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Children of Dom's and sub's joining this life style? - 3/8/2008 3:33:37 PM

SeaDogret

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Had a discussion with an experience sub not long go, about how one would feel having their daughters or sons joining this life style, being a father am rather protecive of my daughter, wondered how one would feel having daughter or sons in collar or other sites. Her reply was to effect she wouldn't be pleased but if the kid was an adult so be it. Thoughts one and all?

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RE: Children of Dom's and sub's joining this life style? - 3/8/2008 3:45:27 PM

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It is not for me to decide their orientation. All I can do is my best to teach them how to make the right choices for themselves.

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RE: Children of Dom's and sub's joining this life style? - 3/8/2008 3:51:11 PM

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At 18? I would want her to first try ordinary relationships and learn the difficult skills necessary to handle one well before adding on another layer of complexity.

I'm talking about power here, not play/sex.

Plus I don't think most 18 year olds own their own power, or enough of it to hand it over to someone else, or be good enough to handle someone else's.

Additionally, I cannot abide rudeness so if some 18 year old socalled master strolled into my house calling out, hurry up bitch, he'd be escorted off the premises at the end of my shotgun. And unfortunately tact and not shoving your sexuality in everyone else's face doesn't seem to be first and foremost in the minds of the barely legals. Some skills take time in life to acquire. You can't control someone else's finances if you're always griping about Mommy not raising your allowance.

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RE: Children of Dom's and sub's joining this life style? - 3/8/2008 4:07:12 PM

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I agree with DesFIP on this.

My um's did not grow up in an open household in the lifestyle, but mom was dominant, clearly. Sex was talked about, but in a vanilla sense.

As adults... I have one daughter who is dominant but not in her own power of it or responsible as a result of being submissive to a punk. She will one day come into her own, I am sure.

My one son was submissive, but is now brain damaged.

My other son... lol is also submissive... gee, did I do that? lol... and is in the lifestyle to some degree, becoming more open after I first started discussing it.

As adults and fully functional adults... I have no problems with non abusive relationships in the lifestyle. Why would I? I live it! What is good and right for me... ought to be good and right for them if they are emotionally healthy and living free and fulfilled. I see no problem unless there is some amount of unprepared or unhealthy.

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