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girl4you2 -> RE: What to do with a pouting slave? (9/23/2005 5:56:16 PM)

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ORIGINAL: nonuts4thshoney

i didn't ruin everyone elses good time. To everyone else i was just quiet and reserved. And again the reason for this is because i was sober. Again they are used to seeing me a lot crazier at the club. Again these are MY old friends. And they are my vanilla friends with the exception of 2. i didn't embarras anyone. and i did make a scene in front of anyone. i simply went outside of the club to clear my head, which i think would be the appropriate thing to do rather than to do in in front of others which i wouldn't do. i am only human and do have feelings. i would never make a scene in front of others.


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ORIGINAL: Rascalyrabbit

Has anyone ever had their slave embarrass them in public before? If so, how did you deal with it?

This was embarrassing to me that we would have to take the birthday girl home early when everyone was at the party to celebrate... This upset me more because now another person was pulled from the party and my slave was causing a scene. Not long after that we took the birthday girl home. Now I can understand why she was upset, but I dont understand the need or the behavior that she displayed.

So, now I'm scared that my slave might do something like this again, and I'm wondering if a punishment is in store, or if I should just sit down and talk to her about this. If there is one thing I dislike, its a pouting slave, and it seems that the last week or so thats all she does is pout about things. Any advise?


apparantly someone, your owner, was embarassed. that is what you might wish to reflect upon. in fact, this bothered your master enough to come to a public forum and ask for advice.
additionally, both your master and the birthday girl evidently had their good time cut short. again, reflection might be something to consider.
<edited for gender oopsies; my apologies>



girl4you2 -> RE: What to do with a pouting slave? (9/23/2005 5:57:48 PM)


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ORIGINAL: fastlane

Next time find a designated slave....and you drive!


i just have to laugh at this one; i'm home not feeling that well (can you tell from all my posts?) and this really made me smile. thank you.



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: What to do with a pouting slave? (9/23/2005 5:58:19 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SirFire4Her

Hello I was the birthday girl there and I witnessed this whole thing. RascalyRabbit did talk to her slave about why she did this and why she felt left out..She is just looking for a punishment for her slave now....any sugestions..I rellay like the leaveing her at home and restraining her.

My guess is that she still doesn't have the REAL background of the issue, that there are a lot of things under the surface that aren't coming out and will take lots of soul searching to dig up.

I don't suggest restraining if leaving unattended for long periods, and I think if the dominant is just looking for punishment ideas then she isn't focused on the real issues going on here.



SirFire4Her -> RE: What to do with a pouting slave? (9/23/2005 6:02:20 PM)

I do agree they need to talk..



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: What to do with a pouting slave? (9/23/2005 6:02:29 PM)


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ORIGINAL: nonuts4thshoney
i went from being a single party animal to finding the love of my life and will be trying to concieve next month. i am a better person now. i meant no harm. and i meant no disrespect.

As my ex-master told me and as I tell one of my boys- sometimes intentions mean squat.

Basically you were stuck in your own melancholy and didn't know now to get yourself out of it OR control yourself enough to shut it away until an appropriate time.

These are behaviors and ways of dealing that need to be seriously addressed, a simple punishment isn't what's needed.



nonuts4thshoney -> RE: What to do with a pouting slave? (9/23/2005 6:54:04 PM)

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IronBear -> RE: What to do with a pouting slave? (9/23/2005 7:00:06 PM)

TALK TO YOUR MASTER!



RainGod -> RE: What to do with a pouting slave? (9/23/2005 7:29:20 PM)

SirFire4Her wrote:

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any sugestions..I rellay like the leaveing her at home and restraining her.


Am I understanding you correctly on this post? Are you speaking of restraining her and then leaving her at home?



RainGod -> RE: What to do with a pouting slave? (9/23/2005 7:35:25 PM)

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ORIGINAL: nonuts4thshoney

i definititly didn't mean any disrespect but now i don't know how to fix what i have done.


My advice would be: To fix it, Don't do it again...ever. Talk with your Master.

I want to say this also... The thing I admire in a submissive or a slave most is when one would rather endure any punishment whatsoever, but to cause Me disappointment hurts them worse than anything.



IronBear -> RE: What to do with a pouting slave? (9/23/2005 7:38:41 PM)


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ORIGINAL: RainGod

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ORIGINAL: nonuts4thshoney

i definititly didn't mean any disrespect but now i don't know how to fix what i have done.


