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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/9/2008 7:39:11 AM

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If I have such a radar, it is in a constant state of disrepair. What I do seem to have is an overabundance of wishful thinking. Any fellow who I find at all attractive seems like a sub to me.

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/9/2008 7:43:43 AM

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My all-time favourite was going on vacation to Hawai'i with a male gay friend. There was a nice-looking blond on the other side of the beach, and my friend noticed him moving his towel nearer and nearer to ours as the day went on. My narcissist friend was sure the blond was 'into him', I just smiled.
The next time I went in the water, I held the gaze of the blond and he followed me in.
As the sun went down, the blond Brit carried my things back to the hotel, and 'happened' to mention although an architect by day, he made 'chain and leather goods' at night, begged to create a costume for me, and wished he'd brought his own hand-crafted saddle so I could ride him.
Later that night, ;-) I didn't need the saddle! Have strap-on, will travel: roughrider condoms + sub Brit ass = Boo ya!

The blond knew who am I, I knew what the blond was, and my gay friend has no BDSM-dar.

Nice one!!!

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/9/2008 9:48:26 AM

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In my experience, people can hardly ever guess what anyone is into. Sometimes people make an assumption and it turns out to be correct but usually its very hit and miss. Probably much more frequently than not, those assumptions go untested or are proven wrong.

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/9/2008 9:58:56 AM

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If I have such a radar, it is in a constant state of disrepair. What I do seem to have is an overabundance of wishful thinking. Any fellow who I find at all attractive seems like a sub to me.

Right. Ya always hope the girl about campus with the lovely green eyes and combat boots is a Domme...or at least doesn't have a boyfriend.

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/10/2008 6:12:02 AM

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I can't just randomly guess if someone is into a specific kink or not, but I can almost always tell whether a man will be submissive to me or not within the first few moments. After that, in getting to know them I can figure out their actual orientation relatively quickly, and the kinks as we develop a relationship - but I don't usually bother with that last part unless I want to own them, really.

I had to qualify though, because some men confuse my sub-dar as you call it, due to their reaction to me.

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/10/2008 12:00:30 PM

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I seem to have "me-dar" - an sense for men who are attracted to me. Which is a good thing, considering the fact that most men to whom I'm attracted are quite a different age and usually a different race, than I, and therefore, it is harder to tell if they might be attracted to me, because I'm not in their average "dating pool."

Even though in my conscious mind I might never guess I'd be a certain man's "type," and might find it very unlikely he'd be attracted to me, nevertheless I have found that my persistent attraction to him almost always indicates that he is drawn to me, too.

- and, sometimes I'm not a man's normal type, and am the only woman he's ever been attracted to who's anything like me.

But is this "sub-dar"? Not quite. But it is likely to indicate a man who would like being submissive, to some extent, in some sense, to me.

Men who are drawn to me typically have a sense for the BDSM dynamic. They may be alpha personalities, and almost all the men who have been submissive to me have been dominant to other partners, previously. But even the submissive personalities who find chemistry with me usually have a strong personality and a strong sense of what they want (including the desire for me and/or the desire to submit), and this I find very favourable.

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/10/2008 12:01:25 PM

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you get vibes and aura's from ppl.

i can tell a bie girl pretty instantly and I have never been wrong (thank god ...always worry about offending someone lol)
as for submissive minded ppl or dominant, you can tell. as for how far they go with it...ehh might not get specifics but you can tell.

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/10/2008 12:02:29 PM

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Interestingly, I can quickly figure out when male dominants email me that they are really subs in dom's clothing by how they speak to me.

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/10/2008 12:24:13 PM

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a lot of them do it. scared lil boys hiding behind a Dom profile and usually they are the sluttiest ones lol.

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RE: Can Women recognize a submissive male by sight? - 3/10/2008 12:35:51 PM

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I'll also say, responding to remarks about typical behaviour of submissive or want-to-be submissive people, that it's just not that straightforward as submissive = meek, quiet, courteous, and (grr) feminine, and dominant = brash, loud, selfish, and (ahem) masculine.

I can readily think of people who contradict every one of these.

People who are thoughtful and kind and soft spoken have my admiration, no matter dominant, submissive, or neither.

Simple acts can become submissive or dominant, by their intent. I suppose it's the cues that accompany the act.

I have friends who are male dominants (yes, it's true; some of my best friends are :D) and when they open a door for me or some other nice gesture, I don't have the least illusion that they are thereby submissive.

But as some people have observed, the same act can feel submissive, coming from someone who is performing it with that attitude.

And as I have a thing for a relaxed, soft, intimate tone of voice, I hope to encourage anyone who will, to use their voice this way.

It's just sexy. Dominant, submissive, or other.

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