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PanthersMom -> RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress (3/9/2008 10:56:14 PM)
did it with the ex hubby for many yrs, tried to be accepting of his kink because i thought that's what a good wife did. he did not feel the same way when it came to my kink. i'm better off without him, much happier. besides which, his taste in dresses was atrocious! PM

MollHackabout -> RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress (3/9/2008 11:48:02 PM)
If crossdressing is about the appreciation of feminine aesthetics for the sub, then yes, I enjoy it. If it's about humiliation, then no. I find the latter scenario intensely problematic. Why should femininity be degrading?

MasterFireMaam -> RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress (3/10/2008 1:12:05 AM)
It depends on why it's being done. If it's a form of self expression and not the center of the relationship, it works for me. If it's being done as sissification or what the sub/slave as all about, I'm not much interested. In other words, service focused slaves and submissives who cross dress are a go...those who have it as an all-consuming kink and they're not interested in service...I'll pass. Master Fire

MissMorrigan -> RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress (3/10/2008 2:01:00 AM)
I am someone who finds it VERY hot. For me though, its not about feminising as such, as I am into contrasts - I like taking a bit of 'rough' and exposing him to the wonders of feminine attire and giving him the opportunity of these experiences which normally is restricted to females. Who can resist the feel of satin, lace, silks against their skin? Every single male that has served me came originally with the attitude, "I'm not doing that!" and each will be a life-long crossdresser as a result. I have had great hulking men dress in sexy lingerie and feel liberated, unlocking emotions they never knew existed. They got over the initial awkwardness and embarrassment at 'feeling like a girl', and once they were reassured that it had nothing whatsoever to do with feminising them they relaxed to the point they could appreciate the feel of it against their skin - a form of sensory play. With my own boy, however, he is feminised and feels a sexiness he never experienced until he started crossdressing. It's helped bring out the inner slut [;)]

chezzy52 -> RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress (3/10/2008 2:18:27 AM)
See this is the result of running out ideas so many years ago as to what to wear for Haloween.Mom's dress and pumps will do nicely..of course i was 10 at the time..who knew that i would even think about it all these years later..not a priority mind you but so manyDominas enjoy it..don't really know what i would say though if it was on the negotiating table.

rubberpet -> RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress (3/10/2008 6:47:00 AM)
Crossdressing isn't for me and, most importantly, isn't for Mistress.

Lashra -> RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress (3/10/2008 12:46:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MollHackabout If crossdressing is about the appreciation of feminine aesthetics for the sub, then yes, I enjoy it. If it's about humiliation, then no. I find the latter scenario intensely problematic. Why should femininity be degrading? This is how I feel about crossdressing as well. My sub crossdresses because it makes him feel BEAUTIFUL and free. He has often said men are not as free as they would want us to believe, they have a very small box to work within whereas women can do so much more. In no way does he look at dressing fem as making him a "slut" or a "whore" if he did I would not allow it. ~Lashra

KindLadyGrey -> RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress (3/10/2008 3:30:50 PM)
(FR) I love crossdressing. I can totally rock a suit and tie. Oh wait, I don't think that's what the OP meant ;)

Politesub53 -> RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress (3/10/2008 5:01:59 PM)
ive never tried it but the plus side is i could own 350 pairs of shoes and not just the 5 !

Reigna -> RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress (3/10/2008 8:02:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Politesub53 ive never tried it but the plus side is i could own 350 pairs of shoes and not just the 5 ! Yeah, the shoes thing. My crossie totally gets why I need 89 pairs of shoes.

petdave -> RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress (3/10/2008 8:21:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Politesub53 ive never tried it but the plus side is i could own 350 pairs of shoes and not just the 5 ! Just be careful... if your Mistress finds out that you have more shoes than She does, you've got some bad times a'comin! [:-]

