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RE: It's All About...Who? - 9/24/2005 2:48:00 AM   
RainGod


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50/50? Sorry didn't realize this thread was about vanilla relationships....


<Tosses Kevin the chocolate sprinkles> Here, Bro... this helps sometimes.... lol

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RE: It's All About...Who? - 9/24/2005 7:48:15 AM   
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She knew this but at the end of our talk she said, Oh, and I expect my boys to be completely naked when they greet me, not a stitch.

So do I have a right to say Well, this actually turns me on, wearing the briefs, or is it my own fetishes I have "train" myself to give up in order to focus more on Her? Why do I have to give up my unique turn-ons just when I'm coming out with them?Or do I?


i havent read a lick of anyone else's reply....but if you were to ask me personally?

It all about HIM and His desires become mine. Do i give up anything? Nope! ... just get better and love what He loves.

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RE: It's All About...Who? - 9/25/2005 7:44:10 AM   
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Am I not a sub if I am more turned-on being spanked with a riding crop than with an old plastic spatula and I voice that preference or "kink"?


Everybody has their likes and dislikes. Some Doms are very responsive to this while others are not. Most probably fall somewhere in between. I personally think that compatibility is the key. I don't want a service top, but I don't want someone who is on a completely different wave length either. Everyone is different however. Some people like to be forced to do things they dislike more than others. Ophelia

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RE: It's All About...Who? - 9/25/2005 10:31:41 AM   
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It's all about ME! Get it? Got it? Good!

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RE: It's All About...Who? - 9/25/2005 10:32:42 AM   
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It's all about me me me

(there, I feel much better now)

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RE: It's All About...Who? - 9/25/2005 11:17:46 AM   
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You want what is best for you and I want what is best for me, and when the plan comes together so that your me and my me are the same..............Well, isn't that special?


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RE: It's All About...Who? - 9/25/2005 11:39:02 AM   
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You want what is best for you and I want what is best for me, and when the plan comes together so that your me and my me are the same..............Well, isn't that special?


Oh, yes....very special!


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RE: It's All About...Who? - 9/25/2005 5:55:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sebastian63

Genuine question from an eager novice: Isn't it, in the end, a 50/50 deal? Meaning, in a scene, it's 50% each person's "kinks" aka turn-ons? I'm not sure how to separate my "kinks" from my desire to make Her happy. My "kinks" are the stepping stones towards the vast reserves of trust I have and long to give. Without bringing my "kinks" into play, there's nothing there for me.



This question illustrates why I divide the world into service subs and sensation subs. My sub's 50% is making sure I'm 100% happy. Which, of course, is why I spoil him rotten.

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RE: It's All About...Who? - 9/25/2005 6:00:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		I say it differently than you do but I think it is the same in the end, I will take out 100% of the garbage, you will be 100% naked (I live in minnesota which is why I will take it out) I will do 10% of the cooking (I think I am a barbeque guy) and you will do 90% and as for remote controls -- what is 1 divided by zero?


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RE: It's All About...Who? - 9/25/2005 6:19:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's not all about me, it's all about us, that's why it works.

Although, when it comes to the remote...I pick the games!

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RE: It's All About...Who? - 9/25/2005 6:26:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		i don't really understand how everything is so easily divided into these textbook definitions of "sub", "slave", "bottom" (or any other the dominant terms, for that matter)- people may fall into one category or another, but i don't think there is one simple definition to define any of them.

why question as to whether or not he is defining himself properly?

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RE: It's All About...Who? - 9/25/2005 6:31:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: petwolf22

why question as to whether or not he is defining himself properly?


petwolf,

I was talking about my personal definitions, not how the OP defined himself. When I look for a submissive, I want service oriented submissives, interested in pleasing me, not men who are primarily focused on sensation play. Just my personal preference.

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