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MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all, do they? (9/26/2005 2:48:19 PM)

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I was a little taken back and asked her ("why, when I write a nice introduction about myself and about my lifestyle and what I'm looking for , why do I get one word responces saying (No)



It may be a matter of perception. You may feel you wrote a nice introduction, she may feel that you did not.

I often get emails from those that feel they are what I am looking for according to my profile, but I feel they are not, again according to the information in my profile. There also may be something in your profile or email that she feels makes you not what she wants.

If I am turning someone down that wrote an email intro, I'm not going to send them several paragraphs as to why I'm turning them down. Unless they are completely off the wall (in which case I usually just ignore them), I'll send them a one liner saying no thank you, and that's that.

At least you got a definitive response.



DiaperedBabySub -> RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all, do they? (9/27/2005 1:50:11 AM)

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I often get emails from those that feel they are what I am looking for according to my profile, but I feel they are not, again according to the information in my profile. There also may be something in your profile or email that she feels makes you not what she wants


I agree with that 100 percent . I think however that a one liner from a sub or slave should also be sufficient then . If the Domme is interested they could say yes and then an introduction should be sufficient at that time.



MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all, do they? (9/27/2005 4:02:58 AM)

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I agree with that 100 percent . I think however that a one liner from a sub or slave should also be sufficient then . If the Domme is interested they could say yes and then an introduction should be sufficient at that time.



How is she going to know if she's interested in you if you don't send her an introduction telling her about yourself, and work to get her interested?

I get nonsense emails like that all the time...lilke "30 m sub....interested?". I'm not even going to be bothered to read their profile after an email like that.



DiaperedBabySub -> RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all, do they? (9/27/2005 6:28:50 AM)

Well I would hope that she would read my profile ,just as I read hers and then if she was interested ask me for an indepth letter about myself. I find that a lot of Dommes profiles on here tell me about who they are in the vanilla world and what type of relationship they are looking for. If they match my interests to a tee, it still doesnt mean they would be interested in an adult baby. I know Dommes get bombarded with mail from subs and slaves who dont read there profiles and just copy and paste mail to them., but there are some out here that really are truely looking and read the profiles.



prettyfellowme -> RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all, do they? (9/27/2005 7:52:10 AM)



long profile
short profile,
it matters not--
the so called sub males only read one thing..........
FEMDOM
they do not care about the rest of the person inside of the profile.

That just isn't true. For me, if I go to a domme's profile, I know they're donimant because that's wht I search to begin with. I read every line, and more often than not, I find something said that eliminates me before I start. There is no sense for me to solicit a domme that doesn't like feminization, and also there is no need for me to solicit a domme that is into heavy pain, because I'm not. I do take the time to read a profile, and I keep outside interest if there are any in mind too. Any woman that adores skydiving, bungee jumping while blindfolded, motorcycle racing, and alligator wrestling will probably be doing many things alone if she has me for a sub. On the other hand, if she likes fine dining, sports to some degree, theatre, I could go on, we may have common interests that are worth exploring.



prettyfellowme -> RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all, do they? (9/27/2005 7:56:32 AM)

Lady Angelica,
If we were closer in age, I promise you'd have one sub vying for your attention. By the way, KC's comment on your legs may just be the understatement of the century.



LADYBOA -> RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all, do they? (9/29/2005 10:28:35 PM)


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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

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ORIGINAL: RiotGirl

So? What of it? Who cares? Are you jealous?


Hell yes I am jealous...but then I have a nice long pee while standing at the toilet and I get over it.

Taggard


Oh MY TallDarkAndWitty... That had me laughing so hard I almost pee'd my pants LMFAO!!!



onceburned -> RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all, do they? (9/30/2005 1:55:26 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DiaperedBabySub
Well I would hope that she would read my profile ,just as I read hers and then if she was interested ask me for an indepth letter about myself.


Ordinarily I would simply steer you away from the one-liner approach. Its equivalent to an internet ad which has no picture or audio, simply a link to their website. It puts all the work on the very person the advertiser hopes to win over. And I think advertisers have found that video and audio (along with eye catching graphics and interesting text) works best to winning over the recipient of an ad. Obviously, any of us aren't going to have sophisticated tools such as audio and video.... but at least our introductory letter can show that we have put some work into it, and that we care about the person we are writing to.

But.... you have a rather specialized fetish. And a lot of dommes will not be interested, no matter how much work you put into a letter of introduction. So I can see why you have opted to streamline your approach.

