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RE: How many subs share this situation? - 7/18/2004 3:54:58 PM

fulltimeslave

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Hi Laura, I'm in the GTA and I'm a male sub who is having the same problem as you are except in reverse. I have trouble finding a Mistress who is'nt a "pro". I'm just looking for someone to serve (and maybe frendship in off hours). I would love to know someone with whom I could relate and maybe go to parties or bars with groups. Into 24/7 for holidays, know anyone who might be intrested.

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RE: How many subs share this situation? - 7/19/2004 12:16:05 AM

Sinergy

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I work this psychotic job which is basically on-call 24x7x365. I was living a life of no sleep schedule, no outside interests, coming home, perhaps sitting on the internet at whatever time I was not working (8am, 5pm, 2am, etc) and then going to sleep.

Hello,

So I am chatting with this one submissive who tells me that some other "Dom" told her "Well, if Sinergy wants to hide behind his job..."

Maybe it is just me, but I find it very unDomlike to trash other people.

Could be wrong, but there you go.

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RE: How many subs share this situation? - 7/19/2004 3:42:15 AM

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ORIGINAL: Sinergy
Maybe it is just me, but I find it very unDomlike to trash other people.

I think it has more to do with that person lacking understanding of reality than anything to do with dominance.

Unfortunately, not all of us are rich enough to be able to live a hedonistic lifestyle, without the pressure of working.

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RE: How many subs share this situation? - 7/19/2004 7:46:29 AM

January

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Not to be catty or anything, but the sub who tells you that kind of cruel gossip (it might not even be true: hearsay and all that) leaves something to be desired.

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RE: How many subs share this situation? - 7/19/2004 9:33:34 AM

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Sinergy...Your discription of life as You've experienced it reminds me of my own in a lot of ways. Sometimes i think the Internet is an unintended trap regarding this lifestyle. What i mean is, nobody's going to go out tomorrow and find a public place where they can meet others practicing BDSM. So it seems logical to look here where people can safely explore and contact others. But since it's not as simple as that, we get drawn into expending our energy here online instead of out there where there are living, breathing human beings.

The internet is what it is, anthrosub, and I have worked in cyberspace since I was in (me? hacking? pshaw!) the CSUNET back in the early 1980s. To me, it is the Singles Bar Scene of the 90s, filled with womanizers, menanizers (is that a word?), trolls, as well as the population of actual sincere people seeking relationships.

I dont meet many people from the internet. I could say that it is my job, etc., but that would only be partially true. I dislike the denoument of relationships, so I dont like starting things up when I dont see a future for us as a couple.

To me intention is the motive force, everything else is just details. If we want to be together, we will make it happen.

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RE: How many subs share this situation? - 7/31/2004 7:31:00 AM

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i see that it seems to be mostly female doms answering here. Have u ever tried looking for a male dominate or Master? Personally i feel that anything female is gross in the BDSM world and would only deal with men. i have been with my Master now 6 years. He wasn't easy to find, but find Him i did. There are many sites in which youo will find only male Masters posting and responding. These places include such sites as CompoundX.com(where i found my own), Leathermansdungeon.com, and similar sites. i would never serve or service a female since having ben married to one for 13+years as a gay man and being kick out. i just could not ever do it. Now a Man i would do anytime, anyplace and under any surcomstance. give me cock to suck with one up my ass and i would be in heaven all day long.

Try something different. Try th Male side and see what happens.

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RE: How many subs share this situation? - 8/6/2004 1:20:14 PM

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Well i never really had a problem finding Master, as i was not activly looking. I was contacting various dominants that caught my attention, and asking them if they might be interested in being friends. As time passed, I messaged one males who's postings caught my attention and later the next day he retruend my email. Three days later I meet him for lunch and we have been together ever since, and have not been handfasted.

The best that I can say is that approching any and all dominants that interest you and see what happens, friends are always good and can develope into more if the chemistry is right.

Luck to you

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