? IN PERSON ONLY. As I have no interest in wasting time on the web/phone with someone who may be the love of my life or may be a "brother" to me because we haven't technically "sniffed each others asses" and determined that there is mutual chemistry that is required to pursue each other as potential mates. So for starters, realize not everyone wants to take the time to get to know you in that way, because maybe they're jaded like I am in such a way that every submale who approaches her is looking for the opportunity to bait her into cyber play which for most women is no where near as gratifying as it is for males. And what seems like the most innocent questions to you about D/s S/M etc, is commonly masturbation fodder for the masses (and I mean masses) of HNGs out there. So wanting to put the cart (lifestyle interests) before the horse (having an actual relationship with another) is most assuredly the wrong way to approach it in my opinion. Be prepared to ask a lady out and date like vanilla humans and do the "get to know you game" the only way it's truly possible. Instead being the demanding "do me sub" you appear to be with this post. I am a sadist, and I'd torture you to tears and screams but guess what? I come with a cost, you want my expertise and creativity you'll have to pay for it in ways that make me happy (either a deep personal relationship [like formal collaring/marriage] or tribute there are no in betweens). But I'm a professional so I won't mince words. I don't accept "do me subs" for my personal relationships regardless, another "just not worth my time endeavor". Now before you scream "foul" note that most if not all females come with a cost to the male, you may not see so clearly but we do. And I will grant I am high maintenance and costly right up front, I make sure the males in my life know who and what I am. I won't be the one who'd marry you, just to divorce you a year later and take your house, that's a vanilla female tactic. You choose what you prefer, honesty or subterfuge. Most of us dominant ladies will tell it like it is, I can't speak for the "wannabe dommes" I don't know any.
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~*Zan*~ www.zanthia.com
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