I honestly don't know what to recommend. Certainly one-liners are annoying to receive. But to make crafting good introduction letters worthwhile, you would need to have a good way of deciding in advance whether a domme is open to your fetish.

Do adult babies trade tips on how to indentify prospective parthers? Maybe there is a webpage that would give you some screening tools? I want to advise you to avoid one-liners, but if 99% of your letters get rejected no matter what you write.... well, I can see why you use them.



kc692 -> RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all, do they? (9/30/2005 6:10:56 AM)


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ORIGINAL: prettyfellowme

Lady Angelica,
If we were closer in age, I promise you'd have one sub vying for your attention. By the way, KC's comment on your legs may just be the understatement of the century.


???---I looked throught the last two pages,,,whad I say?






MistressKay -> RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all, do they? (9/30/2005 6:14:14 AM)

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ORIGINAL: TVMistressHelen
True. I used to have a lot more info but then I thought I'd try the minimalist approach too and see how it worked.


So how is the minimalist approach working for you? (curious minds would like to know)

Lady Kay



MistressKay -> RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all, do they? (9/30/2005 6:44:23 AM)

The effort FemDommes make is different than that of a submissive - that is not in question - but FemDommes DO have to make efforts. Consider that the average FemDomme receives anywhere from 20 to 2000 emails in a month - going through each one looking for that one elusive partner that fits a very specific need takes time and energy. Where as a submissive will go through 20 to 2000 profiles to find that Domme, we have to screne that same number of emails.

FemDommes rarely look through profiles - they just don't have the time. But that doesn't mean that a submissive should have a profile - quite the contrary - if we read an email that strikes our fancy then we will look at the profile that goes with it. If the profile is informative (and includes a photo of your face) odds are you will get a response. If the profile is empty and no photo - odds are your email will end up deleted.

Here are some things to keep in mind in order to help us FemDommes find you.

If a submissive sends a cut and paste template email most likely it will end up deleted and not responded to... it's not personal enough.

If you send a one liner about how beautiful she is, she probably wont respond - obviously you are just interested in her looks and not her.

Make the note personal and mention something in our profile that appealed to you and why. We are human and enjoy knowing that you liked our profile over all the others out there. We shouldn't feel like "just another domme" in your email - we should feel uniquely desireable to you.

Don't beg/grovel or sound desperate - desperate subs are scary and most FemDommes wont bother with them.

Sound confident but humble (think of a Knight approaching a lady - respectful but he is never less of a man). Spelling and grammar DOES count! An email like this looks unintelligent and rude wont get a response "u r hot! i want to srve u" - get real guys! Try manners, spelling and grammar.

Even if you desire humiliation don't bother looking for it in that first email - the humiliation is the empty email box you have at the end of the day - don't expect a reply.

It isn't that hard to get a reply - it just takes sincerity.

One last note - if you don't get a reply - move on. Some women lack manners too.

wishing all the best,

Lady Kay
Ottawa, ON Canada



LadyAngelika -> RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all, do they? (10/1/2005 6:13:57 AM)


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ORIGINAL: kc692


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ORIGINAL: prettyfellowme

Lady Angelica,
If we were closer in age, I promise you'd have one sub vying for your attention. By the way, KC's comment on your legs may just be the understatement of the century.


???---I looked throught the last two pages,,,whad I say?



You forgot the lovely compliment you gave me on September 17th already!! No worries, it took me a while to find it it too. ;)

And thanks for the added compliment prettyfellowme.

- LA



kc692 -> RE: Fem doms just don't have to make any effort at all, do they? (10/1/2005 7:11:43 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika


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ORIGINAL: kc692


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ORIGINAL: prettyfellowme

Lady Angelica,
If we were closer in age, I promise you'd have one sub vying for your attention. By the way, KC's comment on your legs may just be the understatement of the century.


???---I looked throught the last two pages,,,whad I say?



You forgot the lovely compliment you gave me on September 17th already!! No worries, it took me a while to find it it too. ;)

And thanks for the added compliment prettyfellowme.

- LA


I knew I loved your legs, diva, (big grin), but just did not know where specifically he was talking about!! Thanks for clearing up my confusion, lol.


Edited to add: prettyfellowme, unfortunately for you and others, I daresay there is more than one sub regularly vying for LA's attention at any given time, smiles. It takes an extraordinary person to catch her undivided attention. That person should feel very lucky, if she ever finds the right one, lol...



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