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RE: honorary title for public - 3/13/2008 6:43:44 PM   
SirJohnMandevill


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Status: offline 		I prefer that the submissive I'm courting use my perfectly servicable name (or one of the many endearments she uses) any time other than when we're scening. Then it's "Sir." If we ever go to a club, I'd expect her also to use Sir.
 
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RE: honorary title for public - 3/13/2008 7:40:54 PM   
SaraZeal


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Status: offline 		I think the honorrific -sama captures the  Master significance in how it is said.

Like Karl-sama, for example.

It is from Japanese, by the way. People would probably think -sama is a last name, an endearing term, or would not think twice about it, it also doesn't sound silly.

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RE: honorary title for public - 3/13/2008 7:56:32 PM   
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It's not the word, it's the connection.  I also think she's being too self centered and conceited to think most anyone will really care.  Sir is still de riguer in a lot of places and no one would give a second glance about.  There's also Captain, Sergeant, Monsieur, General, Czar, Great One and so many other terms for someone in authority that no one would care about.

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RE: honorary title for public - 3/13/2008 10:23:40 PM   
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Ahh, ya doesn't has to call me Johnson! You can call me Ray, or you can call me Jay, or you can call me Johnny or you can call me Sonny, or you can call me RayJay, or you can call me RJ... but ya doesn't hafta call me Johnson!

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RE: honorary title for public - 3/14/2008 1:08:31 PM   
Shammon5


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Status: offline 		I agree with the suggestion to use other languages (it's suave and no one knows what you mean! ^_~). I call my master Sama, the Japanese honorific for master/lord, in public and private. Most people think it's a pet name and don't really pat much attention. The only place we avoid using it is in our Japanese language class at school, since our teacher would definately give us strange looks. :-)

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RE: honorary title for public - 3/14/2008 1:57:02 PM   
Focus50


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ORIGINAL: Hauptmann

Just a quick question. My little one has no problems calling me Master etc in private, but outdoors in public she feels that it puts her in too much of an open position for something that really is quite a private arrangement. Likewise Sir, Papa, Lord. It just doesn't feel all that sexy to feel silly, and she would.

Humiliated, yes. subservient, yes, silly no. (and this is not a comment on those who use those terms in public, it just doesn't feel right for us).

I was wondering, does anyone have a suggestion I could use, perhaps from your own experience?
Maybe there is a foreign language word that would mean the same but wouldn't open her to ridicule?

Sorry if this is a silly question!

In public is the *only* time I allow my girl to use my name - is that not A), significant to her and our private dynamic yet B), highly unlikely to draw undue outside attention?
 
"Public" is defined as the presence of a 3rd party, so 'public' can still be in our own lounge room with a visitor or children about etc just as "private" can be in the middle of a restaurant.
 
But this is clearly about YOU...!  You seriously have some need to be addressed as "Sir, Papa, Lord" etc in front of others?  I suspect you have some self-esteem issues to work on *yourself* rather than having your girl try to alleviate them for you.
 
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RE: honorary title for public - 3/14/2008 2:29:38 PM   
SteelofUtah


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I think it is cute.

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RE: honorary title for public - 3/18/2008 5:48:46 AM   
Hauptmann


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In public is the *only* time I allow my girl to use my name - is that not A), significant to her and our private dynamic yet B), highly unlikely to draw undue outside attention?
 
"Public" is defined as the presence of a 3rd party, so 'public' can still be in our own lounge room with a visitor or children about etc just as "private" can be in the middle of a restaurant.
 
But this is clearly about YOU...!  You seriously have some need to be addressed as "Sir, Papa, Lord" etc in front of others?  I suspect you have some self-esteem issues to work on *yourself* rather than having your girl try to alleviate them for you.
 
Focus.


What a dumb thing to say. Don't bother to suspect anything! She has already kids, and the last thing I want is them growing up thinking her mother is a freak. Nothing about self esteem at all!

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RE: honorary title for public - 3/18/2008 8:41:52 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		In public I've been known to go Yes Sir, right away Sir. Or aye, aye Captain. I find that if there's a little hint of irony people tend to respond to that and not the word. 70% of communication is nonverbal. She could also just salute if you tell her to do something.

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RE: honorary title for public - 3/18/2008 8:52:49 AM   
LilMissHaven


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Status: offline 		I had always called J ... nooxue'i'hii na ... Arapaho for Master.
Whether alone or in mixed company...those who asked were told it was a term of endearment.

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RE: honorary title for public - 3/18/2008 9:01:01 AM   
Mercnbeth


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I was wondering, does anyone have a suggestion I could use, perhaps from your own experience?


here's a suggestion from experience:
 
stop giving a crap about what everbody else in the world thinks about what you call each other in public.
 
it can be quite liberating.

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RE: honorary title for public - 3/18/2008 11:07:31 AM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		Your name? Sweetie? Honey? Love-muffin? Pooky-Bear?

Those are along the lines of what we use, though I'll still call him Sir if the moment fits.

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