MaamJay -> RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress (3/11/2008 3:52:26 AM)
I'm no longer interested in having a crossdresser as a sub/slave. Been there, done that, got the emotional scars to prove it. That said, there is a HUGE difference between someone who started crossdressing on his own, and does it for his own gratification, and someone who has never done it before but obeys Mistress in the interest of another sensory experience. The latter I could have fun with, the former ... no. When it's all about him, his kink, his panties, his stockings, his shoes (more pairs than I have!), when he changes shoes in the car multiple times on a simple short shopping trip, when it takes him longer than Me to dress for a play party and I've had to polish his nails, and lend him My jewellery and give My opinion on which shoes go best with this skirt, in short, when it's all about his vanity ... NO! And oh, one of the sweetest sounds since Master and I have moved away is the sound of silence ... no more clippety clop clippety clop of his damned heels throughout the house! I'd really not realised how totally annoying that had become. Yes I could tease a man and have him wear My panties (that's fun) or have him wear something soft and sexy every now and then ... raking My nails over his bulge in the satin and lace ... yes, that's fun. But that's as far as I want to go with crossdressing. And while I think there is a very broad continuum from CD to TS ... I don't really want to go in there again. I have nothing against TS people particularly, I think it takes immense courage to take that path, and I am quite happy to be friends, I don't want to be their Domme, they just don't suit My headspace. Maam Jay aka violet[A]

BlackSakura -> RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress (3/14/2008 1:59:20 PM)
Transvestism and crossdressing are not synonymous. transvestism is an outdated term the simply refers to someone wearing the opposite gender's clothes. Crossdressing refers to someone who gets sexual gratification from wearing the opposite gender's clothes. In my opinion, you should treat a TG/TS sub as both a man and women.

chiaThePet -> RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress (3/14/2008 3:42:07 PM)
So I've gotta be cross to dress now? Damn these rules and regulations. Whoops, well that oughta be worth a garter and a nylon. Look at me, I'm a fancy boy. chia* (the pet)

Shawn1066 -> RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress (3/14/2008 3:46:49 PM)
Crossdressing is fine. Obession over it is not. Replace "Crossdressing" with any other fetish...and that's my opinion of it. That being said, I do enjoy crossdressing when it pleases my Owner...but it is by no means essiential to entering a more feminine headspace. I'm there a lot of the time anyway. :-p That being said, I do not believe that crossdressing is submissive or humiliating. That'd just be sexist. DV's Fox

MistressRouge -> RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress (3/14/2008 3:48:30 PM)
A big YES from me :) Love all feminisation, ranging from underwear/stockings, to full TV : clothing, wigs, full make-over/transformation. Maid training, ettiquette training, the whole shibang! [:)]

Pyrrsefanie -> RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress (3/14/2008 4:03:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rdilgart Just curious How many Mistress/Domme's prefer crossdressing, as apposed to not.. The guy's got to be able to pull it off. I'm pretty handy with hair and makeup so I've only found a handful of real "challenges" as far as bringing out that feminine quality in a man, but there are a few that just don't look good in a dress. But I love it. I love having a slave who trusts me enough to show me that vulnerable side of him, when he sheds his masculinity and steps into a new pair of shoes (literally and figuratively). Is there an aspect of humiliation when looking at it as me stripping his manhood away? For me, yes, there is a little. The trust and vulnerability outweighs that by far with me, though. When he's standing there all dolled up, head bowed, waiting for me to tell him what to do next, I feel this overwhelming sense of love and a duty to protect that sweet, vulnerable little slave boy of mine. At that moment he is the most beautiful little slut I have ever seen, and all I can think about is how he is mine to take however I wish. I know, I'm so sappy you could probably shove a spigot into me and get fresh maple syrup.... wow, I did not intend that to sound so kinky... heehee... [8D]

flaleatherslave -> RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress (3/15/2008 12:39:08 PM)
I don't have any tendencys to crossdress, however most of the Dommes I've attended have ordered me to to some degree.

DaintyDemure -> RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress (3/16/2008 12:00:56 AM)
My Lady had some very bad experiences with men in past relationships and pretty much gave up on men completely. To be with her I had to become the exact opposite to what they were so she wouldnt feel threatened or intimidated by my presense. Body hair, male underwear, even mens cologne or aftershave can bring back bad memories for her. At home I am kept as her little girl. This is what she likes as my name she gave me suggests. Dresses and pantyhose and the smell of baby powder is how I am at home.

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