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How to phrase this request to a Domina? - 3/2/2008 9:50:31 PM

madshysoul

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Evening,

Have a situation that I'm trying to figure out the appropriate and respectful way to address, but I'm coming up a bit short, so I thought I would ask here to see how others would like to be treated.

I am a submissive, currently in a relationship with my Top. One of the things that he has mentioned enjoying is a theraputic flogging. I would like to be able to share that experience with him (and he has expressed the same wish.), however I have no experience on that end of a flogger. He has also expressed admiration of the flogging style of a Domina who is well-known in our local community.

What I am trying to figure out (and thus asking for advice on) is an appropriate and respectful way to approach the Lady in question to ask if she ever teaches. I know her well enough to chat casually at a play party, but we've never really spoken about kink-related things.

Any advice?

Thank you in advance.

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RE: How to phrase this request to a Domina? - 3/2/2008 9:58:00 PM

DiurnalVampire

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If you know her casually, just ask her. Say that your Sir has expressed an interest, and since you respect her abilities you would like to know if she would consider helping you learn something to please him. It isnt as if you are asking her something that can be misconstrued. It is a very straight forward, easy request. And her answer will either be yes, or no. No muss no fuss and if she says no, you might want to ask her if she has any idea who you could learn from, since you do wish to get some idea of what to do for his sake.

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RE: How to phrase this request to a Domina? - 3/2/2008 10:02:04 PM

LadyRainfire

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How about a simple compliment like "You have a great style with the flogger, ever showed someone else how to use it?" Nothing too serious, casual but honest. I would make it a point of being too the point and not gush. And if you're too uncomfortable to ask, maybe introduce your Top to the Domina and see if she'll talk with him?

Good luck!

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RE: How to phrase this request to a Domina? - 3/3/2008 2:32:27 AM

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I get these requests all of the time, and I can tell you that usually, I'm honored when someone likes My style so much that they would like to learn from Me. If you've watched her play, it's a very easy conversation starter to pay her a compliment on a scene that she's done. Tell her that you admire her work and that you'd be interested in learning from her, if you could have the opportunity.

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RE: How to phrase this request to a Domina? - 3/3/2008 4:23:01 AM

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Seems to me that if she's not your Domme, you should just ask her like you'd ask anyone else. And if she is, then you should trust her, and just ask.

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