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RE: That Time - 9/23/2005 9:20:57 PM

DaveDe

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Does your period bother you? If it was physically or emotionally challenging to you then I'd adjust a little. I can give you some space for a week on the physical front. I'd still expect you to be respectful outside the bedroom, etc, no matter what time of the month it is.. If it's not a serious issue to you, then, a period never bothered me, that's why god gave us hot showers and dark towels...Its been my experience that some women are at their peak of interest during their period! I would appreciate hearing about it in advance though, so we can have things ready. I prefer no surprises in other aspects of the relationship, and expect the same during your period and the ramp up to it...

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RE: That Time - 9/23/2005 10:02:44 PM

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Seems like this is one of those things where "communication" is the key point. Taking a pill would be absolutely lovely (and one that decreased or eliminated my period heaven), however, I cannot take any of them. Talk about an emotional rollercoaster! A fly in the house would bring on uncontrollable tears! Key phrase there is "uncontollable".

PMS, like everything in life, varies from person to person. Considering that I have never been regular, the mood swings and food cravings (I could literally eat my way out of a room filled with junk food) are the only clues I typically get that I am going to get my period soon. Having dealt with this for 30 of my 41 years of life, I tend to notice.

Like Lily, I don't know why someone would want to stay with a person who was not sensitive to their needs. Saying "be adult about it and deal with it" are not always possible solutions. On the other hand, letting your dom/master know you are coming into PMS time (I too love IronBear's diary keeping), certainly is a way of opening that communication door. Sometimes a person just needs to "vent". Like the "rants" people post here, taking some time to just rant and rave about everything and nothing (without fear of repurcussion) can completely resolve the problem. Why is it so often perceived that if you are a sub or a slave, you are not human and would never have the need to just bitch about something?

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RE: That Time - 9/23/2005 10:49:16 PM

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Why is it so often perceived that if you are a sub or a slave, you are not human and would never have the need to just bitch about something?

Because too many subs and slaves go beyond the pale and basically turn the relationship into free therapy and ALL they do is whinge and complain and expect the dom to "inspire" and make it all happy for them.

Venting is ok, but it's not allowed to the owner without specific permission. It's kept very limited, very focused. I'm not allowed to wallow in it or allow it to become a pattern. I'm expected to think of solutions and ways of coping, not dwell on the suckiness.

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RE: That Time - 9/23/2005 11:30:38 PM

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Actually Emerald that is how YOUR relationship is, not all. I know of many, and they even call themselves master and slave where permission is not needed to tell someone something that is bothering them or happening.

Further, if you paid attention, I stated very clearly that letting your master know you were coming into PMS time prefaced all else, essentially like saying "my hormones are going all wonky, and I would just like to bitch about everything in life for a few minutes". That is much different than simply becoming bitchy or turning it into "free therapy" or the opportunity to "whine and complain all the time". We are talking about a specific circumstance and how to deal with it.

Stoicism is a very wonderful thing for some, but most of us need to actually have and share our emotions with the person we love and cherish most in life.

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RE: That Time - 9/24/2005 6:36:17 PM

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I know of many, and they even call themselves master and slave where permission is not needed to tell someone something that is bothering them or happening.

I can relate to that one. I don't like to be asked questions to begin with, and to ask me if you can ask me a question compounds my frustration. Tell me something is bothering you, or what you need, and I'll then make a decision. The decision part, however, is final. Don't ask me another question, because I won't change it for anything.

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RE: That Time - 9/24/2005 10:05:54 PM

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I am a fairly new subbie and I would dearly like to ask a question of all the Dom(mes) out there. In general how do you treat your girls when they are on their menses? I'm not sure how I am hoping to be treated but I am hoping that if I get some idea of what some Masters think and how they deal with it I might have some ideas of what to expect and what to hop to find in a Master. Your guidance is greatly appreciated Sirs/ Ma'ams.

Nel

Well... Doesn't seem to bother Master in the least. According to Him, that's why they invented anal sex.

I tend to get a little emotional (ok... a LOT emotional), but other than that, He doesn't treat me any differently. Of course, over here we're dealing with perimenopause, too, so it, and I, have become really unpredictable.

Denise
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RE: That Time - 9/24/2005 11:04:44 PM

Hallittlelolita

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it dosent bother my Master at all and i usually service him by giving head during this time

Sincerely andie and her Master Hal

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RE: That Time - 9/25/2005 4:25:58 AM

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**To others I don't have my cycles anymore (menopause yah know) but I still tend to get cranky etc....along with the hot flashes and night sweats (ewww) its a bitch....so to speak...LOL

my 2 cents
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I just have to point out how highly ironic that is given your screen name.

Yes.....its my way of getting something of what I am missing....LOL

Pamela

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