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Madame4a -> RE: Why (2/23/2008 5:28:20 AM)
You've gotten a lot of god advice, I'll reiterate, for me, when I'm not looking is when wonderful people find me. In fact, that has been the case for every relationship I've had in the last 15 years, partners, play partners, people in service and even good close friends. If you're intent on looking for rather than aournd (LOVE that!) ... what are you doing besides your CM profile? Going to all kinds of parties? social events? meetings? places where like minds congregate? Those are all things you should do because ultimately, if you want someone in your arms, you should look in the flesh.. although online isn't a bad place to start. I agree that you should change that profile. Personally, I wouldn't read past the part that says you're dropping off the face of the earth. Good luck...

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Why (2/23/2008 5:33:48 AM)
My first collar-worthy slave took me nearly 7 years to find. He lived hundreds of miles away and it took more effort than I'd like to admit to make it happen, but he was worth it and I knew it. Angel is still mine. Fox came into my life by accident. We met with no intentions past taking pictures and have been together for nearly 5 months. The harder you look, the less you find. When you are actively looking for the "right sub/slave" you forget to look for the right person and worry about the rest later. You dont want a relationship with a title, you want a relationship with a person who is interested in having that title. And like others have said, if online doesnt work for you, move to realtime meetings. Face to face tends to kickstart the chemistry a bit faster than email. DV

Padriag -> RE: Why (2/23/2008 6:57:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThornTheEternal Why is it so difficult to find that one sub/slave that you look for? Because you don't enjoy the search.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Why (2/23/2008 7:39:59 AM)
because (a) that perfect submissive/slave doesn't fall from the sky and into your lap and/or (b) CollarMe has yet to feature their own Dom/Master-submissive/slave match finder take your pick - they're both good reasons

KnightofMists -> RE: Why (2/23/2008 7:54:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThornTheEternal Why is it so difficult to find that one sub/slave that you look for? ONE???!!!!!! Hell Try looking for TWO!!!!!

LadyHathor -> RE: Why (2/23/2008 9:38:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SilentTigresss Better being alone than poorly accompanied *I could not have said that better!*

CuriousLord -> RE: Why (2/23/2008 11:59:10 AM)
Oh, man! You've been searching for *THREE YEARS?!?!* and haven't found someone yet? Game over, man! That's it. Pack it up and throw in the towel. It's time to go gay and find that man of your dreams. Meh. I think it's just something you have to think about.. what you actually want, how to find it, what it'll look like, and how to take it. Or you could go with the more popular bit of just trying your luck with random people who look like they might work and hoping for the best.

SailingBum -> RE: Why (2/23/2008 12:05:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CuriousLord Oh, man! You've been searching for *THREE YEARS?!?!* and haven't found someone yet? Game over, man! That's it. Pack it up and throw in the towel. It's time to go gay and find that man of your dreams. Meh. I think it's just something you have to think about.. what you actually want, how to find it, what it'll look like, and how to take it. Or you could go with the more popular bit of just trying your luck with random people who look like they might work and hoping for the best. I had to really laff at that line.... I have actually heard that line before from someone bemoaning the fact that they couldn't find anyone. So I think to myself if the straight world doesn't want you... Why in the world would you think the gays want you. I call it pretzel logic ...all twisted n stuff BadOne

SirJohnMandevill -> RE: Why (2/23/2008 6:28:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThornTheEternal Why is it so difficult to find that one sub/slave that you look for? I'll echo the others who have said don't look so hard. The esteemed asteroid-hunting astronomer Elinor Helin once said about the possibility of an asteroid hitting Earth, "It's the one that sneaks around from behind the Sun that'll get us." *Same thing with the "One." He/she will probably just sneak right up on you and WHAM...you'll never know what hit you! [:)]* Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)

HerLord -> RE: Why (2/23/2008 10:59:11 PM)
Simple answer is in the OP. There is only the ONE.

katie978 -> RE: Why (2/24/2008 12:05:48 AM)
Perhaps it's because you doms are the ones with the white horses and the shining armor? And all those poor subs are just sitting in their magical towers waiting for "the one"? I mean...all we have to do it wait, sometimes kiss a few frogs. You guys and girls've gotta do all the searching and dragon-slaying and... Oh, wait! There is no "the one". I remember now. Good things are worth waiting for. Also, the more refined the taste, the rarer the dish. Finding a good woman, not easy. Find a good submissive woman? Much harder.

Leatherist -> RE: Why (2/24/2008 12:12:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: katie978 Perhaps it's because you doms are the ones with the white horses and the shining armor? And all those poor subs are just sitting in their magical towers waiting for "the one"? I mean...all we have to do it wait, sometimes kiss a few frogs. You guys and girls've gotta do all the searching and dragon-slaying and... Oh, wait! There is no "the one". I remember now. Good things are worth waiting for. Also, the more refined the taste, the rarer the dish. Finding a good woman, not easy. Find a good submissive woman? Much harder. Or in many cases, a sane one. Otherwise,why would they have this idea that they are sitting in towers and smooching toads? Sounds kinda "padded room" to me.[:D]

blacksword404 -> RE: Why (2/24/2008 2:44:40 AM)
You are asking eternal questions of people who have not yet put enough time in.

RR37P229 -> RE: Why (2/24/2008 6:45:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThornTheEternal Why is it so difficult to find that one sub/slave that you look for? I'm sure there are a lot of subs and slaves who are asking the same question. I definatly think it's easier to find "the one" now that we have the internet to help us search. It still takes time though. Keep looking but instead of looking for your soulmate, look for friends and like-minded people. That's when she'll appear, when you least expect it. In the meantime you'll be having fun and learning new things.

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