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sub/sub and Dom/me couples - 3/18/2008 11:03:17 PM   
chaosforge


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Status: offline 		i am a curious thing, but i must word this just right or i might ask something i don't mean to;

okay, as i am curious and i go peeking about on CM, i notice couples that are either both sub, or both Dom/me. how does this work? please understand that i am not saying "it can't". i'm not saying that at all. i'm simply trying to find out just how it does work.       

just wondering- just phoenix

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RE: sub/sub and Dom/me couples - 3/18/2008 11:12:33 PM   
SteelofUtah


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Status: offline 		I wanna know too.

I seen one once and it seems both were living two very different lives and just with one another when they sent the play things away.

**As the Op stated really not being Snarky I wanna know.**

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RE: sub/sub and Dom/me couples - 3/18/2008 11:19:59 PM   
chaosforge


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Status: offline 		duh! i meant to put this in general interest, not sub-urbia

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RE: sub/sub and Dom/me couples - 3/18/2008 11:23:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		Remember, folks.. outside of the BDSM (or whatever letters you wish to apply), theyre still human :) for me and mine, the third is the icing .. but we relate TO EACH OTHER as people, first and foremost..

Just my .05.. YMMV

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RE: sub/sub and Dom/me couples - 3/18/2008 11:39:36 PM   
chaosforge


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Status: offline 		::grins:: good point and thank you.
wish i felt a little more human than i do right now.
Your reply brought to mind the powerful bonds that are shared with common "interests" so the picture is now a little clearer.
-just phoenix

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RE: sub/sub and Dom/me couples - 3/19/2008 4:25:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		Most of these couples are poly. They are together as equals but have subs/slaves that serve either one or both...or serve other people.

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RE: sub/sub and Dom/me couples - 3/19/2008 9:37:14 AM   
toservez


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

Remember, folks.. outside of the BDSM (or whatever letters you wish to apply), theyre still human :) for me and mine, the third is the icing .. but we relate TO EACH OTHER as people, first and foremost..

Just my .05.. YMMV


My first owners and still close friends are a Master/Mistress couple and as GreedyTop wrote so nicely holds true. Most of our time in relationships is not about who has power but enjoying each other’s company and sharing many other compatibilities. My friends seem not to have had a problem they only have been married over thirty years.

In terms of where some of this stuff came up the only thing that was maybe not romantic version of how a loving couple is suppose to live is that on many things one was in charge and the other left them alone.


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RE: sub/sub and Dom/me couples - 3/19/2008 4:20:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		How do vanilla couples work?  Same deal.  A relationship between two people where there is NOT an authority based dynamic between them.

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RE: sub/sub and Dom/me couples - 3/19/2008 4:53:23 PM   
Evility


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Status: offline 		I've known two same D/s orientation couples - both Dom/Domme. The rest of their relationships aside... they had no bdsm relationship of their own. Kinda difficult when you are both playing for the same team. In both of those situations the couples were poly. One of them recently divorced for reasons they say had nothing to do with their D/D alignment.

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RE: sub/sub and Dom/me couples - 3/19/2008 6:26:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am looking for another dom as a companion.  I am not a switch.  How do any two people relate to one another?  They just DO, as any couple does.  Some are poly, some are not.  It works very well, really! 

Why hook up with another dom?  I am the go-to person all day, every day at work.  I don't want to have to do that every second of my life.  I want my SO to be able to just go and do stuff, and give me a heads-up on what's happening without having to check in first.  Buy a boat without me?  Not unless it's inflatable.  Pick a lawn service?  Go for it.   Submissive males, in my experience, just create more stress as life companions than I am willing to accept.  

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RE: sub/sub and Dom/me couples - 3/19/2008 7:19:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am a slave to my Master, but I am co-Dominant with Him to a female submissive who we are currently playing with.  In the relationship we have with her, He will always have top billing, but she is sub to me as well.  It is more of an alpha - beta - omega situation as it is not really poly, and not a triad, she is not my equal, and I am not my Master's equal.  (If that makes any sense.)  

It looks like this:

IntenseMaster  (A)
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Daddysredhead  (B)
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our playmate   (O)

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RE: sub/sub and Dom/me couples - 3/19/2008 7:28:55 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		It's ok that it was posted in the sub/slave section.  As you can see, there are some of us finding it anyway.

My husband and I are both on the D side of the scale.  We do happen to be poly.  The BDSM applies more to My sub and I, than what I do with My husband.  Recently, I've been thinking that a sub/sub couple would be a great way for him to get more experience as a Dominant, rather than just a Top.




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RE: sub/sub and Dom/me couples - 3/19/2008 8:41:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've known of a sub/sub couple that lasted more than twenty years. They had veto rights over each other. Which meant if either of them didn't feel secure enough for the other to look outside, then the other one didn't. It would stay like that until they felt able to re-open the relationship. In the meantime, they service topped each other. And in good times, they both had part time relationships with dominants.

They didn't argue much, they both went out of their way to do nice things for the other one. As far as major decisions they couldn't seem to make, that's when they took the advice of an expert; lawyer, accountant, therapist etc.

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RE: sub/sub and Dom/me couples - 3/19/2008 8:46:54 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		I was part of a Dom/Domme couple for about a year. We were also poly, and it went very well. I only left that because I didnt like Vegas andneither did he. He moved for work to Cali, and I moved here to Nashville.
He and I played rough, but not actually BDSM related. I had my subs while we were together, and he was looking for one for him. He enjoyed hearing about my adventures with my boys.

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