My advice would be: To fix it, Don't do it again...ever. Talk with your Master.

I want to say this also... The thing I admire in a submissive or a slave most is when one would rather endure any punishment whatsoever, but to cause Me disappointment hurts them worse than anything.


I concur



Evanesce -> RE: What to do with a pouting slave? (9/23/2005 7:42:44 PM)


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ORIGINAL: nonuts4thshoney

i definititly didn't mean any disrespect but now i don't know how to fix what i have done.
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A sincere apology to your Master AND the birthday girl, followed by a demonstrated desire to change whatever it was that caused you to behave as you did, would be a good start.

You were certainly entitled to feel what you were feeling. However, your choice to allow those feelings to ruin not only YOUR evening, but that of your Master AND the birthday girl, demonstrated a selfishness that is not attractive in anyone, let alone a submissive or slave. The birthday girl had to leave her own party because YOU were feeling melancholy? Sorry, but that's simply bad form all the way around.



nonuts4thshoney -> RE: What to do with a pouting slave? (9/23/2005 7:43:10 PM)

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girl4you2 -> RE: What to do with a pouting slave? (9/23/2005 7:48:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: IronBear

quote:

ORIGINAL: RainGod

The thing I admire in a submissive or a slave most is when one would rather endure any punishment whatsoever, but to cause Me disappointment hurts them worse than anything.


I concur


from my (submissive) perspective, the most agonizing thing that i can imagine, or have been through, is the devastating knowledge that i have in some way (no matter how small) disappointed my dominant/master. i understand the concept of the punishment as helping to make this better, but i punish myself far more than he could. thankfully it's not something i've had to go through very often.



nonuts4thshoney -> RE: What to do with a pouting slave? (9/23/2005 7:52:27 PM)

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EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: What to do with a pouting slave? (9/23/2005 7:59:53 PM)

I agree with the others, at this point it's just too complicated and personal of an issue and shouldn't be used for online fodder. In fact, it probably always WAS too complicated and personal of an issue and should never have been put out to begin with.

Go talk to eachother.



Evanesce -> RE: What to do with a pouting slave? (9/23/2005 8:01:15 PM)


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ORIGINAL: nonuts4thshoney


We did not leave early because of me. She wanted to leave because of another issue that night that had nothing to do with me. The club closed at 2pm and we were there from 9 pm till 1pm. The party was not cut short because of me in any way. There is alot of confusion on this. In fact the birthday girl stated that she wanted to leave much earlier because of that other issue. It had nothing to do with me and She has even stated to me that i did not ruin Her evening. Am i not to have any feelings? Was stepping outside not a good way to gather myself and get my hidden emotions under control? Also i was not pouting IN ANY WAY during this party. i was simply being calm and quiet. i mingled with everyone with no pouting whatsoever. My quietness is being confused for pouting. I am still very confused by all of this.



Then you need to sit down and have a long talk with your Master, because it's obvious her perception of what transpired that night and yours are at opposite ends of the spectrum. The longer the two of you let it go, the more time this wound has to fester. You need to work it out.



imtempting -> RE: What to do with a pouting slave? (9/23/2005 8:07:50 PM)

I disagree to the trend of most people and think your master needs to talk to you about this and the changes in your life and if your truly are wanting to change everything in your life or still have some say in what happens.

Punishment for this I think would be stupid as its a pure mental thing .

I hope this is still relevant when approved...



RandBcouple -> RE: What to do with a pouting slave? (9/23/2005 8:39:57 PM)

IMHO, you were extremely soft on her. You fed into her attention seeking b/s. She knows she can get away with this sort of thing, if not she wouldn't dare do it.

~Babygirl



nonuts4thshoney -> RE: What to do with a pouting slave? (9/23/2005 8:45:03 PM)

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RandBcouple -> RE: What to do with a pouting slave? (9/23/2005 9:03:00 PM)

nonuts4thshoney,

i was giving my opinion as per the original post. obviously, i was not there, i do not know you....just going by the first post. The impression i got, from that first post, was that you were pouting, upset because you weren't getting attention, or because you couldn't drink, or whatever the reason may be, and you dom felt embaressed by your reaction, by the fact that the people had to console you and try to convince you into going back into the club. We all have our moments where we act like brats, or behave childish, but after the fact you should acknowledge, beg forgiveness, take your punishment, and learn from your mistake.

Best of luck

~Babygirl



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