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Maybe? - 3/2/2008 1:29:28 PM

NorthernBoy413

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I think I may be a switch but I have no experience to prove it. How does one meet a lady to switch with?

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RE: Maybe? - 3/2/2008 10:58:30 PM

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The same way you meet a lady to top or bottom to. You can search for switches and hope to make a connection or you can try to find two ladies, one domme, and one sub who can each fulfill part of your fantasies.

Personally, I started off by subbing for years. Over time I met a friend who just "screamed" sub. Slowly we began to play, often with the encouragement of my Mistress. Now I'm a switch, but have not found one lady who I play both roles with. Have been looking, but no luck....yet.

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RE: Maybe? - 3/3/2008 11:44:09 AM

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Diffucultly.... But be honest, and open about what you are, and what you want. Nine times out of ten, it means you won't get the girl, but better getting something under no false pre tense.

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RE: Maybe? - 3/5/2008 6:29:04 PM

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Dmon makes a valid point.

You wouldn't want to go out and find a female who thinks you're a full on Dom, when you can have Sub tendencies, it would just end up a mess as expectations began to fly. So I agree, just be yourself, as it's better to get a female who understands you, and what you are.

As for finding a way to prove it...I wouldn't go out and do this with just any female. Personally, it could be very humliating if you asked to experiment the roles, and all she were to do is laugh at you. So I'd take it slowly and learn to trust someone, and perhaps probe some questions here and there to see if they'd be willing to assist you...but then again, you are the one who must make the decision which route of action you will take.

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RE: Maybe? - 3/5/2008 7:48:25 PM

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What do you fantasize about? Do you fantasize more about being a Dom or a sub? Would you be more comfortable acting out one or the other?

Other than those questions, everyone else beat me to the punch. Just go out there, be yourself, and experiment!

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RE: Maybe? - 3/6/2008 10:21:32 AM

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What works for me may not for you...

At one point I got sick of internet meeting and moved to a city where a scene/groups existed...

Thats helped alot and was alot cheaper than flyin` united!

Good luck...

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RE: Maybe? - 3/6/2008 11:05:19 AM

Dmon

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I think maybe you are a bit worried about "proving" you are a switch. My best advice in this, is that you really have nothing to prove to anyone except yourself. If you want to try switching, then try it. (Use what wisdom you find in this thread, and other places to guide you there) Then made the decision for yourself. Do you like being a Sub? Do you like being a Dom? Do you like being both? It all get's very mixed up.. You might be sub to one, yet Dom to another. Or ever Switch to one and Dom to another. It's really all about the realtionship you have with that person, and how much you live the lifestyle. (personally I'm mostly vannilla to Dommes, subs, and Switches. Which ofcourse makes my situation even more confusing.)

The only thing you need to find out is if you like both the Top and the bottom roles, in S & M. If so... your a switch. Doesn't really matter if it's specific people, eviorment, or even time of the day, to decided which role you take up. If you enjoy both, then you enjoy switching.

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